Reassuring Words of Wisdom

[Anonymous]

What do you tell yourself to keep going through this process, month after month? I'm feeling pretty down today. I'm 11 dpo on our 9th cycle, have had two m/c in the past year incl. one at 11 weeks, my temps are flat and HPT today was negative. I'm 33 and this would be our second child, if this ever works. I feel so alone and so frustrated with myself and this situation. In the absence of magic wands, are there any magic words?

[Anonymous]

Your feelings are totally normal. This is such a hard process. You aren't alone and I'm hoping you get some good news soon.

[Anonymous]

I'm right here with you, OP. Just know your feelings are normal, this is so hard.

[Anonymous]

No words of wisdom, just know that you are not alone.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. I completely understand. I'm in the same situation--33, TTC #2, and my temps just dropped on 12 dpo. Not sure about words of wisdom, but I'm reassured that my body can do this given I've been here before. A daily meditation practice helps me put things in perspective (though sometimes I feel like I'm going to scream). Know that you're not alone, and that overall, life is good (even on those days when AF is visiting). I'm sending really good vibes your way!

[Anonymous]

Right there with you, OP. I've found DC to be a particularly difficult place to be TTC - where I live, in NW, everyone seems to have at least 3 kids and there are smug moms everywhere. I found a weekend in NY reminded me that there is more to life than soccer games and stroller tips - and helped me forget the pain of TTC for a while. 33 is young, you've got years in which to conceive. Letting go of the timetable you have in your head (age gap etc) relieves a lot of the stress, if you can do it. Good luck - it will happen.

[Anonymous]

Are you seeing an RE yet? 33 is young, but there may be something that is causing your problems that can be addressed through medicine. As someone who reluctantly went to see an RE at 32 and is now finally having a baby at 38, I tell you not to wait to get help. Something will work out for you, but the path may be different than you thought it would be.

[Anonymous]

2 m/c is really hard to deal with. I like the book After Miscarriage by Krissi Danielsson. It talks about the emotional pain and also possible medical issues worth looking into. Recurrent miscarriage is a very good reason to see an RE.

My situation is different, but I have made a decision to find an RE in September (if no success before then). I like knowing that I have that option. It gives me hope.You could see an RE now.