How do you know it's time for donor eggs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, you’ve done 8 cycles at 3 different clinics. If you have the resources and want to keep trying—then do it. If you want to increase your odds of expanding your family sooner, I’d say it is time to move on to DE. Why do you think it will take long? How many months or years have you been doing IF treatments so far? (SG moves their egg donors along pretty swiftly—that was never a concern when moving from OE to DE.) Good luck whatever you choose.

OP here - I appreciate this. I'm lucky to have insurance that mostly covers IVF, but not DE IVF, so cost-wise, it's been easier to keep going with OE. I'm Indian, so will probably need to use an agency if we hope to find a donor who looks vaguely like us, so that's my concern re: it talking a while. I'll use SGF since I like my doctor there, so glad to hear they move quickly.

just wanted to say that SGF had at least two southasian donors in the month that i was looking, so you might get lucky with a fresh donor, and not have to resort to frozen egg banks or an agency. while DE is not a silver bullet (we only got two PGT normal embryos from a 1:2 donor, so there may have also been undiagnosed MFI/fragmentation), it can at least eliminate a few of the variables. I miscarried my first DE embryo but am 20 weeks with my second, using a kitchen sink protocol (lupron, prednisone, lovenox, claritin). good luck.

[Anonymous]

To the person responding at 03/17/2021 06:08 - who did you see at GW to get testing completed? I was just curious.
Thank you.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry lady, but at 42 you need to decide if you want a baby or to warm chairs in doctor's offices and spend tons of money

Even if you get your genetically you baby it will be from 42 year old eggs - plus whatever health issue caused your infertility - not the greatest situation in the world. On top of that there is the issue of your advanced maternal age which will only continue to go in the wrong direction

[Anonymous]

OP, i was in your shoes, 7 cycles total at all the same places. 1 chemical and 1 miscarriage. Nothing ever to freeze (no PGD normals). It's possible that all eggs are bad at 42. At 42 I moved on to DE, and didn't work with 1st donor. Then switched donors and 2nd FET was successful when combined with LIT (funky immune system turned out to be my signature problem, although all testing was normal, I guess whatever I have subclinically was crappy enough). Gave birth when I was 45. When I started on DE path I felt that I've let down people before me - my grandparents, their parents, etc. But it is what it is. For me, the baby is as mine as could be - your body builds the baby's body, you generate his/her blood and you have common bloodstream.