Looking for success stories after DE miscarriage

[Anonymous]

I just had a DE miscarriage. It was a total shock, as I was pregnant with great betas and heard the heartbeat. The doctor is sure it was chromosomal. We don't know yet till the karyotyping comes back. Three couples shared this donor (SG 3:1), all of us got pregnant, the other couple miscarried at the same time as me.

After my long TTC struggle, I am now just worried that even DE, with the high stats and my "beautiful" uterus, won't work.

Can someone, or many people, post stories of a successful pregnancy after a DE miscarriage? Much appreciated.

[Anonymous]

I don't have any stories, but please don't feel tempted to blame yourself.

[Anonymous]

Thanks PP--I do think I'm past that part. I am looking for encouraging stories, a reason to hope.

If women with old eggs can manage to conceive after several cycles, then why shouldn't I have hope? Each of my best friend, sister-in-law, and cousin miscarried when under 30.

I just want to feel like it's possible, and worth trying, and ignoring the naysayers.

I will of course, do all possible testing--I've already done a full blood panel under Dr. Braverman's supervision before even attempting the donor egg--even before the frozen transfer with my own eggs, which failed.

I want to know that there are women who went on to success after a DE miscarriage. Because the only light I see at the end of this tunnel of grief is hope. I need some, and would appreciate some help regenerating it.

[Anonymous]

I miscarried after my first successful IF try - after seeing the hb twice (great), good size, and excellent betas. I also had a beautiful uterus as you put it and I was young... however, it was not DE, it was an IUI. I was shocked because it never occurred to me that after trying for many years, once I got pregnant I would miscarry.

I chose a DC because I wanted to know what is wrong, if anything with the fetus. Thank god it was a very random problem (triploid baby) and nothing indicative of a problem with my eggs, uterus or my husband. Just random bad luck.

As soon as I could try again (2 period after DC) I got pregnant again and this time all went well.

So, I am just telling you that so you TRY not to blame yourself. I know it is hard, but think logically - what are the odds both of you would have miscarried the babies coming from the same batch? Probably it was a problem with the eggs.... Wait for the next 20 days and you will have your answer.

Right now, my thoughts are with you - I know how desperating and crushing this can be.

Hugs op.

[Anonymous]

23:57, thank you. It's exactly what I needed to hear, and exactly what I will need to hear many times until I have my baby.

My grief is going to outlast others' patience for it, I'm sure, but my perseverance will outlast my grief.

Thank you, thank you.

[Anonymous]

Not sure if this will help you, OP, but I hope it does. I miscarried (own egg) once in my 20s and once in my 30s. Have had healthy kid after each miscarriage. I think some eggs just are not good.

[Anonymous]

OP, we used donor eggs after many, many OE failures/losses. Many people thought it was overkill, but I was so paranoid that I insisted on doing CGH with our donor embryos. We had 5 that made it to blast and, of those 5, one was normal, 3 were abnormal, and one came back with no result.

I was surprised that so many blasts from a 26-year-old donor would be abnormal but my RE said this wasn't so unusual. Had we done a blind transfer, there's a very good chance that I would have miscarried on our first DE try as well. As it was, we transferred the normal and were successful. We're now getting ready to try again with the "no result" embryo. Am still petrified that I'll miscarry but what can you do? Unfortunately, I think you were just unlucky and got the wrong egg. Chances are very good that this next time will work. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

10:50, OP here, thank you, thank you THANK YOU!!!!

If you don't mind, what is CGH? I only know of PGD and CCS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10:50, OP here, thank you, thank you THANK YOU!!!!

If you don't mind, what is CGH? I only know of PGD and CCS.

I'm pretty sure it's just a slightly different version of the same test. I think CGH and CCS are more comprehensive than PGD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10:50, OP here, thank you, thank you THANK YOU!!!!

If you don't mind, what is CGH? I only know of PGD and CCS.

CGH and CCS are the same thing.