My husband insists on meat and potatoes every night

[Anonymous]

That was my father growing up. This was our weekly menu:

Sunday: Pot roast, potatoes, carrots
Monday: Chicken fried steak, potatoes, broccoli, mac n cheese
Tuesday: T-bone Steak, potatoes, asparagus
Wed: meatloaf, mashed potatoes, salad
Thursday: Tri-Tip,
Friday: (My favorite day of the week)- Pizza or cold cereal because my mom insisted on at least one day off from cooking a week)
Saturday: Ate out, my dad grilled more beef, or my mom made beef stew

My dad is 85 and still eating beef every night- no chicken, no fish, no pork.

[Anonymous]

Drop the rope, OP. Let him cook his meal. Make yourself whatever you and the kids want.

[Anonymous]

This is easy, op!! So easy. You tell him that you want to respect his wishes to be in charge of his own food. You say that since you don’t want to mess anything up, you’re going to give him full control of the kitchen for dinner for the next month. Once he’s planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning up every night...he’s going to realize what a complete pain in the butt it is and he’s going to drop the rope, I have no doubt about it. It’s easy for him now because he gets to swoop in and take 15 minutes to grill a piece of meat while standing outside and checking his phone. Once he had to cook a multi-faceted meal for the family every night it’s going to get very old to him (and to your kids—a few weeks of eating daddy’s food won’t kill them)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are bored of your husband’s meat and two veg I’d say you have bigger marital problems than what to have for dinner.

Oh deeeear

[Anonymous]

One night a week the whole family should join him. The rest of the time you and the kids eat other foods. He has to shop and clean up for his own needs. Unless he has health issues, he is entitled to eat what he wants as an adult.

[Anonymous]

what are you cooking OP? Is it possible you're not cooking enough and he's still hungry or doesn't feel full?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is easy, op!! So easy. You tell him that you want to respect his wishes to be in charge of his own food. You say that since you don’t want to mess anything up, you’re going to give him full control of the kitchen for dinner for the next month. Once he’s planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning up every night...he’s going to realize what a complete pain in the butt it is and he’s going to drop the rope, I have no doubt about it. It’s easy for him now because he gets to swoop in and take 15 minutes to grill a piece of meat while standing outside and checking his phone. Once he had to cook a multi-faceted meal for the family every night it’s going to get very old to him (and to your kids—a few weeks of eating daddy’s food won’t kill them)

It's also nice for him because he gets to make a big public show of disrespect and "Isn't mom's cooking awful?" for everyone. I think that's a big motivation. I know I would never start cooking my own meal if someone had taken the time to cook a meal for me, because it's rude and really kind of offensive. If you do that you know it's rude and you're doing it on purpose, perhaps to send some kind of weird message

[Anonymous]

How good of a cook are you? And how much food do you make? I askjust in case you are that pp that thinks people should eat one drumstick and tiny bit of rice for dinner.
Maybe he is still hungry?

[Anonymous]

How does your healthy, flavourful taste?

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is easy, op!! So easy. You tell him that you want to respect his wishes to be in charge of his own food. You say that since you don’t want to mess anything up, you’re going to give him full control of the kitchen for dinner for the next month. Once he’s planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning up every night...he’s going to realize what a complete pain in the butt it is and he’s going to drop the rope, I have no doubt about it. It’s easy for him now because he gets to swoop in and take 15 minutes to grill a piece of meat while standing outside and checking his phone. Once he had to cook a multi-faceted meal for the family every night it’s going to get very old to him (and to your kids—a few weeks of eating daddy’s food won’t kill them)

Ten bucks says he’ll cook enough for himself and everyone else will be hungry.

[Anonymous]

Does he like fish? Could you make salmon once a week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is easy, op!! So easy. You tell him that you want to respect his wishes to be in charge of his own food. You say that since you don’t want to mess anything up, you’re going to give him full control of the kitchen for dinner for the next month. Once he’s planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning up every night...he’s going to realize what a complete pain in the butt it is and he’s going to drop the rope, I have no doubt about it. It’s easy for him now because he gets to swoop in and take 15 minutes to grill a piece of meat while standing outside and checking his phone. Once he had to cook a multi-faceted meal for the family every night it’s going to get very old to him (and to your kids—a few weeks of eating daddy’s food won’t kill them)

It's also nice for him because he gets to make a big public show of disrespect and "Isn't mom's cooking awful?" for everyone. I think that's a big motivation. I know I would never start cooking my own meal if someone had taken the time to cook a meal for me, because it's rude and really kind of offensive. If you do that you know it's rude and you're doing it on purpose, perhaps to send some kind of weird message

At worst this is blatant disrespect and poor modeling. At best, it's incredibly inefficient for you both to be cooking each night. If he wants to cook, he can be in charge half the time, making enough food for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is easy, op!! So easy. You tell him that you want to respect his wishes to be in charge of his own food. You say that since you don’t want to mess anything up, you’re going to give him full control of the kitchen for dinner for the next month. Once he’s planning, shopping, cooking, and cleaning up every night...he’s going to realize what a complete pain in the butt it is and he’s going to drop the rope, I have no doubt about it. It’s easy for him now because he gets to swoop in and take 15 minutes to grill a piece of meat while standing outside and checking his phone. Once he had to cook a multi-faceted meal for the family every night it’s going to get very old to him (and to your kids—a few weeks of eating daddy’s food won’t kill them)

It's also nice for him because he gets to make a big public show of disrespect and "Isn't mom's cooking awful?" for everyone. I think that's a big motivation. I know I would never start cooking my own meal if someone had taken the time to cook a meal for me, because it's rude and really kind of offensive. If you do that you know it's rude and you're doing it on purpose, perhaps to send some kind of weird message

At worst this is blatant disrespect and poor modeling. At best, it's incredibly inefficient for you both to be cooking each night. If he wants to cook, he can be in charge half the time, making enough food for everyone.

+1 I would try to reach an agreement like this, trading off on the meals. I would enjoy my nights off from cooking and concentrate on the veggies those nights!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband's dinner is a lot more healthy than pizza, chips, fast food etc. There is a lot of nutrition in a potato, a vegetable and a protein.

+1

While I’d personally get a little bored of the same thing every night, that sounds really healthy actually-assuming the potato isn’t ginormous. Grilled meat, vegetable, and a filling, unprocessed starch sounds balanced and delicious. I thought we had moved past the low-fat craze of the 80’s, but I guess some people are stuck unfortunately.