Very stressful for single working moms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we decided that our minor differences are outweighed by these major events and decided to work things out, time to rethink expectations with your partners. It's not worth being single.

Wow. Man, I normally don't wish ill on others, but people who are sanctimonious about being partnered strain my value system.

[Anonymous]

OP, this probably won't help much now, but I thought I'd share. My mom was a single mom who faced struggle after struggle and has been my hero since after the teenage years ended. Looking back I can't believe how strong she was and how much she sacrificed for my siblings and I. Whenever I have struggles, I think about what my mom would have done. Your kids won't see it now, but you are going to be such a role model in their life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a single mom, but I have so much respect for you guys!

I agree. So much respect...

[Anonymous]

It feels hard because it’s new and you’re in transition. You will get the hang of it.

[Anonymous]

I am a nurse and a single mom (by choice, not divorce). I and my fellow nurses are swapping shifts so we can care for each other's kids. Time for everyone to pull together.

[Anonymous]

Same here, op. Last night I went to bed with a disaster of a kitchen. I just couldn’t deal with it. I work in tax so not only is this the busiest time of year, but all the tax changes to due dates and clients working remotely is crushing me.

I’ve got two kids and our state is not allowing online classes due to equity issues. So I had to find and register for a bunch of online resources yesterday and help the kids figure it all out.

And - worst of all - I’m dreading this weekend because it will be the same as the weekdays because work is just too busy.

Now I feel like a jerk complaining about being busy when I know what the healthcare workers will be facing in the near term....

[Anonymous]

OP, hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Another single mom by choice here.

Try reaching out on your neighborhood Listserv (Next Door, etc.)There are lots of bored teenagers looking to do some babysitting. And several stay-at-home or retired moms willing to pitch in.

I have found that when i needed help and genuinely asked for it, i have received it.

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Will any of the ppl offering to pick up groceries or otherwise help out give a hand? I would but I don’t know anyone with kids.

[Anonymous]

I'm right there with you, but I think about how much worse it would be with my jerk ex. He'd be wanting to party all the time, host BBQs, give away the food and supplies I've carefully stored up, and would be devil may care about isolating the children. I thank God he' s not here with us and that I can do my job remotely.

[Anonymous]

Single dad here. It’s not only the single moms. I have one hundred percent custody. It’s hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s hard for everyone

No, it is way harder for some people. Being a single working mom right now, especially of a younger child, must be terrible. A childless couple with solid telework jobs who are spending their free time watching Netflix is not hard.

Agree. It’s absolutely not hard for everyone. It’s a darn free vacation for lots of people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:we decided that our minor differences are outweighed by these major events and decided to work things out, time to rethink expectations with your partners. It's not worth being single.

Wow. Man, I normally don't wish ill on others, but people who are sanctimonious about being partnered strain my value system.

NP here - I didn’t interpret the post as sanctimonious. It’s true! Right now it’s a lot harder to be a single parent than it usually is. Unless your partner is abusive or something, it might seem worth it to stay, just to share the burden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It feels hard because it’s new and you’re in transition. You will get the hang of it.

This isn’t true. It’s actually not sustainable. My child is doing unsafe things because I can’t supervise her because I’m working. It’s not possible to take care of a preschooler all day at home while also working a full 8 hour day. It’s not going to get easier to do an impossible thing.

[Anonymous]

You definitely have it hard! Good luck.

I'm a single mom of an 11-year-old and we are getting by ok. But today she went over to her dad's and I realized how much I was relying on her for company. It is lonely without her! I thought it would be easier for telework purposes but instead it is just kind of safe.