Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
You decide to marry the person as they are, debts and all.Marriage means you are an economic unit. You vowed to take care of that person through thick and thin. And they vowed to take care of you as well. Are you planning to pay for the person's expenses when they are old and need help for medical reasons (if that person has not saved enough in your 50% scheme of paying for household expenses)? Or do you let the person go unattended? Do you plan to have children and make everything 50% when it comes to their activities/education (even if one partner cannot afford to give the 50%)? Do you plan to split all the housework/child care duties exactly 50%? Or will you work as a team to make a home and life for yourselves because you have made a commitment to do that? If you are not ready to give and sacrifice for another person in order to form a family, you are not ready for marriage.
lol. This is what schemers say so they can con their spouse. This isn't $5,000 in credit card debt from undergrad, it's probably closer to $500,000.
+100. People scream about teamwork and sacrifice when they need to scam the other person. If the DH cared about being fair to his wife he wouldn’t ask this.
Sorry to turn this into a gendered issue, but it seems men have no problem asking women for the moon. Unquestionably, it is an egregious ask, and the daughter should say no. He uses his income to pay off his loans overtime as he's able, which means he's contributing less to their living expenses. Fine.
It is indisputably the husband's obligation to pay off his own student loans under the law. Student loans are separate debts. Set aside divorce because so many people get worked up over considering the possibility of divorce. What happens if he gets hit by a bus? The loans go away. The law doesn't assign them to his wife because that would be absurd. Back to a divorce, student loans are not a part of the marital estate when dividing up assets and liabilities. I get that many people here have spouses who would never run off with a hot young nurse in a million years. It won't happen to you. You are immune from bad things happening. There is zero risk that your doctor spouse gets hit by a drunk driver on the way home from work, gets a cancer diagnosis in his thirties, or falls in love with a young nurse when you are in you hit menopause. You are a marital unit, and all the risks be damned.
I can't believe this has been debated for so many pages. I love a good debate, but there is only one side to this one.