Would you leave the baby unattended to go to the gym?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve worked out on my basement gym while my 9mo DD slept upstairs in a very large house. I only monitored through the camera system. As long as you can see hear and respond, I don’t see the big deal.

Not the same as a very large house unless you live in a palace. A decade ago, I was at home exercising in our basement (small house) when a small fire broke out in the bathroom upstairs. Exhaust fan and birds’ building a nest. Smoke quickly filled our home. My older child was able to grab her baby sister and flee out the front door. I made my way out the back. It was not possible to go up the stairs at all. If my baby had been alone, she would have died.

Ok but you also weren't able to save her, so how was what you were doing any better?

By the way, I'm really sorry this happened - sounds terrifying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My main concern would be that you have some health issue while at the gym (heart attack, stroke, fall and hit your head/pass out, etc) and either no one is there to help or you are unable to tell anyone about your unattended baby so no one knows to go get her if you go to hospital.


My second concern would be that a neighbor finds out and calls CPS on you.

I wouldn’t do it.

What if you slipped in the shower? Or fell down the stairs? Or choked on your food? There are a million things that could go wrong every second when you’re alone with a baby, but as long as the risks aren’t unreasonable then you need to live your life. I’m 30 seconds away from my sleeping baby at home right now and everyone’s fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My main concern would be that you have some health issue while at the gym (heart attack, stroke, fall and hit your head/pass out, etc) and either no one is there to help or you are unable to tell anyone about your unattended baby so no one knows to go get her if you go to hospital.


My second concern would be that a neighbor finds out and calls CPS on you.

I wouldn’t do it.

What if you slipped in the shower? Or fell down the stairs? Or choked on your food? There are a million things that could go wrong every second when you’re alone with a baby, but as long as the risks aren’t unreasonable then you need to live your life. I’m 30 seconds away from my sleeping baby at home right now and everyone’s fine.

These things could happen anywhere. At least if you're at the gym, someone is more likely to find you and see the baby monitor. So if anything it's BETTER to be in public.

[Anonymous]

In that case, yes it's no different then the baby sleeping upstairs and me working out downstairs.

[Anonymous]

Eh, I don't know. I want to say yes it's fine, but it just doesn't feel fine.

Especially when you factor in that he only has the baby 3 nights, and he could find a workout to do at home, so this isn't a necessity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My main concern would be that you have some health issue while at the gym (heart attack, stroke, fall and hit your head/pass out, etc) and either no one is there to help or you are unable to tell anyone about your unattended baby so no one knows to go get her if you go to hospital.


My second concern would be that a neighbor finds out and calls CPS on you.

I wouldn’t do it.

What if you slipped in the shower? Or fell down the stairs? Or choked on your food? There are a million things that could go wrong every second when you’re alone with a baby, but as long as the risks aren’t unreasonable then you need to live your life. I’m 30 seconds away from my sleeping baby at home right now and everyone’s fine.

Yes but if any of those you listed happened and medical help arrived, they’d find your baby in your home. If you were not in the same location as your baby, they Probably wouldn’t know you had a baby sleeping at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems ok to me. Only issue is maybe if a fire starts in the apartment and the parent is not there to smell it.

You'd hear the smoke detector on the baby monitor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My main concern would be that you have some health issue while at the gym (heart attack, stroke, fall and hit your head/pass out, etc) and either no one is there to help or you are unable to tell anyone about your unattended baby so no one knows to go get her if you go to hospital.


My second concern would be that a neighbor finds out and calls CPS on you.

I wouldn’t do it.

What if you slipped in the shower? Or fell down the stairs? Or choked on your food? There are a million things that could go wrong every second when you’re alone with a baby, but as long as the risks aren’t unreasonable then you need to live your life. I’m 30 seconds away from my sleeping baby at home right now and everyone’s fine.

Yes but if any of those you listed happened and medical help arrived, they’d find your baby in your home. If you were not in the same location as your baby, they Probably wouldn’t know you had a baby sleeping at home.

You’re moving the goalposts. The reason it’s bad according to some PPs is if you have a medical emergency and can’t talk while at the gym, you can’t alert anyone to the baby’s presence. If you’re at home with a medical emergency, how are you going to get help there if you can’t talk and you’re incapacitated? I guess you’d die and your baby would waste away. At least if you keel over at the gym, there’s a chance you’ll be saved, but either way, someone would notify your next of kin and they’d find the baby. At home, you and your baby are screwed unless you have a life alert button to push.

[Anonymous]

WTH? Is no one going to mention that it is illegal? He could lose custody completely and face charges for this. He is lucky his ex-wife hasn't reported him to CPS.

[Anonymous]

This seems fine.

I have friends in Manhattan who live in the same building. Parents sometimes hang out with friends down the hall in same building. Baby monitor range ok.

I have gone on vacation with friends and baby in our room and I go next door to friend’s room to hang out.

[Anonymous]

Not fine, legal, wise, and crazy. Baby could quietly choke or go into distress, or could be kidnapped, while a few feet away, think Madeleine McCann; add a distracted parent on a noisy treadmill. Nothing good will come of this. Illegal!

[Anonymous]

He is crazy to leave the baby alone; if he can't skip a workout, the baby could be placed in a car seat and carried down there with him.

[Anonymous]

And if you were my ex, I would call the police, report you to chikd services and drag you back to court for child endangerment. This is beyond selfish and it brings your lack of good judgement as a parent into question.

[Anonymous]

Oh ok not that I hate her dog

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My gut reaction is “absolutely not!” but honestly is it different than someone in a 6000 Sq ft house going to their basement gym when the nursery is on the 2nd floor? Is it different than my baby sleeping in his crib while I chat with a neighbor in my driveway or drink a glass of wine with my husband on my deck?

I think this post makes very good points. If you're very close by and monitoring the baby in each instance, then working out in a gym where you're lucid and "on" as opposed to under the influence of alcohol is obviously better.