The Death of Private School As We Know It

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I assumed most people were either sending their kids to private schools for the small class size and bad local schools, or because it's just what is done in their social circle.

And when you are rich, why not? You need to spend your money on something.

At least your kids aren't getting cat food for lunch and are in amazing facilities with lots of other wealthy families.

You select a school based on lunch? My child attends a private school and the meals are nothing to brag about. Also, the building is old and new building not expected to be built for years. Not all have a fresh look. Admitting you are a leech into wealthy people is embarrassing and so desperate. You are so tacky. Private school parents do not want you in their circle.

I'm in it! Thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree! The left wing political influence on schools in my own county (Fairfax) caused our family to move all three of our children to private school. That will be the trend for anybody who can afford it.
The private schools should be sending the teachers unions and county school boards generous kickbacks, because the actions of the unions and boards are generating a ton of demand for the privates!

Unfortunately the same is now happening in the NOVA private schools. Anyone who dares challenge the curriculum is told “perhaps this isn’t the school for you.” It’s very sad when families who have been at the school for 10+ years are ostracized with an administration change. My kids are now a number at a desk, easily replaced by a kid on the waitlist. Of course all of these changes were made after deposits were due and admissions deadlines at other schools have passed.

Yes, St Anselms touts that all the teachers are open to helping its students if needed and makes promises that they simply do not keep. We have to request to see tests and it’s an act of congress to get it if it happens. Laziness and don’t want to have to make any improvements because that would be work for them. Students are rendered disposable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DEI initiatives are flavor of the month/year

Harvard/ Yale / Princeton are able to ride that out just as they did the civil war, the 1890's panic, the Great war, the '29 crash and the Vietnam / anti-establishment war

The rest is noise and it isn't making it into the Harvard club dining room

They may ride it out but they are going to take a hit. Harvard and Yale have a history of discriminating against various racial groups over the years (for example the Jewish quota, which capped the number of Jewish people in Ivy schools.) and this is just one more example and will ultimately be revealed by history.

And as somebody who is in the “Harvard Club dining room” having attended H, I find it embarrassing.

+1 . It's the death of meritocracy! Where you are admitted is largely about immutable characteristics--your sex, race, sexuality...if you are smart but the wrong race, good luck.

Yup very true

Let's just let people in because they are a "disadvantaged group and of color," but wait, Asians are white adjacent?

On balance, it as never been a meritocracy. People will continue to be admitted based on characteristics that have little to do with merit. It’s just those characteristics have changed and now favor different groups. But the rich shouldn’t worry too much. They are still rich and their kids are still starting on third.

[Anonymous]

Let's just let people in because they are a "disadvantaged group and of color," but wait, Asians are white adjacent?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DEI initiatives are flavor of the month/year

Harvard/ Yale / Princeton are able to ride that out just as they did the civil war, the 1890's panic, the Great war, the '29 crash and the Vietnam / anti-establishment war

The rest is noise and it isn't making it into the Harvard club dining room

They may ride it out but they are going to take a hit. Harvard and Yale have a history of discriminating against various racial groups over the years (for example the Jewish quota, which capped the number of Jewish people in Ivy schools.) and this is just one more example and will ultimately be revealed by history.

And as somebody who is in the “Harvard Club dining room” having attended H, I find it embarrassing.

+1 . It's the death of meritocracy! Where you are admitted is largely about immutable characteristics--your sex, race, sexuality...if you are smart but the wrong race, good luck.

Yup very true

On balance, it as never been a meritocracy. People will continue to be admitted based on characteristics that have little to do with merit. It’s just those characteristics have changed and now favor different groups. But the rich shouldn’t worry too much. They are still rich and their kids are still starting on third.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assumed most people were either sending their kids to private schools for the small class size and bad local schools, or because it's just what is done in their social circle.

And when you are rich, why not? You need to spend your money on something.

At least your kids aren't getting cat food for lunch and are in amazing facilities with lots of other wealthy families.

You select a school based on lunch? My child attends a private school and the meals are nothing to brag about. Also, the building is old and new building not expected to be built for years. Not all have a fresh look. Admitting you are a leech into wealthy people is embarrassing and so desperate. You are so tacky. Private school parents do not want you in their circle.

You selected the wrong private school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assumed most people were either sending their kids to private schools for the small class size and bad local schools, or because it's just what is done in their social circle.

And when you are rich, why not? You need to spend your money on something.

At least your kids aren't getting cat food for lunch and are in amazing facilities with lots of other wealthy families.

You select a school based on lunch? My child attends a private school and the meals are nothing to brag about. Also, the building is old and new building not expected to be built for years. Not all have a fresh look. Admitting you are a leech into wealthy people is embarrassing and so desperate. You are so tacky. Private school parents do not want you in their circle.

I'm in it! Thank you

What’s your club named? The Lady Leeches? The Desperate Divas? The Clueless Clones?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assumed most people were either sending their kids to private schools for the small class size and bad local schools, or because it's just what is done in their social circle.

And when you are rich, why not? You need to spend your money on something.

At least your kids aren't getting cat food for lunch and are in amazing facilities with lots of other wealthy families.

You select a school based on lunch? My child attends a private school and the meals are nothing to brag about. Also, the building is old and new building not expected to be built for years. Not all have a fresh look. Admitting you are a leech into wealthy people is embarrassing and so desperate. You are so tacky. Private school parents do not want you in their circle.

You selected the wrong private school.

Guaranteed it’s better than yours. Top 5 loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree! The left wing political influence on schools in my own county (Fairfax) caused our family to move all three of our children to private school. That will be the trend for anybody who can afford it.
The private schools should be sending the teachers unions and county school boards generous kickbacks, because the actions of the unions and boards are generating a ton of demand for the privates!

Unfortunately the same is now happening in the NOVA private schools. Anyone who dares challenge the curriculum is told “perhaps this isn’t the school for you.” It’s very sad when families who have been at the school for 10+ years are ostracized with an administration change. My kids are now a number at a desk, easily replaced by a kid on the waitlist. Of course all of these changes were made after deposits were due and admissions deadlines at other schools have passed.

Yes, St Anselms touts that all the teachers are open to helping its students if needed and makes promises that they simply do not keep. We have to request to see tests and it’s an act of congress to get it if it happens. Laziness and don’t want to have to make any improvements because that would be work for them. Students are rendered disposable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assumed most people were either sending their kids to private schools for the small class size and bad local schools, or because it's just what is done in their social circle.

And when you are rich, why not? You need to spend your money on something.

At least your kids aren't getting cat food for lunch and are in amazing facilities with lots of other wealthy families.

You select a school based on lunch? My child attends a private school and the meals are nothing to brag about. Also, the building is old and new building not expected to be built for years. Not all have a fresh look. Admitting you are a leech into wealthy people is embarrassing and so desperate. You are so tacky. Private school parents do not want you in their circle.

You selected the wrong private school.

Bless your heart, Bullis and St. John’s is not anything to write home about.

[Anonymous]

A mom in my neighborhood moved her kids from our public to private and now that our oldest are graduating and off to college and her DC did not get into a Top and is going to a small high acceptance rate school but expensive (rich kids regular school prestige)

She seemed upset that her plan of private school was to get her kid in a better college did not pan out. I was secretly enjoying that comment!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A mom in my neighborhood moved her kids from our public to private and now that our oldest are graduating and off to college and her DC did not get into a Top and is going to a small high acceptance rate school but expensive (rich kids regular school prestige)

She seemed upset that her plan of private school was to get her kid in a better college did not pan out. I was secretly enjoying that comment!

We are moving from private to public after the year is up. We are at a highly-regarded private and has this reputation only because it’s an expensive private and people assume so it just keeps getting repeated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

Oh hon you are the one that has missed it. No one is paying for college admissions. It’s for the experience and the journey along the way. You just don’t get it. The community, small classes, teachers and admin that actually reply to calls or emails same day. The list goes on and on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

Oh hon you are the one that has missed it. No one is paying for college admissions. It’s for the experience and the journey along the way. You just don’t get it. The community, small classes, teachers and admin that actually reply to calls or emails same day. The list goes on and on.

That’s funny, I left a voice mail for the counselor last Friday and haven’t heard back and emailed a teacher last Monday and haven’t heard back either from my expensive highly regarded private school here in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

Oh hon you are the one that has missed it. No one is paying for college admissions. It’s for the experience and the journey along the way. You just don’t get it. The community, small classes, teachers and admin that actually reply to calls or emails same day. The list goes on and on.

I will add public school parent on here don’t know what you’re missing because you have not experienced it. The top privates in this area offer so many amazing things ie: the facilities, the community, the small classes, teachers that know every students’ name, classes that have a maximum of 15 to 16 kids in it. There’s no way I would ever trade the experience. If I had to choose between getting into Harvard or going private from pre-K to 12 I would choose private. Hands-down absolutely no question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im sounding the alarm. The end is near.

For any one of you paying full tuition at a Private School for college admissions purposes (hoping you'll get into a better college), you are 100% wasting your money. I have several children in Big 3's and unless you are URM, QuestBridge, Athlete or Legacy - you are completely wasting your money. No one cares that your school is tough. That a 3.7 is really great. No one cares about ACT/SATs anymore.

You are wasting your money. 100%

The college admissions process is now washed of achievement. And there is backlash against wealth and privilege.

Dont do it. Dont waste your time. And your money. And stop perpetuating the dummying down of our system.

I wish someone would have told me 3 years ago before I enrolled my kids. Total waste of money.

Oh hon you are the one that has missed it. No one is paying for college admissions. It’s for the experience and the journey along the way. You just don’t get it. The community, small classes, teachers and admin that actually reply to calls or emails same day. The list goes on and on.

Anyone who starts a comment with “oh hon” has zero credibility.
And if you think that private school teachers are responsive, I’ve got a bridge to sell you.