I miss falling for someone...

[Anonymous]

OP, there is a Tagalog word for it: kilig.

Yeah, I really miss it, too!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH feels the same way, so he ran off with another woman.

Limerence. He did it to me, too.

He will do it to this one too. It’s an addiction.

I know. He's convinced this is real. I actually hope he works on himself and makes it work this time. We lasted 12 years -- I think he was serious for about 6-7 of them.

How does this happen? What do you mean when you say he did it to you too? How do you know what is going on are you still married? I’m sorry, OP. I’d rather bow out than twist into a pretzel. Love is not complicated.

No, we're in the process of divorce.

He was similarly infatuated with me at first and really rushed things along. I was young and enjoyed the thrill, so I ignored the red flags.

I know what's going on because he told me, and some mutual friends have described his behavior and it's almost a carbon copy of the way he was with me. It's like a form of insanity.

[Anonymous]

Oh me too. I watch romcoms and spend the entire next day fuming at my husband. I hate being married, I hate having been married for 13 years and I hate being a mom. I want to meet people and flirt and feel excitement again.
The most exciting thing I can feel around my husband involves him taking the trash out. Sob.

[Anonymous]

PP in divorce I feel like I married the same man. I do t know if there was infidelity involved but doesn’t mater/ same crap.
OP, I’d say him deleting his profile isn’t a red flag.

Him telling you he did as a way of baiting or leading you to do the same is a red glad. He’s attempting to rush things along and he’s testing your willingness to be led.

[Anonymous]

I miss falling for forbidden fruit. It was such a great bad idea....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I miss the excitement of a new relationship but I don't miss realizing it's not going to work out and dealing with an exit. I've been married a long time and we get the sparks flying quite often but I really love how enduring the love is after well over 30 years. Now I get to fall in love with new grand babies!

+1 Real love is enduring and when grandchildren arrive you realize you do have a legacy and that loving them is part of the nurturing process. And if you and grandad can still make the bed rock all the better.

I feel sorry for all of these women. I’m still intensely attracted to my husband of 24 years. Vice versa. We can’t keep our hands off of each other and have the security comfort of unconditional love and family. I think back to our first weeks, months together and it only fuels the passion.

The thought of dating or having sex with someone else repulses me.

[Anonymous]

I read a lot of romance novels when I get like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I miss the excitement of a new relationship but I don't miss realizing it's not going to work out and dealing with an exit. I've been married a long time and we get the sparks flying quite often but I really love how enduring the love is after well over 30 years. Now I get to fall in love with new grand babies!

+1 Real love is enduring and when grandchildren arrive you realize you do have a legacy and that loving them is part of the nurturing process. And if you and grandad can still make the bed rock all the better.

I feel sorry for all of these women. I’m still intensely attracted to my husband of 24 years. Vice versa. We can’t keep our hands off of each other and have the security comfort of unconditional love and family. I think back to our first weeks, months together and it only fuels the passion.

The thought of dating or having sex with someone else repulses me.

Thanks. What a sweet comment. I was repulsed when my husband of 14 years walked out because he liked booze more than us. So sorry I reacted by doing all that “repulsive” dating after years of recovery and therapy. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I miss the excitement of a new relationship but I don't miss realizing it's not going to work out and dealing with an exit. I've been married a long time and we get the sparks flying quite often but I really love how enduring the love is after well over 30 years. Now I get to fall in love with new grand babies!

+1 Real love is enduring and when grandchildren arrive you realize you do have a legacy and that loving them is part of the nurturing process. And if you and grandad can still make the bed rock all the better.

I feel sorry for all of these women. I’m still intensely attracted to my husband of 24 years. Vice versa. We can’t keep our hands off of each other and have the security comfort of unconditional love and family. I think back to our first weeks, months together and it only fuels the passion.

The thought of dating or having sex with someone else repulses me.

Thanks. What a sweet comment. I was repulsed when my husband of 14 years walked out because he liked booze more than us. So sorry I reacted by doing all that “repulsive” dating after years of recovery and therapy. Thanks.

Sorry that happened. To be fair this post was dissatisfied bored married people missing new people. That is what I’m commenting to.

Your situation is awful. Truly sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just let myself fall for new men all the time. Coworkers, friends, neighbors, etc. I flirt with them and enjoy the high for a few weeks, they eventually do something that’s a huge turn off, and I lose all feelings. A month later I’ve found a new one.

Are you me?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I start yearning for that “fresh new love” excitement, I also read a romance novel. My favorites are the Scottish highlands ones for some reason. It gives the fix, and has the added benefit of charging me up sexually. DH likes when I read them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I start yearning for that “fresh new love” excitement, I also read a romance novel. My favorites are the Scottish highlands ones for some reason. It gives the fix, and has the added benefit of charging me up sexually. DH likes when I read them!

DH here. Can confirm. I’ve had some pretty hot sex after my wife reads a steamy romance novel. I didn’t really get what was happening at first when she used to tell me not to talk unless its in a scottish accent. Lol. I wish she would read them more often!

[Anonymous]

You can add sparks to the marriage which is not exactly the same as the new romance feeling but is close by doing something new together. DH and I took a dance class and it let us see a new side of each other which was fun and created some excitement. I really think it improved our marriage as a whole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I start yearning for that “fresh new love” excitement, I also read a romance novel. My favorites are the Scottish highlands ones for some reason. It gives the fix, and has the added benefit of charging me up sexually. DH likes when I read them!

DH here. Can confirm. I’ve had some pretty hot sex after my wife reads a steamy romance novel. I didn’t really get what was happening at first when she used to tell me not to talk unless its in a scottish accent. Lol. I wish she would read them more often!

+1 for the romance novels. You can bet that if your wife is panting and not caring that the bed hitting the wall might wake up the kids while telling you to be quiet - the highlander or some other romance novel dream guy is who she’s sleeping with. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aww the beauty of youth‼️
Nothing beats feeling like a schoolgirl in love...💞

Au contraire mon frère — being a mother is the most beautiful love in the world. You never come down from that high. 💖