Third piercing dilemma

[Anonymous]

Pretty unanimous feedback here, OP, but to add another voice - I’m 46, very senior at a big bank (the kind of place people still wear conservative suits to work (or at least did until we all started working from home)). I got a 3rd piercing at about her age. I havent put an earring in it for probably 20 years. I just got out of bed to look in the mirror, and someone would have to be right up in my face to see the hole. So I’d say, let her get it, and remind her when she’s in her 20s that it may be time to let it go, depending on her career choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD (15) has recently been hounding me, asking for a third ear lobe piercing. I am unsure about it, my DH and I are worried it is unprofessional and looks trashy. Both of my DDs have double ear piercings, which I initially objected to but relented, and I have been pleased with their earring choices, which have looked very nice. What do you think about third piercings in general?
My other DD (17) has also shown interest in a cartilage piercing on one ear, so I would appreciate advice on that as well. Thanks!!

I had 4 in one ear and became a hooker because of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hounded my mom for a third piercing for years and years and years and she never let me get it. Now I work in a field where this is very much frowned upon and am I so grateful my mom didn’t give in. I feel bad for people who have a visible third hole, because it looks so tacky.

There is literally no field where a tiny earlobe scar is frowned upon. Even .ideas have tattoos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD (15) has recently been hounding me, asking for a third ear lobe piercing. I am unsure about it, my DH and I are worried it is unprofessional and looks trashy. Both of my DDs have double ear piercings, which I initially objected to but relented, and I have been pleased with their earring choices, which have looked very nice. What do you think about third piercings in general?
My other DD (17) has also shown interest in a cartilage piercing on one ear, so I would appreciate advice on that as well. Thanks!!

I had 4 in one ear and became a hooker because of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine - not worth fighting this battle. It's easy enough to take out an earring when she's older.

But the hole will still be visible, which is almost worse than a third earring.

Why are you examining people’s earlobes?

[Anonymous]

Meh. My parents wouldn’t let me get a third hole and so I pierced them myself. At that point my mom let me keep them because she was just....tired.
Now I’m a dentist and I still wear teeny tiny earrings in all of them. Not all the time but fairly often 😎 (I’m not a regular dentist....I’m a cool dentist!!!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hounded my mom for a third piercing for years and years and years and she never let me get it. Now I work in a field where this is very much frowned upon and am I so grateful my mom didn’t give in. I feel bad for people who have a visible third hole, because it looks so tacky.

I have no idea why you don't have anything better to do at work than look for people's "trashy" third holes, but you need to get a life and stop dispensing advice based on your weird hangups. Unless you work for some religious order where body modification is considered inexcusably sinful or a military installation that has rigid rules, the vast majority of workplaces could not care less if someone has a tiny pinhole in their ear. Frankly, if you're close enough to me to count the empty piercing holes on my lobes, I'd like you to get some guidance from HR on appropriate personal space.

I work in a very straight-laced, conservative industry, and no one gives a shit about someone having a third hole, occupied or not, in their ears. No one gives a shit about all the men who have a piercing scar on one ear from their time in college in the 80s and 90s but no longer wear anything in it. No one gives a shit about the people who have tiny nasal studs, either. A lip wring, Monroe, eyebrow ring would be a no-go, but many, many people have multiple ear piercings, including thirds and cartilage. Some even have - gasp! - tattoos that are visible when they're not wearing a suit jacket.

[Anonymous]

I got a second and third piercing in one ear in college and have worn tiny diamond studs in them for most of my professional career. No one has said a word about them, and I've been promoted to a c-suite position in a field not known for its progressiveness. Cannot see how this would be an issue at all, in terms of employability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hounded my mom for a third piercing for years and years and years and she never let me get it. Now I work in a field where this is very much frowned upon and am I so grateful my mom didn’t give in. I feel bad for people who have a visible third hole, because it looks so tacky.

I have no idea why you don't have anything better to do at work than look for people's "trashy" third holes, but you need to get a life and stop dispensing advice based on your weird hangups. Unless you work for some religious order where body modification is considered inexcusably sinful or a military installation that has rigid rules, the vast majority of workplaces could not care less if someone has a tiny pinhole in their ear. Frankly, if you're close enough to me to count the empty piercing holes on my lobes, I'd like you to get some guidance from HR on appropriate personal space.

I work in a very straight-laced, conservative industry, and no one gives a shit about someone having a third hole, occupied or not, in their ears. No one gives a shit about all the men who have a piercing scar on one ear from their time in college in the 80s and 90s but no longer wear anything in it. No one gives a shit about the people who have tiny nasal studs, either. A lip wring, Monroe, eyebrow ring would be a no-go, but many, many people have multiple ear piercings, including thirds and cartilage. Some even have - gasp! - tattoos that are visible when they're not wearing a suit jacket.

I have no idea why you have nothin better to do than to troll for old threads just so you can rant and rave and dispense your irrelevant thoughts......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD (15) has recently been hounding me, asking for a third ear lobe piercing. I am unsure about it, my DH and I are worried it is unprofessional and looks trashy. Both of my DDs have double ear piercings, which I initially objected to but relented, and I have been pleased with their earring choices, which have looked very nice. What do you think about third piercings in general?
My other DD (17) has also shown interest in a cartilage piercing on one ear, so I would appreciate advice on that as well. Thanks!!

I’m with you —They are entering the ages of jobs, internships, serious interactions with professors at school – I think it looks trashy.

[Anonymous]

Serious interactions with professors, lol. Some Boomer with worn-our corduroys cannot even see your kid’s earlobe

[Anonymous]

Just let her do it. It isn't permanent, and you should be grateful she is telling you about it and not just going out and getting it done. Be thankful she isn't clamoring for a tattoo or for those hideous earlobe stretching plugs. This is really a very small thing, OP. Let her do it and she will see that she can trust you, and will continue to communicate with you (so you can discourage her if she decides on something more permanent in the future).

Even if it looks trashy, who cares? She will take out most of the piercings in a few years and the holes will grow over.

I think that multiple piercings for teen girls do seem to be coming back, but small dainty earrings seem to be what they wear. Maybe you can buy your daughter some really nice small gold hoops for one set of holes, or some small, pretty gold studs?

[Anonymous]

OP, when I was a freshman at Harvard, I had a TF with a pierced navel. I thought she was so cool... I got my own navel pierced just before our first break.

Piercings really aren't a big deal, and people in all stations and walks of life have them. Your daughter can take them out if she wants later. Pick your battles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, when I was a freshman at Harvard, I had a TF with a pierced navel. I thought she was so cool... I got my own navel pierced just before our first break.

Piercings really aren't a big deal, and people in all stations and walks of life have them. Your daughter can take them out if she wants later. Pick your battles.

It only certain type of people have them, you realize that?

[Anonymous]

Enlighten us, what "type of people"?