Bring outside food to restaurant for child

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a PP, but this whole thing is completely ridiculous. The kid will eat if it's hungry. If not, eat anyway. It will adapt.

+1 look at a menu before you go. feed him before you go. do not bring a meal with you. I do wonder how some people make it though daily life when they can't figure simple problems out.

I was raised by a parent who required you to clean your plate so I get this POV. But that doesn't work with a sensory issue kid. You can read up on it if you want or just judge me as I'm sure it's more fun.

No kid is going to choose to starve to death.

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Anonymous wrote:It's fine to bring a snack for a one year old, not a meal for a 5 year old. You do know that you can view menus online? Why don't you look at them with your child beforehand. Taking a child with food sensory issues to a restaurant that doesn't even have a kid's menu is completely avoidable.

Well usually it is, but in this case we drove two hours to meet family I haven't seen in years at a restaurant they chose and they wanted to see my kid too.

They couldn't have chosen somewhere with a kids menu? And you didn't think to feed him beforehand after a 2 hour car ride. Again, not bringing in a meal was avoidable.

They chose the BBQ place because they thought BBQ would be kid friendly. Nothing was chosen until we were in the car already on the way, it was all last minute as they weren't sure they would be able to and neither of us knew the area as we cboseya middle ground to cut the driving distance for both of us. And he ate before the car ride and wasn't hungry - it was an early, 4pm dinner. We aren't perfect parents as everyone else here I suppose, so it happened the way it happened, and trying to be good parents we had backup food/snacks with us.

I'm not a perfect parent wither, but I could google a few restaurants during a 2 hour car ride. Hey fam, this place doesn't have a kids menu and our child has sensory issues. How about these places that are near there? Stop being woe is me.

Because even at a restaurant with a kids menu he still might not eat the menu. He eats chicken nuggets but if they are too crunchy or any unexpected seasoning, he eats pizza but not if the crust is too crunchy, he eats Mac and cheese but if it's too soupy or seasoned weird, won't eat it (will try one bite then retch)... So yes, I could have, and still been in the same boat. It's always a crapshoot.

And I never realized there was such vitriol about a five year old eating his own thing at.a restaurant. Now I get it. We didn't want to be the people requesting special accomodations for our kid - either in the choice of restaurant or in asking the restaurant to make something differently or off the menu. But it seems having him eat his own thing is the special accomldation so we'll go a different route then.

Why are you digging in about googling a restaurant? I get that it's not certain that he will eat anywhere, but give him a fighting chance by choosing somewhere with a decent amount of choices rather than going in blindly. And yes, ask the restaurant to accommodate you. They will take a special order for a child with sensory issues. They do not want you violating the health code and bringing in a meal. I think you are being intentionally obtuse at this point.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a PP, but this whole thing is completely ridiculous. The kid will eat if it's hungry. If not, eat anyway. It will adapt.

+1 look at a menu before you go. feed him before you go. do not bring a meal with you. I do wonder how some people make it though daily life when they can't figure simple problems out.

I was raised by a parent who required you to clean your plate so I get this POV. But that doesn't work with a sensory issue kid. You can read up on it if you want or just judge me as I'm sure it's more fun.

No kid is going to choose to starve to death.

Mine would.

You feed them before you go out. Simple.

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My child has Celiac and very picky. We don’t eat out very often. He’s 7 now, but up until last year we’d pack food for him and no one has ever said anything. I figure they can have me they and take my money or we can leave. This usually was while on vacation or eating out got someone’s birthday.

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I have a kid with SPD, and other special needs. He eats his meal before we get to a restaurant, if I know he won't eat what's on the menu. I've never brought outside food into any restaurant for him.

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Do not do this unless you have a life-threatening allergy or an infant.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid has food issues, why are you going to restaurants with him?

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Because it's not an anaphylactic allergy issue, it's an occasional, might not eat off the menu issue, which could happen with the best eating of 5 year olds.

And I guess I felt it was easier on the restaurant than making a weird request for cooking something off the menu or asking them to accommodate our kids needs. Maybe not considering the person who said the kid gets rice in every restaurant.

I have picky eaters and sensory issues with one so I get it, but I have never been somewhere I couldn't find something on the menu they could eat past the age of 2. Check out the menu beforehand. Despite the health code violation, it is really rude to take up a spot and not order anything.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid has food issues, why are you going to restaurants with him?

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Because it's not an anaphylactic allergy issue, it's an occasional, might not eat off the menu issue, which could happen with the best eating of 5 year olds.

And I guess I felt it was easier on the restaurant than making a weird request for cooking something off the menu or asking them to accommodate our kids needs. Maybe not considering the person who said the kid gets rice in every restaurant.

I have picky eaters and sensory issues with one so I get it, but I have never been somewhere I couldn't find something on the menu they could eat past the age of 2. Check out the menu beforehand. Despite the health code violation, it is really rude to take up a spot and not order anything.

PP here again -- also if your kid won't eat the ordered item, I think it is OK then to take out some goldfish or whatever. Box up the food and voila, lunch for you tomorrow. I've done that many times but the child's meal is always purchased.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you. And yes we keep up with exposing him to new foods and will try to order off the menu if remotely think it might work, but have backup in case. It just doesn't always work out that there's something he'll eat.

We'll feed him in the car from now on if we must. We just never had a restaurant bat an eye at a young child having outside food and didn't know it's a health code violation. I get that it would be rude for an older kid or adult to bring outside food, but have seen young kids with outside food at restaurants.

5 is an age where it’s rude. I’m sorry and I know it can be hard to notice when you’re dealing with bigger problems for your kid, but this is rude. Bringing food for a baby is one thing, but for a 5 year old? That’s not borderline. That’s 100% not okay. A good rule of thumb is that if your child is out of diapers you shouldn’t be bringing food to restaurants.

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Anonymous wrote:It's fine to bring a snack for a one year old, not a meal for a 5 year old. You do know that you can view menus online? Why don't you look at them with your child beforehand. Taking a child with food sensory issues to a restaurant that doesn't even have a kid's menu is completely avoidable.

Well usually it is, but in this case we drove two hours to meet family I haven't seen in years at a restaurant they chose and they wanted to see my kid too.

They couldn't have chosen somewhere with a kids menu? And you didn't think to feed him beforehand after a 2 hour car ride. Again, not bringing in a meal was avoidable.

They chose the BBQ place because they thought BBQ would be kid friendly. Nothing was chosen until we were in the car already on the way, it was all last minute as they weren't sure they would be able to and neither of us knew the area as we cboseya middle ground to cut the driving distance for both of us. And he ate before the car ride and wasn't hungry - it was an early, 4pm dinner. We aren't perfect parents as everyone else here I suppose, so it happened the way it happened, and trying to be good parents we had backup food/snacks with us.

I'm not a perfect parent wither, but I could google a few restaurants during a 2 hour car ride. Hey fam, this place doesn't have a kids menu and our child has sensory issues. How about these places that are near there? Stop being woe is me.

Because even at a restaurant with a kids menu he still might not eat the menu. He eats chicken nuggets but if they are too crunchy or any unexpected seasoning, he eats pizza but not if the crust is too crunchy, he eats Mac and cheese but if it's too soupy or seasoned weird, won't eat it (will try one bite then retch)... So yes, I could have, and still been in the same boat. It's always a crapshoot.

And I never realized there was such vitriol about a five year old eating his own thing at.a restaurant. Now I get it. We didn't want to be the people requesting special accomodations for our kid - either in the choice of restaurant or in asking the restaurant to make something differently or off the menu. But it seems having him eat his own thing is the special accomldation so we'll go a different route then.

Sorry OP. You would’ve gotten a different set of responses on the special needs forum. I get it and I have brought food from home for my much older kid. I try and feel out the restaurant first. There’s a BBQ place near me where you order at the counter and go sit at picnic tables. I’ve never had a problem there. Sorry you had a bad experience.

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I asked my restaurant manager partner. It’s not a health code violation but they cannot heat or serve outside food. Some restaurants will be ok with it, you can call in advance and ask.

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Health code violation? No, how could it be. The food is not in the kitchen area or mixing with anyone else’s food. I call bs. I think it’s fine, OP. The restaurant is within its rights not to allow it (and they probably called it a health code violation so as not to look like asses) but plenty of restaurants will allow it and it’s fine.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a PP, but this whole thing is completely ridiculous. The kid will eat if it's hungry. If not, eat anyway. It will adapt.

+1 look at a menu before you go. feed him before you go. do not bring a meal with you. I do wonder how some people make it though daily life when they can't figure simple problems out.

I was raised by a parent who required you to clean your plate so I get this POV. But that doesn't work with a sensory issue kid. You can read up on it if you want or just judge me as I'm sure it's more fun.

No kid is going to choose to starve to death.

Mine would.

You feed them before you go out. Simple.

I believe you that little Larlo would not touch any of the restaurant food. I also don’t believe he would chose to starve to death.

Get some perspective!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's fine to bring a snack for a one year old, not a meal for a 5 year old. You do know that you can view menus online? Why don't you look at them with your child beforehand. Taking a child with food sensory issues to a restaurant that doesn't even have a kid's menu is completely avoidable.

Well usually it is, but in this case we drove two hours to meet family I haven't seen in years at a restaurant they chose and they wanted to see my kid too.

They couldn't have chosen somewhere with a kids menu? And you didn't think to feed him beforehand after a 2 hour car ride. Again, not bringing in a meal was avoidable.

They chose the BBQ place because they thought BBQ would be kid friendly. Nothing was chosen until we were in the car already on the way, it was all last minute as they weren't sure they would be able to and neither of us knew the area as we cboseya middle ground to cut the driving distance for both of us. And he ate before the car ride and wasn't hungry - it was an early, 4pm dinner. We aren't perfect parents as everyone else here I suppose, so it happened the way it happened, and trying to be good parents we had backup food/snacks with us.

I'm not a perfect parent wither, but I could google a few restaurants during a 2 hour car ride. Hey fam, this place doesn't have a kids menu and our child has sensory issues. How about these places that are near there? Stop being woe is me.

Because even at a restaurant with a kids menu he still might not eat the menu. He eats chicken nuggets but if they are too crunchy or any unexpected seasoning, he eats pizza but not if the crust is too crunchy, he eats Mac and cheese but if it's too soupy or seasoned weird, won't eat it (will try one bite then retch)... So yes, I could have, and still been in the same boat. It's always a crapshoot.

And I never realized there was such vitriol about a five year old eating his own thing at.a restaurant. Now I get it. We didn't want to be the people requesting special accomodations for our kid - either in the choice of restaurant or in asking the restaurant to make something differently or off the menu. But it seems having him eat his own thing is the special accomldation so we'll go a different route then.

Sorry OP. You would’ve gotten a different set of responses on the special needs forum. I get it and I have brought food from home for my much older kid. I try and feel out the restaurant first. There’s a BBQ place near me where you order at the counter and go sit at picnic tables. I’ve never had a problem there. Sorry you had a bad experience.

I'm the OP, and thanks, that's what this was. You ordered at a counter and they had picnic tables in an outdoor patio area. Even at a fast food place such as McDonalds or BK, he won't eat the burgers or chicken nuggets without retching. We will start feeding him beforehand.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a PP, but this whole thing is completely ridiculous. The kid will eat if it's hungry. If not, eat anyway. It will adapt.

+1 look at a menu before you go. feed him before you go. do not bring a meal with you. I do wonder how some people make it though daily life when they can't figure simple problems out.

I was raised by a parent who required you to clean your plate so I get this POV. But that doesn't work with a sensory issue kid. You can read up on it if you want or just judge me as I'm sure it's more fun.

No kid is going to choose to starve to death.

Mine would.

You feed them before you go out. Simple.

I believe you that little Larlo would not touch any of the restaurant food. I also don’t believe he would chose to starve to death.

Get some perspective!

SPD kids are different, and yes they starve themselves.