Telling boss about a divorce

[Anonymous]

Wwyd? I find myself in court nearly evey week. Hopefully it will slow soon. WWYD? How much would you explain? FWIW I have very flexible hours.

[Anonymous]

Depends how close you are with your boss and whether your divorce is affecting your work product.

[Anonymous]

Explain that you need to take leave on X date and Y date, for so many hours, because you are going to court. You are involved in a divorce. He/She will say "I'm sorry." You will say "Thank you." You will then say "It won't affect my work, however, I will have a number of court dates coming up, which I will keep you apprised of well in advance." Unless you and your boss are unusually close, end of subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Explain that you need to take leave on X date and Y date, for so many hours, because you are going to court. You are involved in a divorce. He/She will say "I'm sorry." You will say "Thank you." You will then say "It won't affect my work, however, I will have a number of court dates coming up, which I will keep you apprised of well in advance." Unless you and your boss are unusually close, end of subject.

This. I supervise about 75 people, and this is what I would want to hear from an employee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Explain that you need to take leave on X date and Y date, for so many hours, because you are going to court. You are involved in a divorce. He/She will say "I'm sorry." You will say "Thank you." You will then say "It won't affect my work, however, I will have a number of court dates coming up, which I will keep you apprised of well in advance." Unless you and your boss are unusually close, end of subject.

This. I supervise about 75 people, and this is what I would want to hear from an employee.

Another manager here, and I totally agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Explain that you need to take leave on X date and Y date, for so many hours, because you are going to court. You are involved in a divorce. He/She will say "I'm sorry." You will say "Thank you." You will then say "It won't affect my work, however, I will have a number of court dates coming up, which I will keep you apprised of well in advance." Unless you and your boss are unusually close, end of subject.

This. I supervise about 75 people, and this is what I would want to hear from an employee.

Another manager here, and I totally agree.

Tritto.

[Anonymous]

Quattro.

[Anonymous]

the ex. above is how one of our employees is handling it. It is not impacting her work although she is not here some days. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I cried to my boss but we were extremely close. I agree with the above. The less they know, the better actually. Good luck with the divorce too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Explain that you need to take leave on X date and Y date, for so many hours, because you are going to court. You are involved in a divorce. He/She will say "I'm sorry." You will say "Thank you." You will then say "It won't affect my work, however, I will have a number of court dates coming up, which I will keep you apprised of well in advance." Unless you and your boss are unusually close, end of subject.

This, 100%.

-says divorced lady

[Anonymous]

Of course all the bosses want the employee to promise it won't affect their work. But how could it not, at least in the short term. Heartless.

[Anonymous]

Just don't do what my boss did - shut the door so you can scream at your ex over the phone, then come out crying, then go in for rounds 2, 3, and 4. Beyond that, let them know that you are enduring a divorce and you are handling it in a way as to cause minimal disruption. You already have flexible hours.

[Anonymous]

OP, you probably already have this handled (or doesn't apply) but remember that if you have security clearance you probably need to disclose this to your employer - not necessarily your direct supervisor, but someone.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't even mention divorce. I would just say, "court." The reason for court is not necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't even mention divorce. I would just say, "court." The reason for court is not necessary.

Mention the divorce. It's one of the more acceptable reasons for your attendence to be required in court.