Poll: how many parents of 6 month or younger infants went out for NYE

[Anonymous]

Mine are older now but when we were younger we did go out leaving kids with sitter or my parents as my circle we have many single and child free friends. I didn’t want to lose my decades old friends just because we had kids and they didn’t. I’m so glad we didn’t shut the door on our old friendships they are the ones we still rely on and I do have mommy friends too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot easier to go out and travel when you only have 1 child and a willing baby sitter. I don’t think I would use my mom if she was 70 though until my child could creep through the night. When you have multiple and early wake up times, it’s tough. Our biggest issue with 2 is who will wake up with the kids the next morning after partying all night. It’s not fun.

So what you are saying is you don’t prefer going out since you don’t want to be up the next morning with kids or the dog or any number of things. That’s ok but when I was in similar stage with young kids we went out and I didn’t mind one bit waking up early the next morning such is life once we had a child My DH is a home body so him just coming out was a win in my book and I didn’t expect him to be up early next day.

Yes that’s exactly what I’m saying. Staying out drinking until 3-4am then to come home and wake up at 6:30am and be fully functional and present for my kids is not ideal for me - at all. Kudos to you if you can do it but nope not I. If anything DH and I take turns going out with our friends or we will have the baby sitter sleep over so they can wake up with the kids.

[Anonymous]

Unless you have copious amounts of money for babysitters, and your kid sleeps 12 hours a night all the time, your single friends will slowly stop inviting you to things. They are in a different phase of life and probably don’t want to hear about Larla’s latest milestone. As time goes on you will likely make more friends who are parents and have more in common with you. Don’t be a parent who tries to live their Pre-baby party life. That’s not to say you won’t keep some of your old friends but I would not expect to be able to do everything you did before. You are now responsible for a small human 24-7. Your friends are not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are 32, but the first of our friends to have kids. We have been traveling to Asia and Iceland the laSt few years, and DH is very keen on being parents who travel with kids (he is European and I guess it’s more common for kids to attend parties and go to bars etc).

I’m a little conflicted but I sure did have fun last night!!

You should have just one kid. My friends who have continued to travel and go out are the ones with one kid. With one kid, you fit him or her into your life. With 2+, you fit yourself into their schedule. I have three but I think this is still largely true with just two.

[Anonymous]

hahahahaha no.

Baby is 3 months, husband and I celebrated with chicken wings and champagne and getting into bed at 11:50 so we could be asleep by 12:01.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless you have copious amounts of money for babysitters, and your kid sleeps 12 hours a night all the time, your single friends will slowly stop inviting you to things. They are in a different phase of life and probably don’t want to hear about Larla’s latest milestone. As time goes on you will likely make more friends who are parents and have more in common with you. Don’t be a parent who tries to live their Pre-baby party life. That’s not to say you won’t keep some of your old friends but I would not expect to be able to do everything you did before. You are now responsible for a small human 24-7. Your friends are not.

My mom is ALWAYS willing to watch the baby, she loves her grandkids and it is her whole world. She would have us live with her if she could.

So we have a ready sitter at the helm, all it takes is a drive to her house, and then off we go.

It sounds like others have maintained their friendships, so glad to hear that will be a possibility. And we plan to have only 2 kids, so we think they can be good travel companions.

DH is in tech sales so we expect his salary to grow quickly, so not worried about affording the lifestyle, its just making sure we all get enough sleep (so NY morning we all took turns with my mom taking care of the baby so hangovers were not an issue)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you have copious amounts of money for babysitters, and your kid sleeps 12 hours a night all the time, your single friends will slowly stop inviting you to things. They are in a different phase of life and probably don’t want to hear about Larla’s latest milestone. As time goes on you will likely make more friends who are parents and have more in common with you. Don’t be a parent who tries to live their Pre-baby party life. That’s not to say you won’t keep some of your old friends but I would not expect to be able to do everything you did before. You are now responsible for a small human 24-7. Your friends are not.

My mom is ALWAYS willing to watch the baby, she loves her grandkids and it is her whole world. She would have us live with her if she could.

So we have a ready sitter at the helm, all it takes is a drive to her house, and then off we go.

It sounds like others have maintained their friendships, so glad to hear that will be a possibility. And we plan to have only 2 kids, so we think they can be good travel companions.

DH is in tech sales so we expect his salary to grow quickly, so not worried about affording the lifestyle, its just making sure we all get enough sleep (so NY morning we all took turns with my mom taking care of the baby so hangovers were not an issue)

Wait til baby is mobile. My parents are in their 70s and they could not Keep up with our 2 year old.

[Anonymous]

No just no... probably never again.

[Anonymous]

I am not clear on why going out without kids equals the single life. Many married couples go out before and after kids. Socializing isn't only for single people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you normally let DH call all the shots?

If she insisted they stay home then she would be calling the shots. Better to discuss toether and find a compromise or who makes the decision this time and the other person the next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you normally let DH call all the shots?

If she insisted they stay home then she would be calling the shots. Better to discuss toether and find a compromise or who makes the decision this time and the other person the next time.

If only they could compromise....

[Anonymous]

We have a 4.5 month old and a 6.6 month old and went to a kid friendly house party. The baby fell asleep there at her usual time and we all came home by 10pm and slept in until 9am the next day. No way was waiting for midnight going to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a 4.5 month old and a 6.6 month old and went to a kid friendly house party. The baby fell asleep there at her usual time and we all came home by 10pm and slept in until 9am the next day. No way was waiting for midnight going to happen.

A 4.5 month old and a 6.6 month old? How is that possible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you have copious amounts of money for babysitters, and your kid sleeps 12 hours a night all the time, your single friends will slowly stop inviting you to things. They are in a different phase of life and probably don’t want to hear about Larla’s latest milestone. As time goes on you will likely make more friends who are parents and have more in common with you. Don’t be a parent who tries to live their Pre-baby party life. That’s not to say you won’t keep some of your old friends but I would not expect to be able to do everything you did before. You are now responsible for a small human 24-7. Your friends are not.

My mom is ALWAYS willing to watch the baby, she loves her grandkids and it is her whole world. She would have us live with her if she could.

So we have a ready sitter at the helm, all it takes is a drive to her house, and then off we go.

It sounds like others have maintained their friendships, so glad to hear that will be a possibility. And we plan to have only 2 kids, so we think they can be good travel companions.

DH is in tech sales so we expect his salary to grow quickly, so not worried about affording the lifestyle, its just making sure we all get enough sleep (so NY morning we all took turns with my mom taking care of the baby so hangovers were not an issue)

Wait til baby is mobile. My parents are in their 70s and they could not Keep up with our 2 year old.

DP but I would think you’re an outlier? My eldest is 7, my mom is 58, and my MIL is 67.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you have copious amounts of money for babysitters, and your kid sleeps 12 hours a night all the time, your single friends will slowly stop inviting you to things. They are in a different phase of life and probably don’t want to hear about Larla’s latest milestone. As time goes on you will likely make more friends who are parents and have more in common with you. Don’t be a parent who tries to live their Pre-baby party life. That’s not to say you won’t keep some of your old friends but I would not expect to be able to do everything you did before. You are now responsible for a small human 24-7. Your friends are not.

My mom is ALWAYS willing to watch the baby, she loves her grandkids and it is her whole world. She would have us live with her if she could.

So we have a ready sitter at the helm, all it takes is a drive to her house, and then off we go.

It sounds like others have maintained their friendships, so glad to hear that will be a possibility. And we plan to have only 2 kids, so we think they can be good travel companions.

DH is in tech sales so we expect his salary to grow quickly, so not worried about affording the lifestyle, its just making sure we all get enough sleep (so NY morning we all took turns with my mom taking care of the baby so hangovers were not an issue)

Wait til baby is mobile. My parents are in their 70s and they could not Keep up with our 2 year old.

DP but I would think you’re an outlier? My eldest is 7, my mom is 58, and my MIL is 67.

Not an outlier in DC where the average age of a FTM is higher than other parts of the country (at least among college educated, employed women).