Not wearing wedding ring to interview?

[Anonymous]

Would you ever advise to a woman that she not wear her wedding/engagement ring to a job interview? What reason why? I was given that advice recently but didn't really have time (rather it was kind of a strange situation so I couldn't) ask why or what the reasoning was.

Figured maybe some strangers might have some insight.

[Anonymous]

I am HR - some people don't wear their engagement rings to interviews because they don't want a company to think they'll get the job and two months later take two weeks off for their wedding and honeymoon.

[Anonymous]

I think if you're going for a high powered position in a male dominated field and have no plans on ever letting your family life influence your job, it might make sense.

[Anonymous]

I can see engagement, if it's ostentatious. Wedding I can't understand really.

[Anonymous]

If you rings are big enough to draw attention, leave them at home.

[Anonymous]

keep them on, unless you never want to tell anyone at your job that you are married.

For me, while I don't want to talk about my personal life all the time, I at least want them to know the basics. (Married, have kids). If they can't handle that, I don't really want to work there anyway. Not interested in those things about myself at this stage in my life.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. I am married, so I have both rings (I see the idea about the honeymoon), they are not really small but not anything that turns heads, I'd say on the large size of average and nothing particularly unique about them, there are much bigger rings or more intricate walking around DC for sure.

I am early 30s. Maybe she meant because it may make them aware of the fact that I may be in pregnancy/maternity leave years? I look slightly younger I would say because of good skin genes but I definitely look at least 27-28, not a recent grad or anything like that. So I would have been in child-bearing range for quite some time now anyway.

I guess I won't know her reasoning but it makes me feel good to think that I don't seem to actually have to worry about this. Job hunting is hard enough!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:keep them on, unless you never want to tell anyone at your job that you are married.

For me, while I don't want to talk about my personal life all the time, I at least want them to know the basics. (Married, have kids). If they can't handle that, I don't really want to work there anyway. Not interested in those things about myself at this stage in my life.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Married is one thing...As a woman I would never let anyone know I had kids until I was hired.

[Anonymous]

do whatever makes you feel comfortable. if a place judges you on any of your attributes, you wouldn't be happy working there anyways.

[Anonymous]

Never thought about. Then again I never wear my wedding ring.

[Anonymous]

I didn't want it to seem like I would go off on maternity leave as soon as I qualified for maternity benefits. Now I do know you don't have to be married to have kids but late 20's/early 30's with a wedding ring make me think either young kids or going to happen soon.

My ring isn't flashy but if someone came in with a flashy ring it can give off the impression this is just a hobby ...the first time you get pissed off or have a kid(whichever comes first) you are out of there because you don't need the job but willing to make the money while you can.

I do think those kinds of thoughts are subconscious and if there were two closely matched candidates it could be something that crosses a person's mind but if the person with the flashy ring just blew all the other candidates out of the water, you wouldn't care. I'd rather take brilliant as we can and hope it works out when that person moves on than be stuck with Mediocre for likely a long time.

[Anonymous]

OP here, thanks for the perspectives.

[Anonymous]

If you are younger and wearing a ring Just be sure to explain you are done having kids.

[Anonymous]

yes in my 20s while in finance.
no, not if in 30s or 40s+.