Why would ex bf texted me he got married...

[Anonymous]

OP - it's odd because he married so soon. That is odd

But apart from that, some people want to believe that their time spent with you had some significance. That two people can still care *what* happened to the other person, and knowing the narrative settles that. It's human nature to care. Good human nature.

[Anonymous]

new phone who dis?

[Anonymous]

Not responding is definitely the way to handle this.

He's bored and/or lonely and/or horny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I received a text today from ex bf, saying he just thought about me, and hope I'm doing OK during this pandemic. He got married at the end of last year.

It felt really weird he would tell me about his relationship. We broke up last August, which means he got married in no more than 4 months, lol.

The breakup was amicable even though I thought he was an a**hole, so I won't reply. Just don't get why he would tell me about the sudden marriage, which only made me thinking he cheated on me back then.

My college ex-boyfriend kept trying to be in touch with me - phone calls, emails, etc. - we broke up in 1997, he married one of my sorority sisters (and I know she didn't want him in touch with me) and he tried to friend me on Facebook in like 2014. Give it up, dude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I received a text today from ex bf, saying he just thought about me, and hope I'm doing OK during this pandemic. He got married at the end of last year.

It felt really weird he would tell me about his relationship. We broke up last August, which means he got married in no more than 4 months, lol.

The breakup was amicable even though I thought he was an a**hole, so I won't reply. Just don't get why he would tell me about the sudden marriage, which only made me thinking he cheated on me back then.

My college ex-boyfriend kept trying to be in touch with me - phone calls, emails, etc. - we broke up in 1997, he married one of my sorority sisters (and I know she didn't want him in touch with me) and he tried to friend me on Facebook in like 2014. Give it up, dude.

Why are men so pathetic?

[Anonymous]

Text back, "New phone, who dis?"

(or at most, "Congrats.")

Best case scenario is he wanted you to hear it from him and not someone else.

There are several non-best case scenarios. Like he wants you to be jealous or he's already looking to cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I received a text today from ex bf, saying he just thought about me, and hope I'm doing OK during this pandemic. He got married at the end of last year.

It felt really weird he would tell me about his relationship. We broke up last August, which means he got married in no more than 4 months, lol.

The breakup was amicable even though I thought he was an a**hole, so I won't reply. Just don't get why he would tell me about the sudden marriage, which only made me thinking he cheated on me back then.

My college ex-boyfriend kept trying to be in touch with me - phone calls, emails, etc. - we broke up in 1997, he married one of my sorority sisters (and I know she didn't want him in touch with me) and he tried to friend me on Facebook in like 2014. Give it up, dude.

Why are men so pathetic?

because there are women who do jump back into bed with them...so you're asking the wrong question

[Anonymous]

Anytime your ex contacts you, you should send him another Cat Fact.

[Anonymous]

Reply you should get a divorce and marry me. Then dump him once the divorce is finalized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anytime your ex contacts you, you should send him another Cat Fact.

This is hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've heard from 4 exes in the past 3 week. Waiting for #5. It's because they're bored and reaching. Best case scenario he has fond memories of you. Reply politely and then not again. I made the mistake of engaging and things quickly progressed from "hope you're well" to "you up?"

Yep. People are bored and reaching out. Exes and all manner of other people coming out of the woodwork.

[Anonymous]

Just an alternate opinion. Women often complain that they hate to be blindsided and want to be told things. Some guys choose a non-interactive communication (email/text) to alert an ex that they are now married so that their former partner is informed and they can have their initial reaction be when they are alone. Then if they hear about it somewhere else, they have a reaction that isn't from being caught off guard. It's a courtesy. I've known this to happen in ex-couples that still hang out with the same group of mutual friends. It's a courtesy and no response is expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just an alternate opinion. Women often complain that they hate to be blindsided and want to be told things. Some guys choose a non-interactive communication (email/text) to alert an ex that they are now married so that their former partner is informed and they can have their initial reaction be when they are alone. Then if they hear about it somewhere else, they have a reaction that isn't from being caught off guard. It's a courtesy. I've known this to happen in ex-couples that still hang out with the same group of mutual friends. It's a courtesy and no response is expected.

Op's ex married at the end of last year, it's been more than 3 months. didn't the courtesy come too late? And they weren't in touch at all in between. This guy totally sounds like an a-hole, I bet he did this behind his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just an alternate opinion. Women often complain that they hate to be blindsided and want to be told things. Some guys choose a non-interactive communication (email/text) to alert an ex that they are now married so that their former partner is informed and they can have their initial reaction be when they are alone. Then if they hear about it somewhere else, they have a reaction that isn't from being caught off guard. It's a courtesy. I've known this to happen in ex-couples that still hang out with the same group of mutual friends. It's a courtesy and no response is expected.

"Initial reaction"? What are you talking about? If you're not dating anymore, who cares?