Newborn only sleeps when being held

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Thanks all! I bought a used Snoo. Here's hoping! Zzz

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Anonymous wrote:My newborn (~1 week old) ONLY sleeps while being held. She was full term but small (5lbs 14 oz). I understand this behavior is quite common for newborns, but how long til she will sleep for a couple solid hours in her bassinet? I don't know how me and my partner are going to get any sleep if this continues

This is what people call the "fourth" trimester. You have a newborn. They are supposed to be held and you are supposed to not sleep. The only suggestion I have is take turns so one is caring for baby the other is sleeping and then switch. These things don't last forever but, we can't predict how long it will be. Snuggle your baby and try to enjoy. This is what you signed up for whether you realized it or not. ( most people do not myself included)

It gets better!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My newborn (~1 week old) ONLY sleeps while being held. She was full term but small (5lbs 14 oz). I understand this behavior is quite common for newborns, but how long til she will sleep for a couple solid hours in her bassinet? I don't know how me and my partner are going to get any sleep if this continues

This is what people call the "fourth" trimester. You have a newborn. They are supposed to be held and you are supposed to not sleep. The only suggestion I have is take turns so one is caring for baby the other is sleeping and then switch. These things don't last forever but, we can't predict how long it will be. Snuggle your baby and try to enjoy. This is what you signed up for whether you realized it or not. ( most people do not myself included)

It gets better!

NP here - congrats on mastering the art of writing super patronizing and unhelpful posts!

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Anonymous wrote:For my older DD, it was nearly 6 months before she would sleep more than a half hour at a time without being held. That child nearly broke me. But she had severe colic and reflux, and was just a miserable little baby.
Second DD, we could put her down in her bassinet for short naps starting around 2 weeks old, and at 9mo now, she’s a great sleeper.
Every baby is different. Tight swaddle, turn on a sound machine, lay her down in her bassinet/crib/safe spot once she’s asleep and see how it goes. Google “4th trimester”...definitely a thing for both mom and baby!

This was my firstborn too. I didn't really know any better and we'd just moved so I didn't have any friends or family to tell me it was abnormal. None of us slept well for at least a year.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave up and slept with my baby because I was exhausted. Babies want your body heat. After a couple of weeks I could lay down and put my baby next to me then when she was in a deep sleep slowly get up off the bed.

Nope. It's not safe to do this with a newborn baby.

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Anonymous wrote:My newborn (~1 week old) ONLY sleeps while being held. She was full term but small (5lbs 14 oz). I understand this behavior is quite common for newborns, but how long til she will sleep for a couple solid hours in her bassinet? I don't know how me and my partner are going to get any sleep if this continues

This is what people call the "fourth" trimester. You have a newborn. They are supposed to be held and you are supposed to not sleep. The only suggestion I have is take turns so one is caring for baby the other is sleeping and then switch. These things don't last forever but, we can't predict how long it will be. Snuggle your baby and try to enjoy. This is what you signed up for whether you realized it or not. ( most people do not myself included)

It gets better!

NP here - congrats on mastering the art of writing super patronizing and unhelpful posts!

Pp ? Where are you reading that I am " superior?" I told op that I went through the same thing and suggested taking turns. I also mentioned that it will pass and try to enjoy it.

My intention was to sympathize and to let op know she isnt alone. How is it not helpful? I dont know the latest swaddle for sure but I fail to see how my post could offend anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My newborn (~1 week old) ONLY sleeps while being held. She was full term but small (5lbs 14 oz). I understand this behavior is quite common for newborns, but how long til she will sleep for a couple solid hours in her bassinet? I don't know how me and my partner are going to get any sleep if this continues

This is what people call the "fourth" trimester. You have a newborn. They are supposed to be held and you are supposed to not sleep. The only suggestion I have is take turns so one is caring for baby the other is sleeping and then switch. These things don't last forever but, we can't predict how long it will be. Snuggle your baby and try to enjoy. This is what you signed up for whether you realized it or not. ( most people do not myself included)

It gets better!

NP here - congrats on mastering the art of writing super patronizing and unhelpful posts!

Pp ? Where are you reading that I am " superior?" I told op that I went through the same thing and suggested taking turns. I also mentioned that it will pass and try to enjoy it.

My intention was to sympathize and to let op know she isnt alone. How is it not helpful? I dont know the latest swaddle for sure but I fail to see how my post could offend anyone.[/quote

None of your post is helpful and all of it is dismissive of OP. She know she has a newborn you moron. But don't worry you fit in great here on DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:My newborn (~1 week old) ONLY sleeps while being held. She was full term but small (5lbs 14 oz). I understand this behavior is quite common for newborns, but how long til she will sleep for a couple solid hours in her bassinet? I don't know how me and my partner are going to get any sleep if this continues

This is what people call the "fourth" trimester. You have a newborn. They are supposed to be held and you are supposed to not sleep. The only suggestion I have is take turns so one is caring for baby the other is sleeping and then switch. These things don't last forever but, we can't predict how long it will be. Snuggle your baby and try to enjoy. This is what you signed up for whether you realized it or not. ( most people do not myself included)

It gets better!

NP here - congrats on mastering the art of writing super patronizing and unhelpful posts!

Pp ? Where are you reading that I am " superior?" I told op that I went through the same thing and suggested taking turns. I also mentioned that it will pass and try to enjoy it.

My intention was to sympathize and to let op know she isnt alone. How is it not helpful? I dont know the latest swaddle for sure but I fail to see how my post could offend anyone.[/quote

None of your post is helpful and all of it is dismissive of OP. She know she has a newborn you moron. But don't worry you fit in great here on DCUM.

Ahh it is the poster who calls everyone a moron. I think I tangled with you before so I will ignore your thoughts. For others:

The reason I mentioned it is because most people think that newborns are super easy because they are supposed to sleep alot. When I had a newborn I had never heard the expression " fourth trimester" and it helped me mentally.

Op if I made you feel inferior I am truly sorry. Please know I did not mean it that way.

I wish you the best with your new little family!

[Anonymous]

Also you are not "supposed to not sleep". You are supposed to have a village helping you but somewhere along the line humanity decided mothers have to suffer as much as possible. Plus, we're in a pandemic. F@ing sanctimommies.

[Anonymous]

Woombie or Velcro swaddle. I think it was 2weeks in before we were able to transfer to sidecarred co-sleeper.

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Anonymous wrote:Also you are not "supposed to not sleep". You are supposed to have a village helping you but somewhere along the line humanity decided mothers have to suffer as much as possible. Plus, we're in a pandemic. F@ing sanctimommies.

You sure have some anger issues you need to work on. Newborns have their sleep mixed up. Most Moms and Dads get little sleep. Where is the controversy? Your parents went through this, your grandparents went through this and now it is op's turn. It is just fact not being a sanctimommy!

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Anonymous wrote:Also you are not "supposed to not sleep". You are supposed to have a village helping you but somewhere along the line humanity decided mothers have to suffer as much as possible. Plus, we're in a pandemic. F@ing sanctimommies.

You sure have some anger issues you need to work on. Newborns have their sleep mixed up. Most Moms and Dads get little sleep. Where is the controversy? Your parents went through this, your grandparents went through this and now it is op's turn. It is just fact not being a sanctimommy!

Actually my parents and grandparents had a lot of help. When my parents came to the US it was a huge adjustment for my mom who was not used to having to do everything with no help. It's not normal for two people to have to support a household and hold a baby 24/7 with no help from relatives.

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Anonymous wrote:Also you are not "supposed to not sleep". You are supposed to have a village helping you but somewhere along the line humanity decided mothers have to suffer as much as possible. Plus, we're in a pandemic. F@ing sanctimommies.

You sure have some anger issues you need to work on. Newborns have their sleep mixed up. Most Moms and Dads get little sleep. Where is the controversy? Your parents went through this, your grandparents went through this and now it is op's turn. It is just fact not being a sanctimommy!

Actually my parents and grandparents had a lot of help. When my parents came to the US it was a huge adjustment for my mom who was not used to having to do everything with no help. It's not normal for two people to have to support a household and hold a baby 24/7 with no help from relatives.

Well it is normal for lots of folks not to have help. Is it better to have family help? Of course! But most Americans do not live near family.

Sounds your parents had a good set up. Good for them! My dh and I only had each other. That was normal for us.

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Anonymous wrote:We used the sleepea swaddle (the Snoo brand swaddle without the wings) for the first few weeks and our baby loved it and slept fine in his bassinet. Like others say, do it tighter than you even think you need. Then he woke up a little to the world and his tummy got really gassy and he hated being put down and only wanted to sleep on us on his tummy, and we desperately ordered a Snoo at 3 weeks and it was magical. You can also safely incline the Snoo (since they are strapped in) if it's gas/reflux troubles causing baby to not want to be placed flat on his back for sleep. We think this is ultimately a big reason the Snoo helped us. He slept better and better (despite awful gas, tongue and lip ties, general unhappiness all day) and was doing 10 hour stretches by 9-10 weeks old. Anyway, I know it's super expensive and not a practical tip if it's out of your budget, but if you can swing it, it really did save us. They offer rentals, or if you buy, you have 30 days to try it and return. You'll know within 30 days if your baby is taking to it.

NP. Did you do some of the other tricks the snoo recommends? Like the rice bag or towel under the legs? Our 7 week old gassy baby tolerates the snoo but locked in the baseline level, the snoo trying to calm her down when she’s grunting from gas/reflux drives her crazy and wakes her up.

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Anonymous wrote:We used the sleepea swaddle (the Snoo brand swaddle without the wings) for the first few weeks and our baby loved it and slept fine in his bassinet. Like others say, do it tighter than you even think you need. Then he woke up a little to the world and his tummy got really gassy and he hated being put down and only wanted to sleep on us on his tummy, and we desperately ordered a Snoo at 3 weeks and it was magical. You can also safely incline the Snoo (since they are strapped in) if it's gas/reflux troubles causing baby to not want to be placed flat on his back for sleep. We think this is ultimately a big reason the Snoo helped us. He slept better and better (despite awful gas, tongue and lip ties, general unhappiness all day) and was doing 10 hour stretches by 9-10 weeks old. Anyway, I know it's super expensive and not a practical tip if it's out of your budget, but if you can swing it, it really did save us. They offer rentals, or if you buy, you have 30 days to try it and return. You'll know within 30 days if your baby is taking to it.

NP. Did you do some of the other tricks the snoo recommends? Like the rice bag or towel under the legs? Our 7 week old gassy baby tolerates the snoo but locked in the baseline level, the snoo trying to calm her down when she’s grunting from gas/reflux drives her crazy and wakes her up.

We never tried the rice, but we did try to towel under the legs. I have no idea if it actually helped, but we stopped doing it after about a week or so. We started doing Little Remedies gas drops during the bedtime feeding and I swear that made the biggest difference (along with time). I think that, along with tuna cans under the legs to elevate the head both helped. And a warm bath every night with a tummy massage during the bath. He was SUPER grunty until about 9 or 10 weeks I want to say - if you look at our Snoo log, it's filled with red during the early AM hours. But the Snoo did seem to help him sleep through the grunts, and he liked the higher motion levels until the 4 month regression when he was over it all.