FIL’s estate didn’t leave anything for grandchildren

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get it why everyone is so hard on OP. It’s very dumb of someone to give money to a young wife and not his own flesh and blood.
Apparently the wifey worked for it pretty hard though, and the son didn’t quite work on the relationship... maybe OP didn’t also... the right strategy would have been being nice to young wife and making sure FIL bonds with grandkids...

Lots of people do that. My Dad has given tons of money to his girlfriends and not even a birthday gift to us or my kids. I have no issue with it but now he wants me to take care of him and I'm not doing it, especially with my money.

OP FIL is married. She probably took care of him till the end. She deserves the money. Grandkids don't have a right to inheritance. Its a nice thing to do, but not all grandparents care or love their kids or grandkids that way, like mine. OP needs to provide for her kids vs. waiting for someone else to.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like DH is inheriting a property. Be thankful for that.

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OP, sit down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should be more upset with your idiot DH losing the kids’ inheritance because he was drunk. Get his a** to AA so he can think about what he’s done.

OP here. I don’t think DH is to blame because he’s been battling a 20-year-long addiction to alcohol. He gets blackout drunk and doesn’t remember anything. He didn’t tell me about those texts and I only learned about them through FIL’s wife. I was hoping to use some of the kids’ money to put him through rehab as well but that won’t be happening now.

Whose fault is his addiction, if not his own? You are enabling and in denial.

+1

OP = Gimme, gimme, gimme.

[Anonymous]

Is this another from today’s prolific troll?

[Anonymous]

Probably. It's essentially just another "hate the stepmother" rant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m totally confused. Why would your children inherit their grandfather’s money while his wife is still alive?

Wife isn’t original

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should be more upset with your idiot DH losing the kids’ inheritance because he was drunk. Get his a** to AA so he can think about what he’s done.

OP here. I don’t think DH is to blame because he’s been battling a 20-year-long addiction to alcohol. He gets blackout drunk and doesn’t remember anything. He didn’t tell me about those texts and I only learned about them through FIL’s wife. I was hoping to use some of the kids’ money to put him through rehab as well but that won’t be happening now.

Whose fault is his addiction, if not his own? You are enabling and in denial.

+1

OP = Gimme, gimme, gimme.

OP--There are some free rehabs out there. I think Md gives you one pass at a free rehab. DH should talk to his PCP. Understand and alcoholic will only get help if the alcoholic wants to get sober. Then there are is AA which is free and there are 1000s of meetings (now online) daily in the DCUM area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should be more upset with your idiot DH losing the kids’ inheritance because he was drunk. Get his a** to AA so he can think about what he’s done.

OP here. I don’t think DH is to blame because he’s been battling a 20-year-long addiction to alcohol. He gets blackout drunk and doesn’t remember anything. He didn’t tell me about those texts and I only learned about them through FIL’s wife. I was hoping to use some of the kids’ money to put him through rehab as well but that won’t be happening now.

Wow, you would take the money from the kids to throw away on your alcoholic husband? You’re a monster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you should be more upset with your idiot DH losing the kids’ inheritance because he was drunk. Get his a** to AA so he can think about what he’s done.

OP here. I don’t think DH is to blame because he’s been battling a 20-year-long addiction to alcohol. He gets blackout drunk and doesn’t remember anything. He didn’t tell me about those texts and I only learned about them through FIL’s wife. I was hoping to use some of the kids’ money to put him through rehab as well but that won’t be happening now.

Wow, you would take the money from the kids to throw away on your alcoholic husband? You’re a monster.

+1. Who in their right mind would take money from children and use it for a loser alcoholic husband? You can’t help an alcoholic. An alcoholic won’t change unless he wants to change.

[Anonymous]

"I'm mad that my FIL's estate goes to his still-living wife instead of my children, because I had hoped to use my children's inheritance on their father." Do I have that right?

This is why no one should ever, ever have a financial plan that depends on an inheritance. Even if FIL brought up himself that he planned to "take care of" the grandkids, until that money shows up, it doesn't exist.

[Anonymous]

This is clearly a troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is clearly a troll

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Not even a good one.

[Anonymous]

I can almost guarantee that OP and her husband lived their life expecting this inheritance.

[Anonymous]

Op, send me your info, I'll set you up with a good lawyer.

[Anonymous]

You asked? I would leave you a penny.