Returning a Lost Item to a Parent

[Anonymous]

Your husband could have been nicer. I suggest they arrange for a package pick-up via the USPS or via UPS. Otherwise, yes, they need to come get it and not expect you to deliver it if you don’t live close by.

[Anonymous]

Team husband.

You should text Karyn back and say, “yes, it was rude of family who left a $250 bat behind to ask us to drive an hour to mail it to them.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous that they asked you to send it to them. They can come and get it

YES! This!

[Anonymous]

Can't you send it at the receivers cost?

[Anonymous]

DH was right. But I wouldn't leave a $250 item on your porch. Tell them to come get it. "We're not in a position to drive the hour to you or take the bat to a shipping store. You're more than welcome to come by any day this week between 9am-6pm to pick it up!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH was right. But I wouldn't leave a $250 item on your porch. Tell them to come get it. "We're not in a position to drive the hour to you or take the bat to a shipping store. You're more than welcome to come by any day this week between 9am-6pm to pick it up!"

This is the most sensible response. The other parent is rude, period. The other mom is a busybody. Your H had the right idea but botched the delivery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Suggest to the mom who texted you on the side that maybe she would like to pick it up and drop it off to the family.

Haha. I'm so petty. I would have responded to busybody mom " Thanks Sue!. So kind of you to volunteer to drop the bat at Karen's house."

I suspect there's a little group of grown up mean girls and queen bees amongst the families and busy body mom uis queen bee's attack dog.

[Anonymous]

My husband would have said the same thing and not out of rudeness. He's just blunt.

That said, screw the family that think you exists to clean up after them. Even if they sent you funds to mail it you're in for a huge errand of getting a proper box, packaging it, driving to the post office during a pandemic and then actually spending your own money.

I can't get a handyman to show up for odd jobs for less than $125 but youre supposed to do all this?

No way.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure the bat being left behind was an accident? I’d at least think about that if you intend to continue with the team. It’s expensive and necessairy and just not the sort of thing someone accidentally leaves and then doesn’t move heaven and earth to get back.

As for the other mom, did she think it was your son texting? You could always respond by saying “You are referring to my husband, not my son, and my husband is right, we aren’t a delivery service. If you would like to function as delivery service, come on over”. Then if she shows up, get a picture of her taking the bat so you don’t get tagged if it disappears, this is why door cameras are popular, you get pictures without taking someone’s picture.

I also wonder too why your husband got involved if the womenfolk had it under control. I’m a woman btw. Were you upset about the bat? If so, then you have a good husband. If you didn’t like how he handled the situation then first think about how you handle stress and if he’s trying to help you.

If the bat didn’t bother you at all, then your husband needs to cool his jets, he’s right, but he isn’t nice. Nobody else has to put up with him or his bluntness and his bluntness could very likely filter down to how you and your kid are treated. It’s not fair, but people respond to how parents behave.

Finally, I’d wonder why you care so much about what another mom says to do. What exactly is her hold over you? Again, I’ve had texted her back with what I said earlier “you are referring to my husband, not my son, and if you’d like to deliver the bat, you are welcome to do so”.

I also wouldn’t leave the bat on the porch, not given how expensive it is.


Finally, this sort of nonsense is what can kill a person’s desire to help others. Don’t be surprised if your husband can’t muster the energy to help in the future, not when he’s technically correct, and more importantly, not when he is treated like a schoolboy.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one in the time of Covid who would jump at the chance to get in the car without my kids, put on a good podcast and drive the 40 minutes to drop off the bat? Maybe throw in a side trip - grab curb side lunch in Old Town and drive down the Parkway and have a picnic in my car looking at the water on the way.

[Anonymous]

Your husband was right and he was not rude. Well, maybe I would not have included "No," but who cares. The family was so rude to expect you to drive it or mail it. It's their problem, not yours.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't have to drive it out to them. You can offer to ship it like others said after they pay or maybe give it to the coach. I would not drive it out there. Not your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one in the time of Covid who would jump at the chance to get in the car without my kids, put on a good podcast and drive the 40 minutes to drop off the bat? Maybe throw in a side trip - grab curb side lunch in Old Town and drive down the Parkway and have a picnic in my car looking at the water on the way.

My child lost something hiking with his cub scouts. Another family also with their pack found it and hunted us down and left it outside for us. I could not imagine telling them to drop it off (possibly they might have) or mailing it. But, it wasn't worth much and I replaced it but went to get it as it was so nice they found it and took the time to hunt us down (in a very impressive way as we aren't easy to find). You go get it and say thank you.

[Anonymous]

The gall of some people. Even if they offered to pay I would not want to bother with making a special trip to the post office during covid.

[Anonymous]

The other family is entitled. It was nice of you to pick up the bat and send the email out. Your husband was understandably annoyed.