BASIS and Socializing
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Anonymous
| DD started 5th this year at Basis after several very good years at our local DCPS. She had a good group of friends, teachers etc, and was well liked. This year is of course a huge transition for her, which she took on of her own accord, and academically she is very happy but socially she is still trying to find her place, and does not have people to sit with at lunch. Any suggestions? |
Anonymous
| Post your inquiry on the BASIS Google Group. This forum is toxic. |
Anonymous
Agree |
Anonymous
| It's been 7 school days. Give it time. |
Anonymous
| Are you talking about posting icon the Boosters group? No way of doing that anonymously, correct? |
Anonymous
| let me know if your daughter is in germanium and I'll have my daughter look out for her! |
Anonymous
| Thanks-she is in 5A-I appreciate it though-she is just not forward socially, and that is hard in a new environment. again, she is friendly and approachable, but not used to initiating in social situations. |
Anonymous
| Maybe advise her to look around for another girl that is likewise free. It is easier to approach a fellow single, rather than approach a group. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like somebody who may have needed another year in elementary school. I'm not sure it's healthy for middle schoolers to see their parents do the socializing for them... Not to mention that in a few short years, she'll be appalled by that very effort. Take care. |
Anonymous
That's not an option if you want to attend BASIS. If you don't start in 5th, it's very hard to get in for 6th. |
Anonymous
| I am not doing her socializing for her, I am asking for advice. And no, she does not need another year of elemenary, she just isn't very good at initiating socially, and that is not something that necessarily changes with age. I am sure that others have been in the same boat and felt that certain things or places or activites within the school were good ways to get to know one's fellow classmates. I was/am not like that, quite the opposite, possibly to a fault, so I do not know what advice to give her or direction to send her and do not want her otherwise positive experience affected by this. |
Anonymous
| I'm not OP, but 11:47's comments were horrid and mean-spirited and completely uncalled for. It was a perfectly reasonable request and your flame-out response just marks you to be a bitter, nasty person. And if I had to guess, you're the same person who is forever criticizing parents for making a school change in 5th grade because you can't stand to see them pull out of your DCPS elementary of choice and not seriously considering the DCPS middle school you are endlessly promoting. |
Anonymous
| ^^ thanks pp. the judgemental and righteous attitude that comes from this particular source is hard to take. I just wish this person would do whatever they want to do and let their actions speak louder than their nasty words. |
Anonymous
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Oh please, this can happen to any kid at any age at any school! Mine just started at Deal and even though DC ce from a feeder the school is much bigger, feeling a bit overwhelmed and the transition has been tough. Yes, all 6th graders each lunch together but DC is still feeling lost.
OP, what are the before/after school options? Deal has a ton of them so I told my DC to pick two clubs and go to the informational meetings. Each team has a study hall each week and I am making attendance mandatory if only to meet kids. Not sure if there are things like that going on but perhaps a push to get involved? |
Anonymous
| Yes, thanks-extracurricular start next week, she is signed up for 2, though I am not sure how much socializing at least one of them will encourage-hopefully it will! |