Husband and blackberry

[Anonymous]

I was wondering if any of you had to ask your husband not to use the blackberry during OB appointments. During our last visit, he was "blackberrying" while the doc assistant, a grad resident, was asking questions and explaining certains things. It's annoying!! For our next visit, I ask him not to use it or to stay in this office.

[Anonymous]

Yes, although my husband's distraction of choice was his i-phone. Some men will indulge in these type of distractions because they feel uncomfortable. The OB's office is real a "ladies place" and so he has to find a way to avert his eyes away from the scale model vaginas and speculums. You might try asking him to research a particular aspect of pregnancy and childbirth so that he can come the the appointments with his own questions. This will make him feel smarter and less awkward. Now if this is a problem in other settings, you should have a more general discussion about his "Crackberry" addiction (i.e., his need to check out).

[Anonymous]

OP, my Dh cannot go 4 minutes without checking the blackberry. Eating out, driving, dr's office, on the phone, cooking, eating at home, watching tv. He is checking it all the time. I have to stop myself from throwing it across the room.

[Anonymous]

No, I didn't have to ask my husband not to do this. I think it's absolutely understandable that you wanted him to be fully present. While going through those visits isn't the most thrilling in the world, I can't imagine something so crucial that it couldn't wait til you were done. Good for you for asking him to be more respectful. Even if he's uncomfortable, he should still not act as if other things are more important.

FWIW, w/ #1 my husband came to most of the appts in the beginning, then I went by myself when they were every 2 weeks or less. W/ #2, he came to the first one, but will probably just come for the ultrasounds and 36 week appts. They do become pretty routine after awhile...

[Anonymous]

Um, I had ask (or should I say demand) my husband to stop b-berrying during delivery...

[Anonymous]

Thanks for all the responses. I have to tell you he was respectul this week's visit leaving his blackberry in the pocket and asking questions to the doc. I'm sure he will be too busy with me during delivery to clik click click with his b-berry.
I look forward to reading more about this issue from you and other posters.

[Anonymous]

My hubby does the same thing and it drives me crazy to hear the "scroll scroll scroll click click" sound over and over again at the OB office. I tolerate and bite my tongue for the doc appointments because I know he taking time off during the day and is trying to keep up (so he won't have to take time off to go with me). But I have warned him that the blackberry will go missing or end up being crunched if he even attempts such nuisance scrolling during labor/delivery. So funny that other's have the same issues... MEN!

[Anonymous]

My husband also had to be asked not to use it during delivery.... I would push, he would help. Then during breaks he's sit and start checking is Blackberry... so he was apparently keeping family updated, but still it was soooo obnoxious!!!! I guess that's why they call it a "crackberry."