Sleeping in his own bed! But I’m sad.

[Anonymous]

geeez, this thread turned bitter and toxic. yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS is 7. I don't snuggle in his bed all that often but I do sit in his room while he falls asleep. We snuggle on the couch and read together. I love the snuggles.

I am glad that he is in his own bed. We went on a backpacking trip this summer and DS slept between DH and I. DH and I both ended up pushed against the side of the tent as our child moved around all night, to include sleeping on both of our air mattresses. I love him to death but he is not easy to share a sleeping space with.

At 7?

Why?

Because he asks me to. Because it is 30 minutes a night and it makes him feel a bit more secure, less lonely. Because one day he is not going to ask me to stay with him and that will be just fine. Because it is better then having him come and crawl into the bed in the middle of the night like some of my friends 7 year olds do.

As someone who had sleep anxieties as a kid, I'd work on other ways that allow your son to feel secure falling asleep without you. These types of things don't often go away on their own and while he may one day not "need" you to (or be too embarrassed to have you) stay in his room he may still not have learned healthy coping skills that enable him to sleep well. I personally regret not working on that earlier myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS is 7. I don't snuggle in his bed all that often but I do sit in his room while he falls asleep. We snuggle on the couch and read together. I love the snuggles.

I am glad that he is in his own bed. We went on a backpacking trip this summer and DS slept between DH and I. DH and I both ended up pushed against the side of the tent as our child moved around all night, to include sleeping on both of our air mattresses. I love him to death but he is not easy to share a sleeping space with.

At 7?

Why?

Because he asks me to. Because it is 30 minutes a night and it makes him feel a bit more secure, less lonely. Because one day he is not going to ask me to stay with him and that will be just fine. Because it is better then having him come and crawl into the bed in the middle of the night like some of my friends 7 year olds do.

As someone who had sleep anxieties as a kid, I'd work on other ways that allow your son to feel secure falling asleep without you. These types of things don't often go away on their own and while he may one day not "need" you to (or be too embarrassed to have you) stay in his room he may still not have learned healthy coping skills that enable him to sleep well. I personally regret not working on that earlier myself.

Thanks, I had not thought down those lines. There are nights I don't stay in his room and he falls asleep fine. But if he asks and I can, I don't see a problem with it. But I will try and keep better track of when he is asking and see if there is something going on.