Trying to support friend but it’s hard - cheating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Btdt.

You clearly say we are not friends if you are in an affair. If you break up and get therapy we can be friends.

Why are you friends? You need therapy to figure that out and why you can’t create healthy boundaries.

Great post. She's a co-cheater actively destroying a family and the poor kids lives. Who knows what the wife will do if she finds out. A few years ago a wife killed the AP and then herself. I agree, she needs to get therapy to see why she would do such a thing. Liars and cheaters will cross others as well OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Btdt.

You clearly say we are not friends if you are in an affair. If you break up and get therapy we can be friends.

Why are you friends? You need therapy to figure that out and why you can’t create healthy boundaries.

Wow. Morality police.

Agree with the poster that the friend needs counseling and she should put up clear boundaries in place.
It’s not about being a moral police but rather about a good friend who is not comfortable with friends’ actions.

Clutch those pearls!

Raise your bar!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe she's texting your larger friend group about this!!! Damn girl, be discreet! How does she not know how bad that makes her look? Bizarre.

Agreed. Very odd.

I’m sure the married guy would just live to know his name is all over the friend group too. Talk about discretion. That’s what he deserves. Dirt ball

OP you and some of your friends should contact the wife via social media. I would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s a gross person to abandon his wife because the kids are severely disabled. Saddle her with the burden and run off into the sunset with a new young thing. Speaks volumes about his character. Why would anyone think a man like that is a prize?

Right. This person who is single and in her early 30's with no kids may not "get it." I mean, yeah, she may that she knows what she is doing is wrong, but until you've been "cheated on" in this situation, you may not truly get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe she's texting your larger friend group about this!!! Damn girl, be discreet! How does she not know how bad that makes her look? Bizarre.

Agreed. Very odd.

I’m sure the married guy would just live to know his name is all over the friend group too. Talk about discretion. That’s what he deserves. Dirt ball

OP you and some of your friends should contact the wife via social media. I would.

This is a thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Btdt.

You clearly say we are not friends if you are in an affair. If you break up and get therapy we can be friends.

Why are you friends? You need therapy to figure that out and why you can’t create healthy boundaries.

Wow. Morality police.

NO. Choose your friends wisely is something you teach kids starting in K, where did you miss that lesson.

Why do you think you don't deserve a group of friends that are not a mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Btdt.

You clearly say we are not friends if you are in an affair. If you break up and get therapy we can be friends.

Why are you friends? You need therapy to figure that out and why you can’t create healthy boundaries.

Wow. Morality police.

Agree with the poster that the friend needs counseling and she should put up clear boundaries in place.
It’s not about being a moral police but rather about a good friend who is not comfortable with friends’ actions.

Clutch those pearls!

You must be a cheater. Listen, get therapy. People who are mentally healthy don't cheat, it's not about morality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a gross person to abandon his wife because the kids are severely disabled. Saddle her with the burden and run off into the sunset with a new young thing. Speaks volumes about his character. Why would anyone think a man like that is a prize?

Right. This person who is single and in her early 30's with no kids may not "get it." I mean, yeah, she may that she knows what she is doing is wrong, but until you've been "cheated on" in this situation, you may not truly get it.

She may not "get it" from the wife's perspective. But worse "she does not get it" from a single 30-someting without kids. She is desperate, she has decided that 30 is "too late" so she needs to "lower" her standards and get with a married man and try that.

She is probably single still because she has issues she never fixed and now she is still acting out due to basically sucking at life.

She needs therapy first, get single, create a good life, find somebody (or not)... once you love yourself you don't need a dude to fix your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe she's texting your larger friend group about this!!! Damn girl, be discreet! How does she not know how bad that makes her look? Bizarre.

Agreed. Very odd.

I’m sure the married guy would just live to know his name is all over the friend group too. Talk about discretion. That’s what he deserves. Dirt ball

OP you and some of your friends should contact the wife via social media. I would.

+100. She deserves to know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe she's texting your larger friend group about this!!! Damn girl, be discreet! How does she not know how bad that makes her look? Bizarre.

Agreed. Very odd.

I’m sure the married guy would just live to know his name is all over the friend group too. Talk about discretion. That’s what he deserves. Dirt ball

OP you and some of your friends should contact the wife via social media. I would.

Is this what the friend is hoping for? Big blow up, destroy the marriage, then she swoops in? It would explain why she sends texts about it to your entire friend group. If the husband knew how many other people knew, he might take a look inward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Btdt.

You clearly say we are not friends if you are in an affair. If you break up and get therapy we can be friends.

Why are you friends? You need therapy to figure that out and why you can’t create healthy boundaries.

Wow. Morality police.

Agree with the poster that the friend needs counseling and she should put up clear boundaries in place.
It’s not about being a moral police but rather about a good friend who is not comfortable with friends’ actions.

Clutch those pearls!

Raise your bar!

+2, and close your legs!

[Anonymous]

It is not your life. Stay out of it. If it bothers your morally tell your friend and then stay away.

Don't judge her, he's the one lying to someone else, he's the one married, he's the one with the lack of morals.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Btdt.

You clearly say we are not friends if you are in an affair. If you break up and get therapy we can be friends.

Why are you friends? You need therapy to figure that out and why you can’t create healthy boundaries.

Wow. Morality police.

Agree with the poster that the friend needs counseling and she should put up clear boundaries in place.
It’s not about being a moral police but rather about a good friend who is not comfortable with friends’ actions.

Clutch those pearls!

Raise your bar!

+2, and close your legs!

Yes! Blame women and their sexuality again. Cause that’s never happened before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not your life. Stay out of it. If it bothers your morally tell your friend and then stay away.

Don't judge her, he's the one lying to someone else, he's the one married, he's the one with the lack of morals.

Agree. I place more blame on him because he’s cheating and lying to her. She may hav poor judgment but she is the single one.