SIL & Baby Name

[Anonymous]

Background: My SIL is generally a bitch, we pretty much avoid her and her husband due to her behavior.
We are expecting our second child this winter and just picked a name. We have started telling people the name when they ask about my pregnancy/ baby's gender etc. we didn't make any kind of announcement or production of it BUT I found out from other family members my SIL has an issue with the name we chose (its something normal, spelled normally) and is bad mouthing it. I guess I shouldn't be surprised but I just want to call her and tell her 1) I think she's being a total bitch and 2) since I'm hosting thanksgiving she's uninvited.

I dont think im looking for solutions, I mean its our kid and we get to name them what we want & she gets to feel however she likes. Thanks for letting me vent.

[Anonymous]

What did she say about the name?

[Anonymous]

Reason number 483 for why you do not share the name of your soon-to-arrive baby with ANYONE, especially family members. Reveal it when the baby is here.

Let it go OP. SIL is not a nice person, and it sounds like this incident has re-affirmed this observation.

[Anonymous]

You have to share the name now. Are you sure it's normal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to share the name now. Are you sure it's normal?

Agreed.

This is one of many reasons not to share with ANYONE until baby is here.

[Anonymous]

She's out of line, but who are the bitchy people telling you what she said? Seems like there's a family trait here.

[Anonymous]

So is your entire family in middle school? Because that's what it sounds like.

Family member: "Hey Suzie. I just want you to know that Larla was talking trash about the name you chose for your baby. She said and I quote 'Pierpont is the dumbest name EVER!' Can you believe she said that? What are you gonna do?"

You:"That bitch! I gonna call her and tell her what a bitch she is and I'm gonna disinvite her from our Thanksgiving. AND I'm going to tell everyone NOT to sit with her on the bus or in the cafeteria. She thinks she's SO COOL with her fake neon pink nail. Like they're so ugly!!!"

Family member: "Yeah, you go girl. I'll tell you if she says anything more. I'll text you or leave a note in your locker."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So is your entire family in middle school? Because that's what it sounds like.

Family member: "Hey Suzie. I just want you to know that Larla was talking trash about the name you chose for your baby. She said and I quote 'Pierpont is the dumbest name EVER!' Can you believe she said that? What are you gonna do?"

You:"That bitch! I gonna call her and tell her what a bitch she is and I'm gonna disinvite her from our Thanksgiving. AND I'm going to tell everyone NOT to sit with her on the bus or in the cafeteria. She thinks she's SO COOL with her fake neon pink nail. Like they're so ugly!!!"

Family member: "Yeah, you go girl. I'll tell you if she says anything more. I'll text you or leave a note in your locker."

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So is your entire family in middle school? Because that's what it sounds like.

Family member: "Hey Suzie. I just want you to know that Larla was talking trash about the name you chose for your baby. She said and I quote 'Pierpont is the dumbest name EVER!' Can you believe she said that? What are you gonna do?"

You:"That bitch! I gonna call her and tell her what a bitch she is and I'm gonna disinvite her from our Thanksgiving. AND I'm going to tell everyone NOT to sit with her on the bus or in the cafeteria. She thinks she's SO COOL with her fake neon pink nail. Like they're so ugly!!!"

Family member: "Yeah, you go girl. I'll tell you if she says anything more. I'll text you or leave a note in your locker."

+1

+2.
OP, learn to be the bigger person. Have your SIL to Thanksgiving. Rise above.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I would never say anything to her or uninvited her to thanksgiving - I just wish I could. We are naming DD Elizabeth Grace, I don't think names should be some kind of secrect, and my mother likes to monogram things it would be rude to tell my mom & not my MIL the name when they both asked.

[Anonymous]

Op I think it's obvious that your SIL wants to use the name for herself and is pissed that you "stole" it

[Anonymous]

OP here, Maybe your right, she keeps saying she doesn't want children but I guess you never know. This is our second child but first girl. I found out her thoughts on the name when DHs sweet but clueless aunt said something along the lines of " I really love the name you've chosen, I was so shocked when SIL told me she didn't like it and didn't understand why you would give a baby such a serious name. I think traditional names are the way to go"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, Maybe your right, she keeps saying she doesn't want children but I guess you never know. This is our second child but first girl. I found out her thoughts on the name when DHs sweet but clueless aunt said something along the lines of " I really love the name you've chosen, I was so shocked when SIL told me she didn't like it and didn't understand why you would give a baby such a serious name. I think traditional names are the way to go"

Wait, that's all she said? Telling one person you think a name is serious and would prefer something more modern or less predictable is a pretty mild thing.

Elizabeth Grace is a perfectly nice name, but some people prefer other names and that's fine too. Saying that you find a name "serious" is hardly trashing it, it's just saying she prefers something different.

Be honest, if your SIL had a baby and named them something not your style you wouldn't say anything to anyone?

[Anonymous]

Eh, my FIL said he thought the name we picked was "stupid." And he didn't understand why the baby wasn't being named for him.

I was annoyed at the time (and annoyed that DH told me), but it didn't influence us in any way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's out of line, but who are the bitchy people telling you what she said? Seems like there's a family trait here.

Agreed.

Also, OP, don't be so immature and "un-invite" her. So she doesn't like the name. So what? Don't cause an additional family feud. Get over it.