Daycare started milk without asking us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a orthorexic type-A parent thing to get worked up about. You sound like my friend who served zucchini bread with no sugar for her child's first birthday.

OP here. Thanks to everyone but this dickhead for your input. We actually do have a family history of lactose intolerance, hence my actually paying a bit of attention to this.

We do send formula with her every day, along with all her meals; I didn't even know that the daycare giving her milk was an option, as they don't provide meals, so hadn't even thought to be on the lookout for this. I do tend to agree that if she's taking it fine it's probably not the biggest deal in the world, but do still think it's weird they would do this without asking us first. I sent a note to my pediatrician to get his thoughts, as I know it's not like a magic line in the sand right at 12 months but would like to follow his guidance. Will hopefully be able to just chalk this up to "no daycare is perfect and she's happy and healthy so oh well."

OP, I think your final summation of "no daycare is perfect and she's happy and healthy so oh well" seems reasonable. I'd be annoyed and probably ask them about it, but not make a huge fuss or make them stop unless your ped says otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a orthorexic type-A parent thing to get worked up about. You sound like my friend who served zucchini bread with no sugar for her child's first birthday.

I'd be pissed at a daycare. If it were a clueless relative or something, I'd be less annoyed, but the Day Care should be much more careful about ages and family preferences.

I was that zucchini bread friend. (But I did serve real zucchini bread for the grownups. Everyone was offered a clearly labeled choice and most chose unsweetened for their babies and toddlers.)
FWIW, my older kids now find most bakery/typical birthday treats too sweet so eat just a little even though they're allowed whatever. They also give away their Halloween candy.

Hahahah. You are unintentionally hilarious. Get back to us when your kids are older and that high horse you’re on rides off into the sunset. Thanks for the laugh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point. Cow's milk before 12 months is not recommended. I'd be furious.

Nah. See below.

Every ped I know says it’s fine to start a bit early. There is nothing magic about a year.

+1. Our ped cow's milk was fine at 11 months, especially for a kid who is big and thriving. No biggie.

Our ped also told us that cow’s milk was fine after 10.5 months for our thriving kid. We never went that route, but don’t sweat it that your daughter is okay.

[Anonymous]

I don’t really see what the magic is about 12 months as opposed to 11. This doesn’t seem like a big deal to me. But if it’s a big deal to you, you can be mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are missing the point. Cow's milk before 12 months is not recommended. I'd be furious.

Save your fury. You have bigger issues to worry about.
- Mom of 19 YO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is such a orthorexic type-A parent thing to get worked up about. You sound like my friend who served zucchini bread with no sugar for her child's first birthday.

I'd be pissed at a daycare. If it were a clueless relative or something, I'd be less annoyed, but the Day Care should be much more careful about ages and family preferences.

I was that zucchini bread friend. (But I did serve real zucchini bread for the grownups. Everyone was offered a clearly labeled choice and most chose unsweetened for their babies and toddlers.)
FWIW, my older kids now find most bakery/typical birthday treats too sweet so eat just a little even though they're allowed whatever. They also give away their Halloween candy.

Hahahah. You are unintentionally hilarious. Get back to us when your kids are older and that high horse you’re on rides off into the sunset. Thanks for the laugh.

+1
This is gold to Moms of teens.