Am I the only one who listened to their parents as a teen?

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I have a friend who had sex with a boyfriend in the 7th grade. She is now a married mother of two (kids with her DH) and very "normal" (whatever normal means ).

Sex at 7th grade is horrifying and every parents nightmare, but it doesn't guarantee your life is ruined either.

That's just totally gross and I wonder what pathology she is covering up now or has dealt with already through therapy. Sex at 12/13 for a girl is to me a sign of serious psych/family issues.

I wonder what pathologies you are covering up now or are dealing with through therapy. Your disbelief that someone can have sex with their boyfriend underage and turn out normal is to me a sign of serious psych/family issues. Good luck!

there's "underage" and there's pre-pubescent. For you to defend a 12 year old having sex is bizarre.

I'm a new poster but have a similar story. I also had an acquaintance in middle and high school who had sex for the first time at 14. She said she was "curious." I am not saying the girl didn't have issues - likely with rebellion (parents were divorced) and not having good limits (I had to do a school project with her in 10th grade and her mom let her smoke at home, she just got yelled out for smoking IN the house and I APPALLED!).

But, my point is, otherwise she grew up fairly normal, went to college, got married, got her masters, and had two kids in her 20s.

Not advocating teen sex and there are serious, serious consequences with disease, pregnancy, rape, and other safety concerns, not to mention self esteem, but I do think people can learn from their mistakes and move on. Young people will make mistakes. As parents we try our hardest to minimize there impact.

[Anonymous]

NP here, and another good girl. I have to agree with those who have said it has mostly to do with personality. I just had no interest in drugs, drinking (my parents allowed me to try alcohol as a teen, and I didn't like it), didn't have sex until college. Never smoked. But here's the thing - I did have a very close friend who did all that and more. I mean, YIKES. To me, it was fascinating to watch, because I just didn't see the appeal, and I tried to see it through her eyes.

And as for the young teen sex, I came home from college to my old job teaching gymnastics, and there was a 12 year old girl in the class talking about how her 11 year old friend was pregnant to her 11 year old boyfriend. This was at least 15 years ago, and I still have nightmares about it.