I miss getting to know my kids teachers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. I miss getting to know parents! I think I get a fuller picture of my students when I'm able to become familiar with parents of my students. I have no desire to become best friends with parents, but knowing more than just their names is helpful.

I posted earlier, I've had a handful of phone chats with my daughter's teacher to discuss some areas she's struggling in, so I do feel like the teacher probably has a good sense of what we're like.

[Anonymous]

I always volunteered in the classroom, got to know the teachers and the teachers always ended up friending me on Facebook

I do not want you in the classroom. I am another parent. I do not want you there, not more than any other parent, not more than a handful of times a year for a very good reason.

[Anonymous]

If teachers are professionals, they can't have it both ways. They can't rely on Mommy-helpers in the classroom. I'm sorry to take away a source of fun and socializing for the Moms but you aren't a teacher. You aren't a professional. I don't like that teachers have now made it part of the teacher's job to oversee the Moms' experience in the classroom. The environment is no longer professional and I have a lot less respect for the professional of teaching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. I always volunteered in the classroom, got to know the teachers and the teachers always ended up friending me on Facebook. Not that that means anything but I do think it says something that they would initiate and not me (I respect their privacy so would not initiate). I enjoy having a friendly relationship with the teachers and helping them out when needed. I really miss that aspect of school.

It says that they are behaving inappropriately. I see this with parents/teachers at my kids’ school and I don’t like it. I don’t care if you’re friends, but it shouldn’t be a public display while the kid’s in their class (or when a younger sibling might be in the future.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Y'all must be stay at home moms. Moms with jobs don't have time to want to be BFF with their kids' teachers.

Right! These are the same moms who are sending around frantic emails right now for everyone to "collect supplies for the teachers!" - they have to find ways to buddy up even when virtual and even though your bff teacher is not even planning on returning because she doesn't actually like you or your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I get it. I always volunteered in the classroom, got to know the teachers and the teachers always ended up friending me on Facebook. Not that that means anything but I do think it says something that they would initiate and not me (I respect their privacy so would not initiate). I enjoy having a friendly relationship with the teachers and helping them out when needed. I really miss that aspect of school.

It says that they are behaving inappropriately. I see this with parents/teachers at my kids’ school and I don’t like it. I don’t care if you’re friends, but it shouldn’t be a public display while the kid’s in their class (or when a younger sibling might be in the future.)

I agree completely. It's so unprofessional. Like it or not, teachers are service providers. They should not be friending parents on Facebook until AFTER the child has left their class. And the parent's younger child should absolutely not be placed in the classroom of a teacher who is friends with the parent. Whether it's real friends or facebook friends. Optics.

[Anonymous]

I've always found it bizarre that there are moms who will hang out in the classroom and "help" the teacher while socializing with the teacher at the same time. I've volunteered in the school before, but my job was stuffing the kids' Thursday folders. I did what the teacher needed help with and then left. I saw other moms distracting teachers from teaching kids by chit chatting. This isn't social hour, ladies, that teacher has a job, let her do it. Go to yoga class and get wine with your mommy friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I always volunteered in the classroom, got to know the teachers and the teachers always ended up friending me on Facebook

I do not want you in the classroom. I am another parent. I do not want you there, not more than any other parent, not more than a handful of times a year for a very good reason.

Are you a teacher?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like o know them MUCH better this year than normal.
1. I get to watch the videos to see how they teach.
2. I overhear class sometimes
3. They email back - and quickly!

I agree!! Plus we had a much longer parent teacher conference.

[Anonymous]

Well, I guess I am weird. In my class, we are ALL one giant family. It goes both way's. I support parent's ( some love to chat, ask for help and resources, want feedback, or to have an ear to listen) and they support me ( teacher's helper's, they all made me dinner's when my Mom died, made a prayer shawl when I was gravely ill and pitch in with resources so we can do cool stuff like market day in our classroom). During the pandemic, former families even up to 7 years ago all check in with me to see how I am. Teacher's should be allies not enemies. We are all human's trying to get through this life the best we can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess I am weird. In my class, we are ALL one giant family. It goes both ways. I support parents ( some love to chat, ask for help and resources, want feedback, or to have an ear to listen) and they support me ( teacher's helpers, they all made me dinners when my Mom died, made a prayer shawl when I was gravely ill and pitch in with resources so we can do cool stuff like market day in our classroom). During the pandemic, former families even up to 7 years ago all check in with me to see how I am. Teachers should be allies not enemies. We are all humans trying to get through this life the best we can.

21:58, you sound like a wonderful teacher and person. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If teachers are professionals, they can't have it both ways. They can't rely on Mommy-helpers in the classroom. I'm sorry to take away a source of fun and socializing for the Moms but you aren't a teacher. You aren't a professional. I don't like that teachers have now made it part of the teacher's job to oversee the Moms' experience in the classroom. The environment is no longer professional and I have a lot less respect for the professional of teaching.

Perhaps that is your impression (or a story you made up in your head) but very few mothers are socializing in the classroom with the teacher while volunteering. What teacher has time for that? It would be a huge distraction. The point of parents helping is to make things go smoother. We are making copies, hanging up artwork, cutting laminations, stuffing folders. I don’t do it to become a Besty with a teacher, I do it because I have the time, I want to be helpful, and children seeing another smiling face is not a bad thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess I am weird. In my class, we are ALL one giant family. It goes both way's. I support parent's ( some love to chat, ask for help and resources, want feedback, or to have an ear to listen) and they support me ( teacher's helper's, they all made me dinner's when my Mom died, made a prayer shawl when I was gravely ill and pitch in with resources so we can do cool stuff like market day in our classroom). During the pandemic, former families even up to 7 years ago all check in with me to see how I am. Teacher's should be allies not enemies. We are all human's trying to get through this life the best we can.

I’m sure you are a lovely person and probably a great teacher in many ways, but I hope you are not in charge of teaching kids how to use apostrophes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If teachers are professionals, they can't have it both ways. They can't rely on Mommy-helpers in the classroom. I'm sorry to take away a source of fun and socializing for the Moms but you aren't a teacher. You aren't a professional. I don't like that teachers have now made it part of the teacher's job to oversee the Moms' experience in the classroom. The environment is no longer professional and I have a lot less respect for the professional of teaching.

It's funny because teachers here keep saying that the parents are in fact teachers (but that teachers are still necessary?).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I guess I am weird. In my class, we are ALL one giant family. It goes both way's. I support parent's ( some love to chat, ask for help and resources, want feedback, or to have an ear to listen) and they support me ( teacher's helper's, they all made me dinner's when my Mom died, made a prayer shawl when I was gravely ill and pitch in with resources so we can do cool stuff like market day in our classroom). During the pandemic, former families even up to 7 years ago all check in with me to see how I am. Teacher's should be allies not enemies. We are all human's trying to get through this life the best we can.

Damn you are barely literate. What do you teach?? Please say gym please say gym please say gym.