Do you feel emotionally affected when you see your wife cry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband gets annoyed and tells me to grow a thicker skin.

He's right, though. They got your order wrong in the drivethrough, but that's why you don't go to the drive-through. They f*ck you in the drive-through, and by the time you figure it out, you're miles away and you can't go back but there's no point in crying about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to get very upset when my girlfriend/wife cried. Eventually I realized I was being manipulated. We aren't very close anymore, although we are still married. She doesn't cry anymore either, partly due to medication and partly because she doesn't care about me very much anymore. It's not a good situation.

She probably doesn't care about you anymore because you assumed she was trying to manipulate you by crying, instead of comforting her.

[Anonymous]

Wouldn't this depend on the wife and whether she is known to overreact and/or cry at the drop of a hat?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I used to get very upset when my girlfriend/wife cried. Eventually I realized I was being manipulated. We aren't very close anymore, although we are still married. She doesn't cry anymore either, partly due to medication and partly because she doesn't care about me very much anymore. It's not a good situation.

She probably doesn't care about you anymore because you assumed she was trying to manipulate you by crying, instead of comforting her.

Growing up, my mom was like PPs husband. People like that exist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I used to get very upset when my girlfriend/wife cried. Eventually I realized I was being manipulated. We aren't very close anymore, although we are still married. She doesn't cry anymore either, partly due to medication and partly because she doesn't care about me very much anymore. It's not a good situation.

She probably doesn't care about you anymore because you assumed she was trying to manipulate you by crying, instead of comforting her.

My thoughts as well. How do you expect the wife to behave towards you if you believe that she is manipulative? Strange.

[Anonymous]

When my husband has cried I will do anything to make it stop. To the detriment of myself, tbh. But I cannot handle it.

[Anonymous]

I married the son of a narcissist and controlling a*hole. Genes are coming to the surface.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When a husband sees his wife cry, is it a painful sight? Does he also feel like crying as well? How does it affect him emotionally?

I know some women who can’t stand to see their husbands cry, they automatically cry if they see their husband cry. I was wondering how does a woman’s tears affect a man emotionally?

Stuck on the answer for your psych final eh?

There seems to be a poster on here who poses these strange questions. Haven't determined if teen trying to figure out how to act in a relationship or someone with some social issues and are trying to figure out how women work.

What were some of the strange questions you've seen posted?

I'm an Adjunct professor and I absolutely agree with the bolded PP.
Questions such as this are most likely being composed by a psychology, sociology or anthropology student who is performing research.

The PP asked for another example and there are many to choose from, however there's another very current one this one that's also in Relationship Discussions (shockingly) titled "Men how do you feel about your female partners gray hair".

One indication that these were both composed by students is the diction that's used starting in the subject line.
The manner in which these posts were fashioned is NOT the way that someone who is hoping for an honest, alternating exchange or an enlightening discussion would write it... there's absolutely nothing personal about these posts.

They are written like an educator presenting research work to their students.

Another indicator.
The OP poses their questions, but never chimes in again after their intial post. Not. Even. Once.

There's no natural back and forth discussion or even a single follow up post made by the OP after their very first post.

Someone who is *genuinely* asking these types of questions, typically has their own personal experiences or history to compare and contrast with the responses they receive.
The OP provides nothing, nada, zilch.

Lastly... the post about the gray hair asks the impersonal question "Men how do you feel about your female partners gray hair" and then in their post they write "Are you ok with it, don’t care, or prefer upkeep to get rid of it?".
Does that seem like someone who's asking for themselves, or does it seem like you're being asked to answer their poll or they're trying to collect data from you?

Once again, the OP provides nothing.

It's almost like these two posts were generated by robots, as there's absolutely NOTHING personal about them (of course they'll fix these "tells" and oversights in the future, as to ensure we keep doing their work for them).

FYI - anonymous sites such as this are treasure troves of personal knowledge, information, material and experiences.
Sites like this can be essential when performing research for classes such as general, abnormal or developmental psychology, anthropology or really any classes that require a percentage of the data be obtained by gathering and interpreting the experiences of others (as opposed to information that can only be found in a textbook).

Students have openly stated that they'll manipulate sites such as this one to obtain data for their research.

One student even bragged about having to "stir the pot".
He stated that he would act like he was a new poster (not the OP) and would reply in a polarizing or controversial manner as to ensure the discussion becoming stimulated again.
He claimed that this was his "go to" when his posts would lose interest, traction or if they weren't getting enough attention OR if he didn't have enough research & data to complete the assignment yet.

Folks... if you're reading a post that seems noticeably unfeeling, impersonal/missing a personal aspect to it or if it looks like it was generated by a computer/robot, chances are you're being USED to complete some kids homework, term paper, essay or thesis statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When a husband sees his wife cry, is it a painful sight? Does he also feel like crying as well? How does it affect him emotionally?

I know some women who can’t stand to see their husbands cry, they automatically cry if they see their husband cry. I was wondering how does a woman’s tears affect a man emotionally?

Stuck on the answer for your psych final eh?

There seems to be a poster on here who poses these strange questions. Haven't determined if teen trying to figure out how to act in a relationship or someone with some social issues and are trying to figure out how women work.

What were some of the strange questions you've seen posted?

I'm an Adjunct professor and I absolutely agree with the bolded PP.
Questions such as this are most likely being composed by a psychology, sociology or anthropology student who is performing research.

The PP asked for another example and there are many to choose from, however there's another very current one this one that's also in Relationship Discussions (shockingly) titled "Men how do you feel about your female partners gray hair".

One indication that these were both composed by students is the diction that's used starting in the subject line.
The manner in which these posts were fashioned is NOT the way that someone who is hoping for an honest, alternating exchange or an enlightening discussion would write it... there's absolutely nothing personal about these posts.

They are written like an educator presenting research work to their students.

Another indicator.
The OP poses their questions, but never chimes in again after their intial post. Not. Even. Once.

There's no natural back and forth discussion or even a single follow up post made by the OP after their very first post.

Someone who is *genuinely* asking these types of questions, typically has their own personal experiences or history to compare and contrast with the responses they receive.
The OP provides nothing, nada, zilch.

Lastly... the post about the gray hair asks the impersonal question "Men how do you feel about your female partners gray hair" and then in their post they write "Are you ok with it, don’t care, or prefer upkeep to get rid of it?".
Does that seem like someone who's asking for themselves, or does it seem like you're being asked to answer their poll or they're trying to collect data from you?

Once again, the OP provides nothing.

It's almost like these two posts were generated by robots, as there's absolutely NOTHING personal about them (of course they'll fix these "tells" and oversights in the future, as to ensure we keep doing their work for them).

FYI - anonymous sites such as this are treasure troves of personal knowledge, information, material and experiences.
Sites like this can be essential when performing research for classes such as general, abnormal or developmental psychology, anthropology or really any classes that require a percentage of the data be obtained by gathering and interpreting the experiences of others (as opposed to information that can only be found in a textbook).

Students have openly stated that they'll manipulate sites such as this one to obtain data for their research.

One student even bragged about having to "stir the pot".
He stated that he would act like he was a new poster (not the OP) and would reply in a polarizing or controversial manner as to ensure the discussion becoming stimulated again.
He claimed that this was his "go to" when his posts would lose interest, traction or if they weren't getting enough attention OR if he didn't have enough research & data to complete the assignment yet.

Folks... if you're reading a post that seems noticeably unfeeling, impersonal/missing a personal aspect to it or if it looks like it was generated by a computer/robot, chances are you're being USED to complete some kids homework, term paper, essay or thesis statement.

Why is this a bad thing though? It's not hurting anyone, and if you don't find the topic interesting, you're free to move along. As a student who was required to conduct surveys and customer research, I definitely used the internet to crowdsource the required responses. I was grateful to the people who helped.

[Anonymous]

I hate when people who cry make a scene. It’s best not to be heard. I shouldn’t hear if I’m on the 3rd level and your on the 1st or even the 2nd level. Good god, by all means cry to yourself, but please no theatrics.
Signed a DW whose DH does this. Gimme a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to get very upset when my girlfriend/wife cried. Eventually I realized I was being manipulated. We aren't very close anymore, although we are still married. She doesn't cry anymore either, partly due to medication and partly because she doesn't care about me very much anymore. It's not a good situation.

She probably doesn't care about you anymore because you assumed she was trying to manipulate you by crying, instead of comforting her.

Nope. That wasn't it. We had kids and her entire focus transferred to them. We went to marriage counseling with different counselors who told us I wasn't doing anything wrong. My wife didn't like that very much when the first counselor said that and was really pissed when the second agreed. Both counselors were women, by the way.