My dog was hit by a car in front of me and passed away - struggling to cope and make sense of it

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry for you. Loosing beloved animal is like loosing someone dear in your life that was always there for you and
who still had so much life in him, you did not expect this, there is so much pain in something happening in such a tragid
and unexpected way. It takes time to heal. Please read the stages of grief, they are the same regardless of the loss.
It will help you to understand what you are feeling and what is coming. There is very little consolation in this aside from time and good memories. Please think more about it for what it was, an accident without any intentions on your side.
Repeat it. With time you will believe it as now you are blaming yourself.

If I may suggest, anytime you have an indoor animal.. cat ..dog. Please teach them not to run out of the open door.
It is very easy process and saves lives. You need to gradually expose them to the situation with rewards and positive reinforcement so they will have a discipline that NO matter what there will be no running outside. With cats usually
some very loud noise like dropped keys or something ..e very time they come to an opening in the door does the trick very fast. Dogs can learn in different ways. You can look them up. It is important to know that whenever the door is open
either on purpose or by accident, be it guests, be it a child who forgets to close immediately or movers or service people
you will have peace of mind to know that a cat or dog will never sneak out because they respect the door.

I know it is difficult to think about the new dog but most people feel that the new dog is the best healing as even if in the beginning you feel like you have no bond with the new dog and you resent it a little for not being the other dog,
it quickly passes.. and you will find comfort in having the warm fuzzy loving bundle next to you, as feeling that
warm fuzzy presence is a big part of grief. It is the physical part of grief, missing a dog that was there and now isn't.
I strongly suggest you give a loving home and open your heart to a new life that is somewhere out there and waiting for you.

Hugs and more hugs.
Please read this, there is some healing power to it however simple it is..

Peace and strength!

[Anonymous]

Try to imagine a place where he is now, it is a beautiful place. It makes it easier, he is not alone there, he is there with endless amount of his ancestors… he is in the place we all came from, whatever that place is.. it is where we are going..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry for you. Loosing beloved animal is like loosing someone dear in your life that was always there for you and
who still had so much life in him, you did not expect this, there is so much pain in something happening in such a tragid
and unexpected way. It takes time to heal. Please read the stages of grief, they are the same regardless of the loss.
It will help you to understand what you are feeling and what is coming. There is very little consolation in this aside from time and good memories. Please think more about it for what it was, an accident without any intentions on your side.
Repeat it. With time you will believe it as now you are blaming yourself.

If I may suggest, anytime you have an indoor animal.. cat ..dog. Please teach them not to run out of the open door.
It is very easy process and saves lives. You need to gradually expose them to the situation with rewards and positive reinforcement so they will have a discipline that NO matter what there will be no running outside. With cats usually
some very loud noise like dropped keys or something ..e very time they come to an opening in the door does the trick very fast. Dogs can learn in different ways. You can look them up. It is important to know that whenever the door is open
either on purpose or by accident, be it guests, be it a child who forgets to close immediately or movers or service people
you will have peace of mind to know that a cat or dog will never sneak out because they respect the door.

I know it is difficult to think about the new dog but most people feel that the new dog is the best healing as even if in the beginning you feel like you have no bond with the new dog and you resent it a little for not being the other dog,
it quickly passes.. and you will find comfort in having the warm fuzzy loving bundle next to you, as feeling that
warm fuzzy presence is a big part of grief. It is the physical part of grief, missing a dog that was there and now isn't.
I strongly suggest you give a loving home and open your heart to a new life that is somewhere out there and waiting for you.

Hugs and more hugs.
Please read this, there is some healing power to it however simple it is..

Peace and strength!

I was coming on to say the same thing happened to us last week. My MIL saw it happen and the driver was a neighbor and friend. This post is horrendous. Nobody wants their dog to run out the door into traffic. But also, our dogs go out the front door All. The. Time. Your expectation that they will always behave perfectly and never get excited and run out is insane and poorly timed. Also, these pictures are bizarre.

OP, we already got a new puppy. It feels really sudden but it's been really healing. Right now, my kids are holding it and laughing. It's kept me busy with walks and the attention a puppy needs, which is a nice distraction. It also brings back fond memories of when our dog that died was a new puppy.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am so sorry for both your loss and the circumstances. Sending you hugs.

[Anonymous]

I can’t bring myself to read all the responses. But when I was in college a professor specialized in pet loss therapy. I searched for her to recommend and was surprised to see there are quite a few in Maryland. It truly is such a unique and difficult loss, made even harder by the circumstances. https://aplb.org/support/counselors/maryland.html

[Anonymous]

I am do sorry OP. Have you considered that you have PTSD? Maybe you could talk to a therapist? That must’ve been so traumatic to experience.

[Anonymous]

I was coming on to say the same thing happened to us last week. My MIL saw it happen and the driver was a neighbor and friend. This post is horrendous. Nobody wants their dog to run out the door into traffic. But also, our dogs go out the front door All. The. Time. Your expectation that they will always behave perfectly and never get excited and run out is insane and poorly timed. Also, these pictures are bizarre.

OP, we already got a new puppy. It feels really sudden but it's been really healing. Right now, my kids are holding it and laughing. It's kept me busy with walks and the attention a puppy needs, which is a nice distraction. It also brings back fond memories of when our dog that died was a new puppy.

Wow. One week?? Did you go to the pound?

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry for your loss... I know that pain, it hurts. We lost a pet only after 4 months of having him and we still feel the pain 2 months later.

It's impossible to make sense of something so tragic and unfair. I find that trying to put on a happy face is the worst after something so awful. Give yourself time to grieve and cry. Maybe write a letter to your pet? Sending hugs your way