pregnant after miscarriage - nervous
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| I just learned I am pregnant again after two consecutive miscarriages. I have had 2 children, so I know I can carry to term, but after the miscarriages, I can't help but feel nervous. Of course, there usually is nothing you can do about a miscarriage, but I am trying to think of things that might bring me some reassurance, or at least an early detection if something is wrong - early ultrasound (not sure when it makes sense to get one), baby aspirin (I have heard some people take this but not sure how much)? (I have had progesterone tested in the past and there is no indication it is low.) Mostly I am just trying to not to get too excited. |
jindc
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Given your history, maybe you should see an MFM? A doctor should know your history and have no problem with an early ultrasound. Perhaps an OB who works in high risk if you don't want to see an MFM just to have that extra security? It's really hard to deal with the nerves, I know.
But...I just really wanted to wish you good luck and hope that everything turns out to be OK! |
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I am sorry to hear about your miscarriages and certainly understand your anxious feelings. I have no children and had 10 miscarriages over the course of 4 years. After every test in the book was conducted and consultations/treatments with several doctors, my recurrent miscarriages were deem "unexplained." But, I am now 6 months pregnant and finally (for the most part) not nervous.
How far along are you? An ultrasound around 6-7 weeks can usually detect a heartbeat. Once a heartbeat is detected, the chances of a miscarriage are reduced considerably. Also, early ultrasounds can detect if there is an embryo and not an empty sac/blighted ovum and the measurement can tell you id the embryo is growing as expected. I took baby aspirin - one a day for the first trimester. Every reproductive endocrinologist recommended this. Good luck - I wish the best for you! |
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| I had one miscarriage after one and before two successful pregnancies. After the miscarriage, I was never quite at ease the way I was with the first. That underlying tension just became the new normal. It added a layer of stress to the later pregnancies but, ultimately, I just took one day at a time and tried to live with uncertainty. I don't have a magic bullet but just try to be positive and and to not suffer an injury that hasn't happened. Everything will probably be just fine. |
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| 10:48 - Congrats, I hope you have a happy and healthy rest of your pregnancy! |
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Congratulations! I had two consecutive miscarriages after my first child. I never really relaxed in my subsequent pregnancy. My youngest child is now 10 months old and I STILL feel as if I haven't fully bonded with him. This is entirely because I was "trying not to get too excited". So while, it's sensible not to get your hopes up too much, please don't do what I did and try and let go a little as the pregnancy progresses and relish in the little one you are growing. I feel terrible that I have short changed my baby in some way by cautioning my excitement about him too much. It sucks that miscarriage forever tempers our excitement and expectations about pregnancy. |
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+1 This is exactly how I feel. Currently 35 weeks pregnant after having a miscarriage at 9 weeks (after having seen the heartbeat once, fwiw). |
Anonymous
| The only cure for anxiety in my experience is distraction. Could you plan a long weekend getaway with your husband? Anything else you could take on to keep yourself busy? Whether or not this pregnancy sticks is out of your control, as you surely now, so really there's nothing to do but wait and see. Whatever you can do to make the time pass more quickly for you, the better. Good luck! |
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| I'm right there with you OP. One healthy child, then two miscarriages, and now I'm pregnant again. I'm in first trimester, so I'm hoping that I feel more confident later on in the pregnancy. But for now, I just take it day by day and try to stay positive. But I think back to my first pregnancy when I didn't know any better and I miss that state of mind. |
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| To the OP and the rest of you, I'm right there with you, and rooting you all on! Best of luck to everyone. |
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| OP, I'm also in my first trimester after a miscarriage. I am trying hard not to be nervous, but it is very difficult. I'm supposed to get lab results back today that will show whether my HCG has doubled (first ultrasound isn't scheduled until next Monday), and I'm on the edge of my seat . . . |
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| I am currently 20 weeks pregnant after three unexplained miscarriages (two where heartbeats were heard twice). It was very hard for to enjoy the pregnancy in the first trimester and I am still having a hard time. Every week should give you courage to believe that this is the one. What helped me was distraction, taking one day at a time and believing that my card would come up eventually. That being said, I am still a nervous wreck! Good luck and stay positive. Today, you are pregnant. |
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3 miscarriages before I had one child. Mine were explained (clotting disorders) but I can share the anxiety. Sometimes its just something you have to get through....you could consult a high-risk ob, for peace of mind though. I had frequent ultrasounds with number 1 and was honestly surprised when he was born.
I hope things work out for you! |
Anonymous
| I had a successful pregnancy after 8 miscarriages (finally found the right treatment) and will say it took a long time before I could relax. Knowing you can carry to term has to be reassuring so I would focus on that if you can. Find some good books where you can immerse yourself. That was one thing that definitely helped me take my mind off of all the what-ifs. |