Where do older people go that don’t have money?

[Anonymous]

I think I will kill myself before it comes to this. Not kidding.

[Anonymous]

As PP pointed out, a lot depends on whether they had equity in a home. If they own a home, can scrape by on social security checks until medical needs are too great, or can get a reverse mortgage or sell.

[Anonymous]

Mine had very little. Went to nursing home. Lived in a bed in a room with three others until she died.

Random dementia people came by the room wandering in and out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a happy existence. If you don't have family, hope you die before you get old.

+1

I’m unmarried and have no kids or family. Before things get bad, I plan to go to the Netherlands to do assisted suicide. I’m probably good until 55-60. Then I want out.

How old are you? Are you I'll? I say this because I play tennis, do judo and even go trail running with people in that age range, I'm 40. Many many of them lock my butt. Most all of them are still working full time or in their semi retired gig.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As PP pointed out, a lot depends on whether they had equity in a home. If they own a home, can scrape by on social security checks until medical needs are too great, or can get a reverse mortgage or sell.

Yep. Social security assumes that you have a paid off house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a happy existence. If you don't have family, hope you die before you get old.

+1

I’m unmarried and have no kids or family. Before things get bad, I plan to go to the Netherlands to do assisted suicide. I’m probably good until 55-60. Then I want out.

You don't even have to go that far, just go just south of the border to Rosarito, Mexico.

[Anonymous]

My dad always said he’d commit suicide before he ever got too old or too senile to take care of himself...problem was, he got dementia and didn’t remember. Now he’s in a nursing home, the only thing we could do after taking care of him for years and finally becoming unable to - his needs were beyond anything we could do no matter how hard we tried. He would kill him self if he knew here he was...but he doesn’t. It’s a relatively nice place, even with three in a room. The people taking care of him are kind and competent.
But if you say you are going to “do yourself in” before “that happens to you” then you need to do it while you’re aware...when you wouldn’t...sigh...I’m not looking forward to getting older...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As PP pointed out, a lot depends on whether they had equity in a home. If they own a home, can scrape by on social security checks until medical needs are too great, or can get a reverse mortgage or sell.

Exactly. My grandma was working to middle class but by she was extremely lucky to buy a single family home in silicon valley when it was still a sleepy little area full of orchards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I will kill myself before it comes to this. Not kidding.

+1. DH and I will hopefully have plenty of money in our later years if we stay on our current track. We do have kids, but I/we have zero desire to stick around if we can't wipe our own butts or remember each other's names, or make our kids supervise our care if it gets to that point. We have an agreement about how we'll handle it when the time comes, although I hope there's an assisted suicide law passed before that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a happy existence. If you don't have family, hope you die before you get old.

+1

I’m unmarried and have no kids or family. Before things get bad, I plan to go to the Netherlands to do assisted suicide. I’m probably good until 55-60. Then I want out.

I want out before dementia sets in. I’ve seen the whole cycle 4 times already. Not for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I will kill myself before it comes to this. Not kidding.

+1. DH and I will hopefully have plenty of money in our later years if we stay on our current track. We do have kids, but I/we have zero desire to stick around if we can't wipe our own butts or remember each other's names, or make our kids supervise our care if it gets to that point. We have an agreement about how we'll handle it when the time comes, although I hope there's an assisted suicide law passed before that.

Yeah I watched the long and awful decline of my grandmother and my dad and the whole process was so drawn out and traumatizing for everyone involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad always said he’d commit suicide before he ever got too old or too senile to take care of himself...problem was, he got dementia and didn’t remember. Now he’s in a nursing home, the only thing we could do after taking care of him for years and finally becoming unable to - his needs were beyond anything we could do no matter how hard we tried. He would kill him self if he knew here he was...but he doesn’t. It’s a relatively nice place, even with three in a room. The people taking care of him are kind and competent.
But if you say you are going to “do yourself in” before “that happens to you” then you need to do it while you’re aware...when you wouldn’t...sigh...I’m not looking forward to getting older...

My father would have moments of clarity from Dementia and beg me to end it. You have to be brave and determination .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad always said he’d commit suicide before he ever got too old or too senile to take care of himself...problem was, he got dementia and didn’t remember. Now he’s in a nursing home, the only thing we could do after taking care of him for years and finally becoming unable to - his needs were beyond anything we could do no matter how hard we tried. He would kill him self if he knew here he was...but he doesn’t. It’s a relatively nice place, even with three in a room. The people taking care of him are kind and competent.
But if you say you are going to “do yourself in” before “that happens to you” then you need to do it while you’re aware...when you wouldn’t...sigh...I’m not looking forward to getting older...

+1. MIL was sharp as a tack before she tripped, fell and hit her head on a piece of furniture. She sustained a TBI and has no short-term memory. She now lives in a private care home and cries whenever people visit her. She would hate to be living like this.

[Anonymous]

Everyone thinks they would end it but when you are getting dementia you don’t have a good sense of how you are doing. And there is still a lot of quality life left at that point that you would forfeit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a happy existence. If you don't have family, hope you die before you get old.

+1

I’m unmarried and have no kids or family. Before things get bad, I plan to go to the Netherlands to do assisted suicide. I’m probably good until 55-60. Then I want out.

How old are you? Are you I'll? I say this because I play tennis, do judo and even go trail running with people in that age range, I'm 40. Many many of them lock my butt. Most all of them are still working full time or in their semi retired gig.

Pp will change their mind at 59.