Do you buck the "traditional gender norms" of any chores in your house?

[Anonymous]

We split things. DH is better at cooking and I (DW) prefer dishes, but we each have cooking days and dishes days. We do our own laundry; I do kid and household laundry but DH will fold if I get things started. I handle the finances. We both mow the lawn, DH more often. We take care of our own cars, except for the insurance which is in DH's name. We take turns with bedtime and bathing kids.

The only job that is solely DH's is calling Verizon. I refuse.

[Anonymous]

We are flipped on some things. I did all the mowing before we hired it out, and still do all the other yard work. I do all the grilling, repair and DIY projects, interacting with plumbers, HvAC people, etc. He is brilliant but hopelessly unhandy, even now when YouTube makes everything so easy. He does all the vacuuming and most of the laundry and is much better than I at organizing/decluttering.

[Anonymous]

I don’t do $hit. DH does EVERYTHING. I mean I work. So I guess I bring home some bacon, oh and I handle baths for DS. Not sure how I get away with this.

[Anonymous]

H does all clothing shopping including mine, he decorated the house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just for fun

Does anyone else flip the "traditional" gender roles when it comes to any specific chores in your house? For example, my DH hates to mow the lawn so I mostly do that and he does almost all of the cooking.

There was the day I re-wired a lamp while he made a lovely fougasse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just for fun

Does anyone else flip the "traditional" gender roles when it comes to any specific chores in your house? For example, my DH hates to mow the lawn so I mostly do that and he does almost all of the cooking.

Yes. I’ve always hated doing the dishes since I grew up in a large family and we didn’t have a dishwasher. I can load/empty dishwasher but hand washing dishes sucks. My husband hates doing the laundry and gardening. We have a good system in place. He does the dishes, dishwasher, and wipes everything down, while I do the sweeping/vacuuming/mopping, laundry, and gardening. We have a housekeeper come every two weeks so the house never really get super dirty though. We clean up every night after dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is just for fun

Does anyone else flip the "traditional" gender roles when it comes to any specific chores in your house? For example, my DH hates to mow the lawn so I mostly do that and he does almost all of the cooking.

Yes. I’ve always hated doing the dishes since I grew up in a large family and we didn’t have a dishwasher. I can load/empty dishwasher but hand washing dishes sucks. My husband hates doing the laundry and gardening. We have a good system in place. He does the dishes, dishwasher, and wipes everything down, while I do the sweeping/vacuuming/mopping, laundry, and gardening. We have a housekeeper come every two weeks so the house never really get super dirty though. We clean up every night after dinner.

PP here again. He’s also the main cook. I do cook but he’s a much better cook and enjoys it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You and only you think "traditionally associated with women". There are famous male and female chefs, custodians, laundromat employees, etc.

Oh my god you guys are so annoying.

[Anonymous]

HA! DH and I have switched most every traditional gender role.

DH - responsible for grocery shopping, cooking, paying bills, school events.
Me (DW) - responsible for outside landscape work, handyman fixes around the house, family pictures (yes this is a huge time suck since I'm now the default extended family photographer), laundry, sports team registration and taxes.

We outsource cleaning, and our kids are responsible for dishes and trash and putting away the clean laundry.

[Anonymous]

I only work part time so I do most of the traditionally female roles. We do have a cleaning service so it’s more just the day to day stuff. DH and DS do yard work, but I usually shovel snow (Colorado).

DH’s latest hobby is bbq so he cooks and freezes a lot of meat.

He will occasionally go on a cleaning tear but it’s almost not worth it because he expects so much positive attention when he does it.

[Anonymous]

I (wife) do any and all small household repairs/projects (anything from assembling furniture to fixing leaky faucet), mow the lawn about 50% of the time (we actually argue over who gets to do this as we both see it as a “break” from childcare and other household tasks haha), take the cars in for maintenance, pay the bills, troubleshoot problems that come up around the house (why internet goes out, or such). My husband cooks and does dishes about 50% of the time. He’s a better cook than I am. He almost always handles bath time for the kids and he is a very involved, hands on dad (way more than most dads I know).

[Anonymous]

My DH does his own laundry but other than that it’s pretty traditional. I cook dinner and he does the dishes but I do most of the grocery shopping but we sub out house cleaning and lawn care. Breakfast and lunch we are on our own. I pay all the bills and he manages all of our investments and he does it very well. I know I do more than he does but I’m very detail oriented and organized so it’s not a problem for me and he works his butt off and makes a lot of money so I’m fine.

[Anonymous]

Egalitarian over here.

Im the wife and I clean/declutter and do children’s drs appointments. We both cook. He does the dishes, laundry. We both vacuum. I’ll mop but sometimes he will. I take the garbage out.

He deals with the kitty litter. We both walk the dog.

We’re 44 and 50.

[Anonymous]

Pp here,44 and 50. We’ve traded off being the breadwinner. Sometimes one of us has been unemployed. I handle investments for the most part.

[Anonymous]

He cooks, grocery shops, gardens, is pretty good at decorating, though we share decisions there. I handle bills, taxes, investments, car maintenance. Other things are more traditionally gendered--he does handyman fixes, I do doctor and vet visits, school and camp forms, etc. We outsource heavy cleaning, laundry and lawn care. Basically we've gravitated to the things we enjoy (or at least don't mind doing) and share or outsource the rest.