Son has been accepted at his first choice school. Does he continue applying to others?

[Anonymous]

Congratulations! That's a huge weight off everyone's shoulders.

I'd encourage him to apply to a few more, in a low-key way (nothing with interviews or portfolios), just so he has options if his feelings change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would consider it an opportunity to drop safeties and apply to a few target/reaches. Its always nice to have options.

Is it, though? Would you use this logic when your child is thinking about becoming engaged? "Try one more time to date that wealthy, attractive person from your office before getting engaged to this person, who you claim is your first choice for a life partner. It's always nice to have options!"

This is a stupid analogy, because if you date Person #2, there is a significant likelihood Person #1 would drop you. Here, there is zero risk that School #1 will rescind its offer because the kid is applying to School #2.

[Anonymous]

Settling is never good. Try for others and see what happens. Kids change their minds all of the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep applying. My DC was in the exact same situation with an early out-of-state big university rolling acceptance that was the first choice, until it wasn't. When all the decisions were in hand, DC did a 180 and is now at what must be the opposite school (small, private, opposite side of the country), and is so happy. DC got a lot more thoughtful about it as DC went through the process with peers and went from "still a high schooler" to "almost a college student;" a few months is a long time for these kids.

This. My DS did the same, except he went from small exclusive LAC in New England to giant Big Ten that was the only large school he applied to. He's happy to be there. They change, and even they don't always know why.

[Anonymous]

I think you are done. Congrats!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would consider it an opportunity to drop safeties and apply to a few target/reaches. Its always nice to have options.

Is it, though? Would you use this logic when your child is thinking about becoming engaged? "Try one more time to date that wealthy, attractive person from your office before getting engaged to this person, who you claim is your first choice for a life partner. It's always nice to have options!"

This is a stupid analogy, because if you date Person #2, there is a significant likelihood Person #1 would drop you. Here, there is zero risk that School #1 will rescind its offer because the kid is applying to School #2.

Yes...that analogy was waaaaay off base...but maybe that was how that poster picked her life partner--based on wealth and attraction.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he can now enjoy senior year and avoid the burnout in the fall that leads to disaster in the spring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Settling is never good. Try for others and see what happens. Kids change their minds all of the time.

What sort of feckless child would change their mind between now and the spring? Absurd.

[Anonymous]

This is my wish for DC junior. First choice and done? Yesssss. Decisiveness is a great life skill!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would consider it an opportunity to drop safeties and apply to a few target/reaches. Its always nice to have options.

Is it, though? Would you use this logic when your child is thinking about becoming engaged? "Try one more time to date that wealthy, attractive person from your office before getting engaged to this person, who you claim is your first choice for a life partner. It's always nice to have options!"

This is a stupid analogy, because if you date Person #2, there is a significant likelihood Person #1 would drop you. Here, there is zero risk that School #1 will rescind its offer because the kid is applying to School #2.

Yes...that analogy was waaaaay off base...but maybe that was how that poster picked her life partner--based on wealth and attraction.

Plus, if you are already about to become engaged, you know the person very well and have interacted with them at a deep level for a long time. Looking for another candidate at that point is absurd. A more apt analogy would be if you got a date with the guy you think you would be very compatible with. At that point, I would recommend keeping other options open, since the date might not be as great as you think after spending more time with him.

[Anonymous]

Should probably get another couple to be safe. You don't want the school to "Virginia Tech" you.

[Anonymous]

I'd have him keep going if the other schools are better academically / better reputation. He may change his mind.

[Anonymous]

Op, is he asking for your opinion? If you now unwilling to travel to the one school mentioned so he san interview, I think that's reasonable. He's not asking for you to go. At this point, I wouldn't impede or promote.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be happy. You said it was his first choice. He got in!

He is done. He will have a much better senior year than most kids.

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yup - done finished. Trust his instincts.

[Anonymous]

Congrats- if that is for sure where he wants to go save the time and money.