In need of advice....

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are currently separated, he used to work on the road, was gone for almost 5 years where we barely saw each other. There was infidelity on both parts. however he actually moved in with another woman and even brought her here after he asked me to stay with my parents while we worked on things. All the while I had petitioned to get custody of his niece who had been taken into custody, I was taking care of her for almost 5 months before he came home and asked me to leave. I did, I kept our daughter while he kept his niece. I found out about the other woman and she has since left and he has asked to work on things. I really want to because I love him but my family thinks he is just using me to keep his niece and that he will just keep doing all of this to me. And that he is planning to just pull the rug out from under me when were done with court. I want to try and work it out because we have been together for so long and we have a child, but my family is not treating me real nice. They think I am going to keep my daughter from them and they said that my husband will never be allowed in their home again and they will never come to our home again. I just dont know what to do, I dont want to lose any of them but I know that my family will decide not to have anything to do with me.

[Anonymous]

You and your DH need marriage counseling to see if he truly and really wants to work on your marriage. From now on - don't share you marriage issues w/ your parents/family. It would just cause them to be more nosy and respond negatively. I wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the PP regarding the counseling. I would add that even though you may have legal document indicating you are married, you're not in any other sense. Rather than trying to pretend you are and play house, you should try living separately and try dating again. I wouldn't invest anything in this man or depend upon him for anything unless you have some sort of reasonable assurance that he's not using you. Infidelity is one thing, asking you to move out so he can move someone in is totally different. I'm thinking you're parents see a train wreck,

[Anonymous]

Dump him, stop the cheating and if you want a relationship, respect it and take both kids, if you are committed to his niece and are the primary caretaker.

[Anonymous]

Dump him. Your family is right...he's using you.