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Anonymous
Actually, I'm the mom with the really well-behaved gifted eight year old who used to take her toddler out to restaurants. |
Anonymous
| ...and one day, OP, you're going to have kids of your own and I'm totally going to indulge my schadenfreude. Again, quiet toddlers. Ten minutes. In the way? Sure, someone should have moved them. But a massive example of crappy parenting? Uh, no. |
Anonymous
Ten minutes blocking the entire soda/drink dispenser during a high traffic time. Yes, it's crappy parenting. Teach your kids to sit at the table, or take them to a park and chit chat there. |
Anonymous
OP here. Just got back from a nice dinner and saw this mean post. When and where did I say that this incident was a "massive example of crappy parenting?" I think my original post explained the situation pretty objectively. And by the way, I'm 42. DH and I would like to be pregnant, but so far it hasn't happened. You may not be able to indulge your schadenfreude after all. Thanks on both counts. |
Anonymous
| NP here. It's crappy parenting and it's crappy restaurant patronage. I have a super squirmy two-year-old, and it is my job to teach her that when we're in a restaurant, she has to either sit in my lap or sit in her chair. |
Anonymous
| OP, I hope you and your husband have a child soon. You sound like you would be a very thoughtful and considerate parent. |
Anonymous
Thank you.  It's heartening to know there are some nice people out there.
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Anonymous
I have two kids of my own, and uh yes, it is crappy parenting. It really disgusts me that these people are passing on their self-absorbed, entitled behavior to a generation of innocents who have no one better to look up to. Parents should teach their children to be aware of their impact on others and, if necessary, to get their kids out of the way if they are causing problems for others. I have walked out of a restaurant in situations like that, and there are plenty of parents like me. We work to make our children comfortable, to make them smart, and to give them opportunity. And yet so many parents are totally punting on teaching basic human values. |
Anonymous
Oh, God, yes. The last time I met some friends and their kids at a local coffee place one of the kids (preschoolers) would not stop shrieking. His mother did nothing. It was supremely annoying--not just to everyone there, but to me, dammit! Even the other kids looked pained. 
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Anonymous
| I have an 18 month old and would never allow him to sit on the floor of a busy restaurant. He either sits in the highchair, booster seat or stands in the booth. Maybe these kids were a little older and would stay in one place (mine would never sit on the floor he would be off across the room) but still I would never let them do it and be in the way. If it was a booth in the back corner and there were not many people around, then I could see why they would let them play on the floor. But if it was getting really busy I would get them back into the booth/table. |
Anonymous
OP--I just posted about my son's shrieking playmate. Trust me--even after you have a kid, you will still feel the same way about clueless, self-absorbed parents. The poster who decided to shit on you saw herself reflected in your post, so blow it off. Sending you all my conception vibes (if there are such things)... 
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Anonymous
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Does anyone remember the Tryst playgroup? Remember how that was ruined? It's not exactly the same thing, but it is a perfect example of entitled parents' behavior leading to the end of a good thing:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/701.page#97864 We shouldn't be a menace everywhere we go. There are consequences. |
Anonymous
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OP: As someone who struggled to get pregnant for a very long time before our true miracle came along while I was at "advanced maternal age, I also send positive wishes your way.
I also totally agree with your post that the Moms were in the wrong for not even attempting to move the toddlers from an inappropriate/unsafe location. I HAVE a 1.5 year old who certainly has her moments so I know how tough it can be, but I also know that it's MY responsibility to limit how her behavior impacts other diners as much as possible. I'm also a teacher and I can say that kids being unattended to in public does seem to bother us more! (The WORST are the parents who say nothing as their kids are flying through the mall/grocery store/etc with those stupid skate shoes!!!) |
Anonymous
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read I Was a Good Mom Before I Had Kids--hysterical!
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Anonymous
| I don't know what's worse - parents (because please, let's not act like it's only mothers who do this) who allow their children to run wild, or posters who work themselves into a tizzy over. "That mother was terrible! Sad! Pathetic! She should be in jail! She should be SHOT!" |