Securing a nanny before needed

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Anonymous wrote:We gave our nanny a $5,000 signing bonus for the month before my due date. I delivered early and we started her regular hourly wage when she started (day after I came home from the hospital). She was just too good to potentially lose. She’s been our nanny for close to seven years.

this is backwards. if you didn’t want to lose her, you should have started her FT employment early or given her a retention bonus.

How could we have started her early when she had no baby to nanny?! And the signing bonus was the retention bonus.

The $5k signing bonus was really a retention bonus, and that works to hold a month. She could have started early and helped set up the nursery.

I didn’t need help setting up the nursery and whatever on the retention/holding holding bonus. We gave her 5K when she signed her contract and her starting date was the day I brought the baby home (which turned out to be three weeks). The day she started working, we started her hourly wage.

Why are you trying to bust my balls on this? We were fair, considerate, and have a wonderful nanny.

Sounds like you paid her the equivalent to her wage, so that’s fine. I still don’t get why you think a signing bonus is better than just putting her on the payroll, but you do you.

Because it’s not payroll. Jesus...

DP. It actually IS payroll and you and the nanny owed payroll taxes on it.

WHO CARES? The nanny got five grand for doing nothing for three weeks and is apparently happy.

Meh I don’t care at all. Just didn’t like the PP’s attitude that what she did was so awesome, when it was probably illegal (unless they paid taxes on it).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For various reasons, we would like to have a nanny start work the day our baby is born. Since the baby may be early or late, we know we’ll have to pay her for being on hold.

What is the accepted practice in holding a nanny? A signed contract and flat retainer fee or signing bonus? What percentage of salary is generally offered?

I don't get it. You give birth and immediately hand the newborn over to nanny? Why are you having this baby?

Clearly you don’t get it (probably not the only thing that escapes you). No one hands over the baby and most FTM home from the hospital have support. A experienced nanny is a great way to handle those first months if you don’t have a mother or MIL to help. Now go away.

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You are not the boss of me. So I am NOT going away...! I did not have help, family or a nanny and yes I did work. I certainly didn't hand the baby over as soon as he was born.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For various reasons, we would like to have a nanny start work the day our baby is born. Since the baby may be early or late, we know we’ll have to pay her for being on hold.

What is the accepted practice in holding a nanny? A signed contract and flat retainer fee or signing bonus? What percentage of salary is generally offered?

I don't get it. You give birth and immediately hand the newborn over to nanny? Why are you having this baby?

Clearly you don’t get it (probably not the only thing that escapes you). No one hands over the baby and most FTM home from the hospital have support. A experienced nanny is a great way to handle those first months if you don’t have a mother or MIL to help. Now go away.

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You are not the boss of me. So I am NOT going away...! I did not have help, family or a nanny and yes I did work. I certainly didn't hand the baby over as soon as he was born.

How fricking old are you? “You’re not the boss of me!” is laughable and stunningly juvenile.

You don’t hand the baby over when you have a nanny. She just helps the way a family member would and has for generations with a first time mom. OP said “for various reasons” so let it go and give her your advice - or in your case, since you don’t have any, move on.

And go away.

NP btw.

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Anonymous wrote:We gave our nanny a $5,000 signing bonus for the month before my due date. I delivered early and we started her regular hourly wage when she started (day after I came home from the hospital). She was just too good to potentially lose. She’s been our nanny for close to seven years.

this is backwards. if you didn’t want to lose her, you should have started her FT employment early or given her a retention bonus.

How could we have started her early when she had no baby to nanny?! And the signing bonus was the retention bonus.

The $5k signing bonus was really a retention bonus, and that works to hold a month. She could have started early and helped set up the nursery.

I didn’t need help setting up the nursery and whatever on the retention/holding holding bonus. We gave her 5K when she signed her contract and her starting date was the day I brought the baby home (which turned out to be three weeks). The day she started working, we started her hourly wage.

Why are you trying to bust my balls on this? We were fair, considerate, and have a wonderful nanny.

Sounds like you paid her the equivalent to her wage, so that’s fine. I still don’t get why you think a signing bonus is better than just putting her on the payroll, but you do you.

Because it’s not payroll. Jesus...

DP. It actually IS payroll and you and the nanny owed payroll taxes on it.

WHO CARES? The nanny got five grand for doing nothing for three weeks and is apparently happy.

Meh I don’t care at all. Just didn’t like the PP’s attitude that what she did was so awesome, when it was probably illegal (unless they paid taxes on it).

NP here and I echo the above. Who cares? OP asked a question and PP gave her experience. He/she never said it was so “awesome”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:For various reasons, we would like to have a nanny start work the day our baby is born. Since the baby may be early or late, we know we’ll have to pay her for being on hold.

What is the accepted practice in holding a nanny? A signed contract and flat retainer fee or signing bonus? What percentage of salary is generally offered?

I don't get it. You give birth and immediately hand the newborn over to nanny? Why are you having this baby?

Clearly you don’t get it (probably not the only thing that escapes you). No one hands over the baby and most FTM home from the hospital have support. A experienced nanny is a great way to handle those first months if you don’t have a mother or MIL to help. Now go away.

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You are not the boss of me. So I am NOT going away...! I did not have help, family or a nanny and yes I did work. I certainly didn't hand the baby over as soon as he was born.

You didn’t have a husband or partner to help you? You did everything completely on your own and alone? Doesn’t anyone love you, PP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For various reasons, we would like to have a nanny start work the day our baby is born. Since the baby may be early or late, we know we’ll have to pay her for being on hold.

What is the accepted practice in holding a nanny? A signed contract and flat retainer fee or signing bonus? What percentage of salary is generally offered?

I don't get it. You give birth and immediately hand the newborn over to nanny? Why are you having this baby?

Clearly you don’t get it (probably not the only thing that escapes you). No one hands over the baby and most FTM home from the hospital have support. A experienced nanny is a great way to handle those first months if you don’t have a mother or MIL to help. Now go away.

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You are not the boss of me. So I am NOT going away...! I did not have help, family or a nanny and yes I did work. I certainly didn't hand the baby over as soon as he was born.

People do things differently than you. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For various reasons, we would like to have a nanny start work the day our baby is born. Since the baby may be early or late, we know we’ll have to pay her for being on hold.

What is the accepted practice in holding a nanny? A signed contract and flat retainer fee or signing bonus? What percentage of salary is generally offered?

I don't get it. You give birth and immediately hand the newborn over to nanny? Why are you having this baby?

Clearly you don’t get it (probably not the only thing that escapes you). No one hands over the baby and most FTM home from the hospital have support. A experienced nanny is a great way to handle those first months if you don’t have a mother or MIL to help. Now go away.

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You are not the boss of me. So I am NOT going away...! I did not have help, family or a nanny and yes I did work. I certainly didn't hand the baby over as soon as he was born.

You didn’t have a husband or partner to help you? You did everything completely on your own and alone? Doesn’t anyone love you, PP?

With her attitude is that really a surprise?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We gave our nanny a $5,000 signing bonus for the month before my due date. I delivered early and we started her regular hourly wage when she started (day after I came home from the hospital). She was just too good to potentially lose. She’s been our nanny for close to seven years.

this is backwards. if you didn’t want to lose her, you should have started her FT employment early or given her a retention bonus.

How could we have started her early when she had no baby to nanny?! And the signing bonus was the retention bonus.

The $5k signing bonus was really a retention bonus, and that works to hold a month. She could have started early and helped set up the nursery.

I didn’t need help setting up the nursery and whatever on the retention/holding holding bonus. We gave her 5K when she signed her contract and her starting date was the day I brought the baby home (which turned out to be three weeks). The day she started working, we started her hourly wage.

Why are you trying to bust my balls on this? We were fair, considerate, and have a wonderful nanny.

Sounds like you paid her the equivalent to her wage, so that’s fine. I still don’t get why you think a signing bonus is better than just putting her on the payroll, but you do you.

Because it’s not payroll. Jesus...

DP. It actually IS payroll and you and the nanny owed payroll taxes on it.

WHO CARES? The nanny got five grand for doing nothing for three weeks and is apparently happy.

right - she was happy because she got the equivalent of her weekly wage. the point is you can’t “secure” a nanny without paying her wage or the equivalent. and yes, it’s taxable. as long as OP doesn’t think she can cheap out, fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We gave our nanny a $5,000 signing bonus for the month before my due date. I delivered early and we started her regular hourly wage when she started (day after I came home from the hospital). She was just too good to potentially lose. She’s been our nanny for close to seven years.

this is backwards. if you didn’t want to lose her, you should have started her FT employment early or given her a retention bonus.

How could we have started her early when she had no baby to nanny?! And the signing bonus was the retention bonus.

The $5k signing bonus was really a retention bonus, and that works to hold a month. She could have started early and helped set up the nursery.

I didn’t need help setting up the nursery and whatever on the retention/holding holding bonus. We gave her 5K when she signed her contract and her starting date was the day I brought the baby home (which turned out to be three weeks). The day she started working, we started her hourly wage.

Why are you trying to bust my balls on this? We were fair, considerate, and have a wonderful nanny.

Sounds like you paid her the equivalent to her wage, so that’s fine. I still don’t get why you think a signing bonus is better than just putting her on the payroll, but you do you.

Because it’s not payroll. Jesus...

DP. It actually IS payroll and you and the nanny owed payroll taxes on it.

WHO CARES? The nanny got five grand for doing nothing for three weeks and is apparently happy.

right - she was happy because she got the equivalent of her weekly wage. the point is you can’t “secure” a nanny without paying her wage or the equivalent. and yes, it’s taxable. as long as OP doesn’t think she can cheap out, fine.

Who the f are you? Why are you so invested in this? Are you a nanny? And what’s wrong with your caps button?

Who are you to decide what’s “fine”?

[Anonymous]

Hi, OP. I apologize for some DCUM idiots on your thread.

We started the nanny search in my eighth month. When we found our nanny, we signed a contract and gave her a check for four thousand to hold her until the baby was born. At the time that was more than her monthly salary (32 hours a week).

It’s was great having her around in the early days. She knew so much and I knew nothing.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For various reasons, we would like to have a nanny start work the day our baby is born. Since the baby may be early or late, we know we’ll have to pay her for being on hold.

What is the accepted practice in holding a nanny? A signed contract and flat retainer fee or signing bonus? What percentage of salary is generally offered?

I don't get it. You give birth and immediately hand the newborn over to nanny? Why are you having this baby?

Clearly you don’t get it (probably not the only thing that escapes you). No one hands over the baby and most FTM home from the hospital have support. A experienced nanny is a great way to handle those first months if you don’t have a mother or MIL to help. Now go away.

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You are not the boss of me. So I am NOT going away...! I did not have help, family or a nanny and yes I did work. I certainly didn't hand the baby over as soon as he was born.

You didn’t have a husband or partner to help you? You did everything completely on your own and alone? Doesn’t anyone love you, PP?

OP obviously has a husband/partner/someone who "loves" her as well, since she says 'we."

--NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For various reasons, we would like to have a nanny start work the day our baby is born. Since the baby may be early or late, we know we’ll have to pay her for being on hold.

What is the accepted practice in holding a nanny? A signed contract and flat retainer fee or signing bonus? What percentage of salary is generally offered?

I don't get it. You give birth and immediately hand the newborn over to nanny? Why are you having this baby?

I knew a woman who found out she had cancer when she was pregnant. She gave birth, fed colostrum, then started chemo before her baby was a week old. Her husband worked a lot of hours and traveled a lot for work, and she needed help. Things happen. We can't just jump to the worst assumptions.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For various reasons, we would like to have a nanny start work the day our baby is born. Since the baby may be early or late, we know we’ll have to pay her for being on hold.

What is the accepted practice in holding a nanny? A signed contract and flat retainer fee or signing bonus? What percentage of salary is generally offered?

I don't get it. You give birth and immediately hand the newborn over to nanny? Why are you having this baby?

Clearly you don’t get it (probably not the only thing that escapes you). No one hands over the baby and most FTM home from the hospital have support. A experienced nanny is a great way to handle those first months if you don’t have a mother or MIL to help. Now go away.

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You are not the boss of me. So I am NOT going away...! I did not have help, family or a nanny and yes I did work. I certainly didn't hand the baby over as soon as he was born.

You didn’t have a husband or partner to help you? You did everything completely on your own and alone? Doesn’t anyone love you, PP?

OP obviously has a husband/partner/someone who "loves" her as well, since she says 'we."

--NP

Why does that matter?! Or even make sense? OP is looking for a nanny for “various reasons”.

This insanity about a mother handing over her baby and abdicating motherhood because she has a nanny to help for 8 hours a day is total crap.

[Anonymous]

I had my mom with me when my baby was born but if she had not been able to make it I would have had no shame in hiring a nanny. I come from an Asian culture where there are traditionally plenty of women around to help: moms, aunts, sisters, grandmothers and paid help so the new mother can rest and recover. I see no reason to become a martyr.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For various reasons, we would like to have a nanny start work the day our baby is born. Since the baby may be early or late, we know we’ll have to pay her for being on hold.

What is the accepted practice in holding a nanny? A signed contract and flat retainer fee or signing bonus? What percentage of salary is generally offered?

I don't get it. You give birth and immediately hand the newborn over to nanny? Why are you having this baby?

Who cares what you think, since you sound dumber than a box of rocks anyways.