work from home/sahms how do you do it?
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Anonymous
| I'm a sahm but I work from home part time. I don't have any help (sitters, family etc). My kids aren't in school. Most days I feel like I can do it all. I work around their schedule. Some days I feel like I've been repeatedly run over by a bulldozer. By the end of the day I'm on my last shred of normalness. I feel like if I devote adequate attention to my work, then other things fall apart (the house, dinner etc). I have type A tendencies so this is really hard for me to accept. If you work at home, how do you do it? DH is telling me to quit and just focus on the kids which would be lovely but I do enjoy working and making some $. Like I said, most days I can do it but right now I just need some words of encouragement. |
Anonymous
| Do you work for yourself or for a separate employer? If it's the latter, how can you be allowed to work from home without childcare? Either way, the only way to advance at work is to set up camps/care for your kids. When they're home, focus on them. When they're at camp, focus on work. |
Anonymous
| I'm not interested in advancing or in a field where I need to, just enjoy my work. I don't want to give too much personal information but I am an independent contractor so working conditions (kids being around) doesn't matter. |
Anonymous
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It is not possible to work from home without any sitters.
Its also not fair to your employer. As the PP said, most employers require your children to be in care of another person for the number of hours you are working. I have no encouragement for you - in my opinion (and i work from home A LOT), its not fair to your kids to be engaged in work while you should be with them and not fair to your work to have only half your brain on it. |
Anonymous
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I work from home p/t and have done since the kids were babies. They're in school now, so it's easy. But before that, there's no way I wouldn't have childcare during my working hours. It's a recipe for disaster. I might do some extra work when the kids watch a movie or something, but that's just bonus work and I don't ever expect to be able to do it.
I find that if I'm under a lot of pressure with work and try to squeeze in a few emails when I have the kids then I always end up losing my temper at them and feeling bad. You really shouldn't be trying to do both, IMO. |
Anonymous
| The only way to really get work done when you work at home is to have a nanny there or the kids out of the house. It's work, not working at home. The only difference should be the lack of commute. I've been there, done that, telecommuted for a Fortune 500 for years, then worked from home as a consultant. |
Anonymous
New pp here but I still do not see how that would matter. Unless you are self employed and your own boss, unless you current boss knows you are working from home with kids and it OK with it, you are more than likely breaking the code of conduct or your contract. |
Anonymous
| Mother's helper like a HS or college student especially now that it is summer. I am an adjunct so my " work" is in the classroom but I have a lot of papers, grading, workplace emails that I have to do from home. Having a teen take your kids to the pool each afternoon is a blessing. No family nearby either so I have always used a HS, college student, or home- schooled kid. No way I would get anything done without that. |
Anonymous
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I'm not sure what you do but I think it's pretty impossible to work from home with the kids there unless you have a dedicated and long nap time. Even if you do, that changes so rapidly it's unsustainable.
I work from home, for myself, part time, but my child is in school. I can get by with teacher workdays and the occasional afternoon conference call, but I could not and would not do as much volume as I do without childcare. And I wouldn't feel honest billing clients for that work if the environment was severely compromised. And an employer wouldn't allow it. The only part time jobs I see as being sustainable without childcare are things like crafting for an Etsy shop, being an artist if you paint when you can, being a freelance writer who can juggle a few deadlines over a few weeks during naptime. But not much else. |
Anonymous
Not the point at all. I'm not breaking any codes and my employer knows full well my home situation. I work before my kids wake up and after they go to bed. |
Anonymous
Medical transcription? Whatever. You're obviously not taking the hint. You're frazzled at the end of the day because you can't possibly devote yourself to two very important things at the same time. If you work when the kids are in bed, then what's the problem? The problem is that you told your boss you work when they're in bed, but you really don't. So, you're trying to get work done while they're awake. As my buddy, Dr. Phil, would say, "How's that workin' out for ya?!" Get a sitter or actually work when you told your boss you would. |
Anonymous
| whhhatt?? Oh my. I might have to sign off on this thread. My employer knows I work when my kids are in bed. I work when my kids are in bed. |
Anonymous
| Then why are you so frazzled? Why did you post your original post? If you work only when the kids are in bed, why do you feel other parts of maintaining the household are falling apart? |
Anonymous
Because she is not telling the truth. Theres no way she is working 4 hours in the am before her kids wake up and then 4 hours after they go to bed. OP please stop the BS. |
Anonymous
| You people are vile, really vile. I posted for support. I said I work part time. That is 4 hours a day not 8. Thank you for the posts. |