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Anonymous
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Why is it that everyone thinks I am horrible for not buying a costume for my 18 month old (we would have crammed her in last year's costume if necessary), and ultimately not doing anything for Halloween because we just aren't in the mood.
Our neighborhood is just not into Halloween - we have never had a trick or treater show up at our door and I just decided I was not in the mood to find somewhere to take my kid. People have been asking for weeks what she will be and I told them that she would wear last year's costume (which hardly anyone saw). It had a wide age range and it was big on her last year so I am pretty sure she would have fit in it this year. They thought it was horrible that I didn't run out and drop a few $$$ to buy a different costume. Then, when I decided that we weren't going to do anything afterall, I swear I was nominated as the worst mom of the year! I don't like buying things that have a short shelf life so I had no problems re-using a costume or even taking a donation if someone had one (which no one did). And, I don't think my kid will care if she doesn't go trick or treating. Maybe if we had some heavy duty trick or treating in our neighborhood, it might be different. But we don't so I am not into it. Plus, I think Halloween isn't the same like it was when I was a kid in the dark ages. I really think it is time to just let it go! Now my husband is laying a guilt trip on me. Hmmm...like it is solely my job to handle Halloween festivities. Ugh! (Trust me - I am not this bad during Christmas!!! - I do manage to buy some gifts and a stocking, so I'm not that bad!). Just needed to vent! |
Anonymous
You need some new friends or coworkers. 
There's nothing wrong with using a costume for an INFANT again for a TODDLER. That's if you even have costumes at all for an infant or toddler. I think Halloween is best for preschool on up to about 5th grade. That's when kids actually are interested in costumes and can talk about it, and enjoy it. I'm home with 2 kids with the stomach flu for Halloween (so I'm sure glad we didn't spend a lot of money on costumes.) |
Anonymous
| There's nothing wrong with not trick-or-treating. Some people just aren't into it. And, IMO, it's not even worth it with an 18mo. She can't eat the candy and can barely say "trick-or-treat"! At that age, it's for the adult, not the child, and if you're not into it, you're not into it. |
Anonymous
| You aren't as bad as me -- Halloween is BIG in my town and I just ran out of candy. Not good. |
Anonymous
Trick or treating isn't going to mean anything to an 18 month old. But I agree, people were shocked that I wasn't going trick or treating with my 8 week old! If I want candy, I can go buy some myself 
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Anonymous
| my son wore the same costume for two years (age 1 and 2) and wanted to wear it again this year. i would have squeezed him in if i could but he just didn't fit. |
Anonymous
| I bought my son an orange sweatshirt with hood. It has a face of a pumpkin on it and the hood has a green stem. It came with orange sweat pants which were too big. I bought it at Toys R Us. It was big enough I can use it for next year. We just walked around the block and said hi to our neighbors and passed out candy. He is too young for candy also, but tonight was a nice way to say hi to the neighbors. |
Anonymous
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Well, I feel the same way you do about Thanksgiving, OP, which makes me even more of an ogre. It's like I shot Norman Rockwell dead.
Do you want to become an instant pariah? Try to opt out of an extended family Thanksgiving **with no good excuse** |
Anonymous
I really hate holidays . . . |
Anonymous
My family just has and I do not give a shit. We have tons of his family within miles, but we are not up for it. We volunteered to travel for pie, but everyone is pissed. Eh. Do not care. |
Anonymous
| Geez...it is Thanksgiving and you have family a few miles away but won't join them to share a meal? I don't get it. What is life without the "people" part? |
Anonymous
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I used the same costume several years in a row for my son. My husband was a little upset, but my son didn't care--he wanted that costume. Thought I might get a third year out of it, but he opted for a pirate costume this year. |
Anonymous
| We weren't going to "do" Halloween with our one-year-old. I figured I'd wait to spend costume money til she was old enough to know what was going on. Several of my colleagues were so incensed that they got together and gave me a costume for her. (These are the same people who assumed I was going to dress up myself, and go trick-or-treating with her.) I have to admit, she looks super cute in the costume they got her. But I'm glad I'm not the one who dropped the $30. She wore it long enough to take photos for the grandparents. Next stop, bottom of the closet. |
Anonymous
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We took our kids trick-or-treating last night and it was such a disappointment. So many families weren't participating. We have a lot of those fundamentalist types (time to move!) who leave the outside light on but choose to ignore the kids anyway. Is that passive-agressive or agressive-agressive? Turn your porch light off and go wait for the end times already!
So you really think it's time to let Halloween go? I disagree. Halloween is a lot of fun for kids. My best childhood memories are of halloween. Now it's a "harvest" party. Ugh. |
Anonymous
| Kids love seeing each other dressed up. What is so wrong with that? Just don't spend a lot of money or set high expectations and you and your child will have a great time. I loved celebrating Halloween with my 1 year old and so did he. |