Worth any type of reply (I’m not upset).

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Anonymous wrote:I’m going to go with the message that I hope is welcoming. We have zero drama and I want to keep it that way.

Commenting on Facebook is likely to start drama even if it’s a “nice” comment. I would leave it alone. Let her have her happy baby name announcement moment? What do you hope to accomplish by commenting?

+1. Unless you were tagged in that convo, do not post anything.

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Interesting, I’d think not saying anything could be misinterpreted as disapproval.

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I’d be annoyed if she didn’t talk to me first before posting on social media. There’s way too close of a connection to act like she didnt get the name from you. It’s like one degree separation.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting, I’d think not saying anything could be misinterpreted as disapproval.

I agree. I think OP's proposed response is absolutely perfect. Ignoring could cause more drama.

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FWIW, I knew I would name my DD “Larla” from a young age. I liked it for personal reasons. When I started on at work in my 20s, my intern group had a mentor named Larla. She was very close to all of us. Fast forward 10 years I got pregnant with a girl. She is Larla. When I told the name to people at work, those who knew that Larla automatically assumed I named my DD after her. I didn’t.

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I’d say, “As long as I don’t become ‘Big Larla,’ I’m happy. Congratulations!”

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Anonymous wrote:I’d say, “As long as I don’t become ‘Big Larla,’ I’m happy. Congratulations!”

This is a good point. Thanks, I hadn’t even thought of that.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting, I’d think not saying anything could be misinterpreted as disapproval.

I agree. I think OP's proposed response is absolutely perfect. Ignoring could cause more drama.

Thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:I’d be annoyed if she didn’t talk to me first before posting on social media. There’s way too close of a connection to act like she didnt get the name from you. It’s like one degree separation.

Yes, it is a little strange. The name is not from her culture either so this isn’t a case of deciding as a young girl that you would name your DD “Larla”. Nor is this her first baby girl. My name is not a match for the others in sound or context. I don’t want to discourage her, but I wonder if she has a bit of pregnancy brain and will look at the baby three days after birth and regret the choice.

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Perhaps she is worried about hurt feelings if someone thinks the baby is named after you? Both of my kids share names with uncles of mine but are not named after those uncles. DH and I just happen to have the same extremely traditional taste in names as my grandmother and grandfather (we had to nix a potential name for DC3 because it was going to be too weird if I had three kids with the same names as my mom’s brothers). Anyway...I didn’t want my ILs to think the kids were being specifically named after relatives on my side of the family and then feel left out if subsequent kids were not named for people on their side. Or for that matter, I didn’t want my Dad’s feelings to be hurt thinking I named my sons after his BIL instead of him. So I did, in fact, make a point of telling some people that they were not named after my uncles (not on Facebook but it also didn’t come up on Facebook). Is it possible there is some other awkwardness she is trying to avoid, like her mom demanding to know why she is naming the baby after you or something?

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Your response sounds good.

I do think it's weird though. All the names in the world and she picks one that's yours. Just saying.

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Anonymous wrote:Your SIL is cray.

(pssttt...why aren't you calling her husband crazy, too?)

Well the husband isn’t saying awkward things like “MY BABY ISNT NAMED AFTER MY SISTER SORAYA”

Asked and answered. The husband was behind the decision of the name and the public announcement of the name.

Well I did not ask a question and I'm unsure of how this response even responds to what I said so not as clear as you think!

I think knowing its DH's SIL rather than OP's SIL makes it a little less weird but still, strange to go out of your way to emphasize that in a public setting. There are ways to have responded that would have come off less aggressive ie, "Yes SIL is named that! I had never heard the name before and just fell in love with it." That clearly says 'its about the name' without going out of your way to make sure someone KNOWS they aren't being honored.

I don't think its worth blowing anything up over but its weird and I would say a 3/10 on the aggression scale and OP isn't crazy for noticing something is peculiar here.

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Anonymous wrote:Your response sounds good.

I do think it's weird though. All the names in the world and she picks one that's yours. Just saying.

It’s extremely insensitive. I get Emily very popular name but from a foreign culture that’s not yours and is your SIL. Super weird.

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Anonymous wrote:Just heart your sister's post and comment

THIS

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Just like the post and move on. Others will make more of it than it needs be so just be upbeat. You can just say things like "I'll have a special connection to my niece," "I love it and I'll always spell it correctly!" or "This will be so fun. I never thought I'd have someone to pass my personalized things down to!"

My DD has the same somewhat unusual name as a married-into-the-family member's sister. We do see her regularly and we just use their first and middle names for those times. They both have always enjoyed their special link and yes, she gave be a beautiful personalized baby gift.