Revenge Affair

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Bang his most slutty friend not OWs H... make it a 3-some.

kinda +1 definitely more appealing to do this outside of your/DH's home zone. be it a simple M-F affair or a 3-some (MFM), you get to play out whatever kink/fantasy you want an on your terms. maybe video tape/pics of the romp for you to keep and to use as an Ace card in the future. I don't know, maybe I'm just super vindictive.

Nope. You need to f&ck his best friend or his brother.

Why can’t I do the AP spouse and the best friend. It’s time for me to have fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Revenge is a dish best served cold. Wait until you find someone you lust after and keep it to yourself. Then you can smile all day long and he will be none the wiser.

OP here. I agree with this. I am playing the long game. He thinks I am interested in reconciling. We have our nice talks and talk about the future going forward. He is being super nice and caring. But I know it is all BS. He is a selfish entitled man child and no longer the person I fell in love with. He is scared to death to look bad in front of his kids, friends, and colleagues and losing a big chunk of money. It is going to be fun exposing him for the fraud that he is.

Here’s the thing. It can be fun and cathartic to think about “exposing” him to everyone, but I’d advise you to think long and hard about the actual implications of that. First of all none of his coworkers will care, unless he had an affair with someone he supervises, and even then - would you want to risk him losing his job and your kids’ financial security? Friends don’t want to know the details of your marriage and they might wind up judging YOU. You really open yourself up to criticism or the sad truth that no one really cares as much as you do. Telling your kids is a stupid idea for obvious reasons.

It just isn’t going to be the big blowup you imagine where you look like the good one.

Totally agree with this. One of my business partners ex wife sent a company wide email about his cheating and the universal consensus was she looked crazy and it created a bit of empathy for him

This and the previous post are definitely written by men. You already think women are crazy to justify the sh*tty way you treat women. After I take at least half of what we have I and the kids will be able to live comfortably for the rest of our lives. If he losses the ability to earn more so be it. That will affect him and his ego more than us. I think it is important the kids understand what a fraud their father is. They are old enough to understand.

I am just an anonymous poster, a child of divorce, so you can ignore me. And I get your anger but you really aren't going to come out ahead with this strategy. But if your goal is to make everyone lose including your ex, you and your kids, this is the right move

[Anonymous]

I had a revenge affair. It was fun and exciting and took the stigma out of the sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bang his most slutty friend not OWs H... make it a 3-some.

kinda +1 definitely more appealing to do this outside of your/DH's home zone. be it a simple M-F affair or a 3-some (MFM), you get to play out whatever kink/fantasy you want an on your terms. maybe video tape/pics of the romp for you to keep and to use as an Ace card in the future. I don't know, maybe I'm just super vindictive.

Nope. You need to f&ck his best friend or his brother.

Why can’t I do the AP spouse and the best friend. It’s time for me to have fun.

That gets you revenge for your dh and his ap. I don't advise doing the ap's spouse, though, because he is innocent in this and you needn't drag him into this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bang his most slutty friend not OWs H... make it a 3-some.

kinda +1 definitely more appealing to do this outside of your/DH's home zone. be it a simple M-F affair or a 3-some (MFM), you get to play out whatever kink/fantasy you want an on your terms. maybe video tape/pics of the romp for you to keep and to use as an Ace card in the future. I don't know, maybe I'm just super vindictive.

Nope. You need to f&ck his best friend or his brother.

Why can’t I do the AP spouse and the best friend. It’s time for me to have fun.

Get a divorce and have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bang his most slutty friend not OWs H... make it a 3-some.

kinda +1 definitely more appealing to do this outside of your/DH's home zone. be it a simple M-F affair or a 3-some (MFM), you get to play out whatever kink/fantasy you want an on your terms. maybe video tape/pics of the romp for you to keep and to use as an Ace card in the future. I don't know, maybe I'm just super vindictive.

Nope. You need to f&ck his best friend or his brother.

Why can’t I do the AP spouse and the best friend. It’s time for me to have fun.

Get a divorce and have fun.

I am going to do that for sure. As I said before I am playing the long game. Still more digging to do. Need to get my affairs in order (pun intended) and my Ahole husband comfortable. And then when he least expects it, I will serve him with divorce papers.

[Anonymous]

Revenge is like a poison you drink yourself.


Get out and move on. You sound like a sixteen year old spurned cheerleader.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? If you are going to have a revenge affair do it with some young guy with six pack abs and a big you know what. Why waste it on a guy who isn’t satisfying his wife?

[Anonymous]

As I said before I am playing the long game. Still more digging to do. Need to get my affairs in order (pun intended) and my Ahole husband comfortable. And then when he least expects it, I will serve him with divorce papers.

No. It’s not a game, stop trying to be just as big an asshole with your own cheating, stop looking for revenge. Just divorce. It’s going to be plenty painful to both of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? If you are going to have a revenge affair do it with some young guy with six pack abs and a big you know what. Why waste it on a guy who isn’t satisfying his wife?

Damn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Revenge is a dish best served cold. Wait until you find someone you lust after and keep it to yourself. Then you can smile all day long and he will be none the wiser.

OP here. I agree with this. I am playing the long game. He thinks I am interested in reconciling. We have our nice talks and talk about the future going forward. He is being super nice and caring. But I know it is all BS. He is a selfish entitled man child and no longer the person I fell in love with. He is scared to death to look bad in front of his kids, friends, and colleagues and losing a big chunk of money. It is going to be fun exposing him for the fraud that he is.

Here’s the thing. It can be fun and cathartic to think about “exposing” him to everyone, but I’d advise you to think long and hard about the actual implications of that. First of all none of his coworkers will care, unless he had an affair with someone he supervises, and even then - would you want to risk him losing his job and your kids’ financial security? Friends don’t want to know the details of your marriage and they might wind up judging YOU. You really open yourself up to criticism or the sad truth that no one really cares as much as you do. Telling your kids is a stupid idea for obvious reasons.

It just isn’t going to be the big blowup you imagine where you look like the good one.

Totally agree with this. One of my business partners ex wife sent a company wide email about his cheating and the universal consensus was she looked crazy and it created a bit of empathy for him

This and the previous post are definitely written by men. You already think women are crazy to justify the sh*tty way you treat women. After I take at least half of what we have I and the kids will be able to live comfortably for the rest of our lives. If he losses the ability to earn more so be it. That will affect him and his ego more than us. I think it is important the kids understand what a fraud their father is. They are old enough to understand.

He isn’t a fraud. He lost interest in you. Go ahead and make your kids miserable in the interest of justice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Revenge is a dish best served cold. Wait until you find someone you lust after and keep it to yourself. Then you can smile all day long and he will be none the wiser.

OP here. I agree with this. I am playing the long game. He thinks I am interested in reconciling. We have our nice talks and talk about the future going forward. He is being super nice and caring. But I know it is all BS. He is a selfish entitled man child and no longer the person I fell in love with. He is scared to death to look bad in front of his kids, friends, and colleagues and losing a big chunk of money. It is going to be fun exposing him for the fraud that he is.

Here’s the thing. It can be fun and cathartic to think about “exposing” him to everyone, but I’d advise you to think long and hard about the actual implications of that. First of all none of his coworkers will care, unless he had an affair with someone he supervises, and even then - would you want to risk him losing his job and your kids’ financial security? Friends don’t want to know the details of your marriage and they might wind up judging YOU. You really open yourself up to criticism or the sad truth that no one really cares as much as you do. Telling your kids is a stupid idea for obvious reasons.

It just isn’t going to be the big blowup you imagine where you look like the good one.

Totally agree with this. One of my business partners ex wife sent a company wide email about his cheating and the universal consensus was she looked crazy and it created a bit of empathy for him

This and the previous post are definitely written by men. You already think women are crazy to justify the sh*tty way you treat women. After I take at least half of what we have I and the kids will be able to live comfortably for the rest of our lives. If he losses the ability to earn more so be it. That will affect him and his ego more than us. I think it is important the kids understand what a fraud their father is. They are old enough to understand.

He isn’t a fraud. He lost interest in you. Go ahead and make your kids miserable in the interest of justice!

I am fine with the fact that he lost interest in me. Instead of being a little boy he could have done the family the decency of owning that fact that he was not interested in me and we could have worked things out amicably. But since he could not find his big boy pants he now has to face the consequences. My kids will understand this. They are old enough.

[Anonymous]

When I was going through my divorce I initially thought about a revenge affair and then thought better of it. On a whim I decided to take a week long cruise solo to get away from everything and everyone and I got my “revenge” a few times without it being revenge because it was just unplanned and fun. What happens on a cruise ship stays on a cruise ship! When I returned all I wanted to do was get the divorce over and move on with my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Revenge is a dish best served cold. Wait until you find someone you lust after and keep it to yourself. Then you can smile all day long and he will be none the wiser.

OP here. I agree with this. I am playing the long game. He thinks I am interested in reconciling. We have our nice talks and talk about the future going forward. He is being super nice and caring. But I know it is all BS. He is a selfish entitled man child and no longer the person I fell in love with. He is scared to death to look bad in front of his kids, friends, and colleagues and losing a big chunk of money. It is going to be fun exposing him for the fraud that he is.

Here’s the thing. It can be fun and cathartic to think about “exposing” him to everyone, but I’d advise you to think long and hard about the actual implications of that. First of all none of his coworkers will care, unless he had an affair with someone he supervises, and even then - would you want to risk him losing his job and your kids’ financial security? Friends don’t want to know the details of your marriage and they might wind up judging YOU. You really open yourself up to criticism or the sad truth that no one really cares as much as you do. Telling your kids is a stupid idea for obvious reasons.

It just isn’t going to be the big blowup you imagine where you look like the good one.

Totally agree with this. One of my business partners ex wife sent a company wide email about his cheating and the universal consensus was she looked crazy and it created a bit of empathy for him

This and the previous post are definitely written by men. You already think women are crazy to justify the sh*tty way you treat women. After I take at least half of what we have I and the kids will be able to live comfortably for the rest of our lives. If he losses the ability to earn more so be it. That will affect him and his ego more than us. I think it is important the kids understand what a fraud their father is. They are old enough to understand.

He isn’t a fraud. He lost interest in you. Go ahead and make your kids miserable in the interest of justice!

I am fine with the fact that he lost interest in me. Instead of being a little boy he could have done the family the decency of owning that fact that he was not interested in me and we could have worked things out amicably. But since he could not find his big boy pants he now has to face the consequences. My kids will understand this. They are old enough.

Pretty sure you’re a man and a troll. On the slim chance you’re real, your stupid movie of the week fantasy will never happen, and you will never be in a single relationship post divorce. You’ve got the stink of deserving infidelity on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Revenge is a dish best served cold. Wait until you find someone you lust after and keep it to yourself. Then you can smile all day long and he will be none the wiser.

OP here. I agree with this. I am playing the long game. He thinks I am interested in reconciling. We have our nice talks and talk about the future going forward. He is being super nice and caring. But I know it is all BS. He is a selfish entitled man child and no longer the person I fell in love with. He is scared to death to look bad in front of his kids, friends, and colleagues and losing a big chunk of money. It is going to be fun exposing him for the fraud that he is.

Here’s the thing. It can be fun and cathartic to think about “exposing” him to everyone, but I’d advise you to think long and hard about the actual implications of that. First of all none of his coworkers will care, unless he had an affair with someone he supervises, and even then - would you want to risk him losing his job and your kids’ financial security? Friends don’t want to know the details of your marriage and they might wind up judging YOU. You really open yourself up to criticism or the sad truth that no one really cares as much as you do. Telling your kids is a stupid idea for obvious reasons.

It just isn’t going to be the big blowup you imagine where you look like the good one.

Totally agree with this. One of my business partners ex wife sent a company wide email about his cheating and the universal consensus was she looked crazy and it created a bit of empathy for him

This and the previous post are definitely written by men. You already think women are crazy to justify the sh*tty way you treat women. After I take at least half of what we have I and the kids will be able to live comfortably for the rest of our lives. If he losses the ability to earn more so be it. That will affect him and his ego more than us. I think it is important the kids understand what a fraud their father is. They are old enough to understand.

He isn’t a fraud. He lost interest in you. Go ahead and make your kids miserable in the interest of justice!

I am fine with the fact that he lost interest in me. Instead of being a little boy he could have done the family the decency of owning that fact that he was not interested in me and we could have worked things out amicably. But since he could not find his big boy pants he now has to face the consequences. My kids will understand this. They are old enough.

Good luck! I posted originally and I’m just telling you from experience (and yes, I’m a woman) that no one really cares. He’s not a murderer. Affairs are very, very common. Might there be some initial embarrassment for him, sure, but again most people don’t care and some people will also judge YOU. There is no reveal that is going to satisfy your fantasy of coming out ahead here somehow.

What do you hope to achieve by the kids knowing? Do you think that the world is so black and white that they will hate him without reservation and you’ll be the “good” parent? The “winner”? It just doesn’t work that way.