Age in Place just benefits the home care agencies who pofit IMO

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't make blanket statements, OP.

My MIL is having a wonderful experience aging in place. She has several chronic conditions, including Parkinson's, and she thought this through years ago: she selected her caregivers herself and pays a rotation of them so that she's covered even if one of them has an emergency (and one of them did), and they all love her. They're not expensive compared to a home, the effort involved was in the *selection* of honest and caring folk.

When her medical needs force her into a specialized facility, she'll be miserable. But we're doing all we can to push that day into the future.

How many hours per week are they at her home? 24/7 would be way more expensive than assisted living.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't make blanket statements, OP.

My MIL is having a wonderful experience aging in place. She has several chronic conditions, including Parkinson's, and she thought this through years ago: she selected her caregivers herself and pays a rotation of them so that she's covered even if one of them has an emergency (and one of them did), and they all love her. They're not expensive compared to a home, the effort involved was in the *selection* of honest and caring folk.

When her medical needs force her into a specialized facility, she'll be miserable. But we're doing all we can to push that day into the future.

Does she have friends who visit? One of the things that was especially good for my parents (in a CCRC) and bad for my ILs (aging in place) is that the only people my ILs saw were caregivers and their family. My parents have a lot of friends, and just having a meal or going to a movie with their friends can be the highlight of their day.

[Anonymous]

We moved my dad in with us last year. I hate it. It’s changed my life for the worse in so many ways. It’s impacting my DD, my marriage, my health. He’s not a bad person. Just so irritating and selfish. I hate it so much. I get help from one sibling, nothing from the other.

He doesn’t want to move to assisted living but I think it would be better for all of us. I don’t know how to bring up the topic.

I don’t feel well mentally or physically.