Hyphenated last names

[Anonymous]

My maidan’s name is my kids middle name.

[Anonymous]

That have a chance to not have to change their name if become actor as less likely someone in SAG already has it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love it, the father's name, and then the mother's father's name. #feminism #slay

No, the father's name, and then the mother's name. My name is as much my name as it is my father's. I've had it my whole life. You don't say that a man's name is just his "father's name." Ask yourself why you think men own their own names and women don't.

[Anonymous]

I had a hyphenated name growing up and did not like it. I'm sure things like standardized tests and computer systems are much better these days, but it was such a pain for me growing up. My name wouldn't fit in the bubbles on tests so I had to omit the last 1 or 2 letters and I honestly had trouble with colleges accepting my SAT scores because the name on my college application didn't match the name on my SAT results. When I turned 18 I legally changed my last name (kept stepdad's last name and dropped biological dad's last name) and then had to carry around the court docs in college to prove my identity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love it, the father's name, and then the mother's father's name. #feminism #slay

Love that the reason you think this is some sort of “gotcha” is that you believe a woman’s birth name doesn’t actually belong to her, while a man’s birth name does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love it, the father's name, and then the mother's father's name. #feminism #slay

Love that the reason you think this is some sort of “gotcha” is that you believe a woman’s birth name doesn’t actually belong to her, while a man’s birth name does.

Also- ask yourself why you are so invested in attacking hyphenated names. Could it be because you wish your kids had your name?

[Anonymous]

That they are the kind of people who will lecture me on which I should be a vegetarian, why I should adopt not shop, why I should send my kids to public school, etc. It's not even that I disagree with all these positions, it's just that they'll want to lecture me on something. And for sure they'll talk about WHY they hyphenated their kids' last names, as if anyone cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s always seemed a bit selfish to me. Like the parents are thinking about being equally represented more than what a pain having a hyphenated name will be for the child. It also doesn’t work through generations.

+1.

[Anonymous]

I think "that seems like a PITA, but you do you."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think nothing. At all. This doesn't even register as a thing to me. People have all kinds of names. Some are more familiar or pleasing to my ear but the vast majority of last names don't register as anything to me. I wouldn't even assume the double-barrel name is one name from each parent. As PPs have mentioned, there are naming conventions in other countries where double-barreled last names are the norm.

If you are drawing conclusions from this, what else are you drawing conclusions from? The ethnicity of the names? When you see a Jewish name, what do you think? Or a very Anglo-Saxon name? What random conclusions about people are you forming based on nothing but their name?

You need a hobby that isn't judging people based on dumb sh$t.

+1.

[Anonymous]

I make no assumptions whatsoever and seriously don’t care. I might notice if the hyphenated name becomes really long or awkward, but it would be a fleeting thought only.

[Anonymous]

I have two last names by choice. My kids don't. My only issue is with other people's use of it. Some computer systems can't handle long names, some systems/processes force the name to be hyphenated even though its not, some people/systems file it under the wrong letter, and some don't recognize both names. The best part of not using a hyphen is being able to use either name and it still be recognized by some systems. I don't mind typing it or writing it. Lots of other countries/ethnicities have multiple last names. It really doesn't phase me unless its something weird like stratford-von-avalon. Then its like, you did that on purpose? Followed by, whatever, its your choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That the mother is proud of her surname and is not the property of her husband, so she wants to give the child her name as well.

I have never assumed that. It’s awful IMO. Make your maiden the kids middle name. I knew one kid in HS with the hyphenated abd sh was so miserable about it. It will never fit into any form BTW

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I wonder what happens when someone with a hyphenated last name marries someone with a different hyphenated last name and has children. I know a guy named Bryan Smith-Jones who married Mary Clark and their children are just Jones.

[Anonymous]

My kid has one. I think he’s great!