FT working moms: how do you stay organized so weekends aren’t a shitshow?

[Anonymous]

We have three kids, so there is no way we could leave everything to the weekend. My husband does the grocery shopping Monday morning (kids are at school/with nanny) first thing and starts his work day a bit later. I do laundry every day (at least one load). We don’t meal prep, but just cook early 30 minute type meals each week night and get take out on the weekends. We also tidy after kids go to bed for 20/30 minutes (think put away toys/dishes etc). We also have a weekly cleaner. I still feel we have plenty of time on weekend.

[Anonymous]

These answers are so DCUMs. "Oh, I just order from Instacart. I have the cleaners come in each week. My nanny runs errands or my husband does it while the nanny watches the kids." Don't you think the OP would be doing these things if she had these extra people to do it for her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is this just for working moms? My DH cooks most meals and does most of our laundry (although the kids and I fold it). We clean a little bit every day so we don't have to do it all on the weekend. We don't really meal prep, no need for that now that we're working from home anyway.

You can't be serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these responses made me realize I need a nanny! Didn’t realize they do so much housework!

Be careful- one nanny posted here that she puts dirty towels in the dryer and dirty dishes with a water rinse in the cupboard....so it appears she cleaning but not...

[Anonymous]

Outsource what you can. Laundry, cleaning, and cooking can be done by someone else. That just leaves the tidying up each day and weekends free of chores.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All these responses made me realize I need a nanny! Didn’t realize they do so much housework!

Be careful- one nanny posted here that she puts dirty towels in the dryer and dirty dishes with a water rinse in the cupboard....so it appears she cleaning but not...

Does she hate the family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These answers are so DCUMs. "Oh, I just order from Instacart. I have the cleaners come in each week. My nanny runs errands or my husband does it while the nanny watches the kids." Don't you think the OP would be doing these things if she had these extra people to do it for her?

Nanny, cleaners, handyman, weekend cook, laundry service, lawn service, tutors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All these responses made me realize I need a nanny! Didn’t realize they do so much housework!

Be careful- one nanny posted here that she puts dirty towels in the dryer and dirty dishes with a water rinse in the cupboard....so it appears she cleaning but not...

One cleaner posted here that she mops the bathroom floor by dunking the mop in the toilet bowl. I couldn't even...😲

[Anonymous]

HAve your husband and kids each do their own laundry.

Divvy up chores and don’t get mad when DH does his differently than you’d like to.

Ignore the mess.

Hire cleaning service for bathrooms/floors/dusting. Mine come ever 3 weeks.

[Anonymous]

I do meal prep on weekends during nap time. I do laundry during the week - pop it in the the morning when I wake, dryer before I head out the door, DH folds in the evening.

I don’t grocery shop - all groceries are ordered in an app, drive up to get them. Everything else comes from Amazon or Target delivery. I go inside stores 2-3x a year even pre-pandemic.

Husband wipes counters and does dishes. Cleaners clean the house weekly. Lawncare is also outsourced.

[Anonymous]

We keep meals simple and we have a cleaning service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any working dads want to chime in?

DH vacuums every day, makes dinner every night, does his own laundry and weekly grocery shopping during the pandemic. Nanny does kids laundry. I do my laundry and towels/linens a couple times during the week. We have a housekeeping team come in every other week for floors, dusting, and bathrooms. We definitely keep our weekends just for the kids.

+1 except I (mom) vacuum twice a week, nanny makes dinners, husband makes weekend dinners (everything else similar). It’s the nanny, the maid, and my husbands effort making it not a cluster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any working dads want to chime in?

DH vacuums every day, makes dinner every night, does his own laundry and weekly grocery shopping during the pandemic. Nanny does kids laundry. I do my laundry and towels/linens a couple times during the week. We have a housekeeping team come in every other week for floors, dusting, and bathrooms. We definitely keep our weekends just for the kids.

+1 except I (mom) vacuum twice a week, nanny makes dinners, husband makes weekend dinners (everything else similar). It’s the nanny, the maid, and my husbands effort making it not a cluster.

To clarify, I handle weekend lunches, and I also put out breakfast the night before if I can (cereal and banana and dried fruit) and cover with Saran Wrap so I can sleep in and husband doesn’t have to worry about breakfast. Every other Saturday I make the kids clean up their room. Trying to create rhythms and habits.

[Anonymous]

Our house is relatively neat... and clean, but not as cleans as all of yours.i think one thing working moms do to make things impossible is to keep the same or even higher household Chore and cleanliness Standards of non working women before them, it used to be women’s work to stay at home all day cleNing, cooking, etc. we don’t have to wash all the sheets eeevry weekend, wash the floors, etc. if you have help, great.if not, take a huge chill pill! One thing I agree with and struggle mightily to achieve is having less stuff. That’s definitely made our houses messier in the age of amazon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These answers are so DCUMs. "Oh, I just order from Instacart. I have the cleaners come in each week. My nanny runs errands or my husband does it while the nanny watches the kids." Don't you think the OP would be doing these things if she had these extra people to do it for her?

This is it exactly. “Golly gee, I simply don’t understand how you heathens are so disorganized... after paying the help to do 90% of the work it really takes no time at all!”