That is a way of looking out for the kids. |
I grew up in Fairfax County in the 70's.
Super safe, super suburban. I was the only kid I knew who was allowed to walk anywhere that wasn't in our neighborhood. All the other parents were not on board with that. I had no friends who were left outside to play and supervise younger siblings either. In fact, I can recall the opposite. Moms telling younger siblings to stay with them instead of going off with a pack of older kids. So I don't think today's parents are helicoptering anymore so than they were 30 years ago. I think parents then and now are being realistic and looking at their kids and realizing that they are kids and their reactions to situations are going to be at the kid level. |
And bikes helmets. |
How do you know they were? |
I reject the idea that a kid in a car seat is safer than a kid walking to a neighborhood park made for kids. |
You've entirely missed the point here. Entirely. The point: People who claim that because they did something and survived, therefore it is fine for the next generation to do it, are completely overlooking the fact that the kids from their generation who didn't survive aren't here to make the counter argument. |
No, I am just saying use your brain. Free range 13 year old? Probably ok. 6 year old? No. |
10 year old, not 6 year old. Let's stick to the facts. |
I agree only to a point. If you know today that children in car seats (which aren't fully/appropriately tested yet) are less safe than walking to neighborhood park alone, then why give a pass to parents who drive their kids but not to those who let them walk around their neighborhood. By the way, my family STILL lives in the City of Detroit, and don't see that as less dangerous than SS. |
+1000 I wrote essentially the same thing in last thread, why risk it at that point! |
I live in Arlington and expecting my first child soon. I find this case disturbing, regardless of the particular situation, but because it made me look up the Arlington County rules.
8 years and under : Should not be left alone for any period of time. This includes leaving children unattended in cars, playgrounds and yards. 9 to 10 years : Should not be left alone for more than 1 ½ hours and only during daylight and early evening hours. 11 to 12 years : May be left alone for up to 3 hours, but not late at night or in circumstances requiring adult supervision. 13 to 15 years : May be left unsupervised, but not overnight. 16 to 17 years : May be left unsupervised for up to two consecutive overnight periods. Seriously, this is saying a 6 year old cannot EVER be alone, even in your own yard! It makes me anxious just thinking about it! I'm a child of the 90's. As soon as I was capable of riding a bike (at 5) I was allowed to ride to the corner and back. My mom sent me out into the yard ALL THE TIME, pretty much every day. I walked to school which was about 5 blocks starting in first grade (and on weekends to the playground), and now that would be neglect?! I can't believe most of the board is saying that's legitimate neglect and the children deserve to be picked up by CPS to allow young siblings to feel some freedom. To never be out of your parents watchful gaze until your 8 years old seems like a recipe for anxiety and mental health issues to me, and just hatred from your kid. My partner and I really have to think about leaving this damn town if the general consensus here would be we're bad parents and don't deserve children. |
Who is saying that a kid is a car seat is less safe than a kid walking to a neighborhood park alone? That's ridiculous. Put your kid is a car seat and go. If you'd rather them walk to the park, WALK WITH THEM. |
You risk it for a belief that hovering over your kids will do even more harm. Which I agree with. The seriously screwed up response from neighbor/police/cps might tip the scales. But should we as parents really bow to that? I'd hate to think so. Talk about bad precedents. |
Sorry, 12:35 was responding to 12:30 |
Must get back to work now. Will have to save the creationist versus evolutionist debate for another time. |