There’s nothing wrong with triplets in junior high school showering together in the morning to save

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Anonymous wrote:I find it odd but Europeans are different than Americans. I worked as a nanny in London years ago and I was shocked when the mom told me to use the same bathwater for all 3 kids and then mentioned I should use it too. WTH? These were very well off Londoners.

Sorry if I wasn't clear. My sister, an American, is currently in Europe as a visitor for work. I am taking care of her American boys, here in America, while she's gone.

But hot water heaters in Europe aren't as good as they are here so it doesn't matter what nationality they are. Lack of unlimited hot water is the issue.

You are truly too stupid for words.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it odd but Europeans are different than Americans. I worked as a nanny in London years ago and I was shocked when the mom told me to use the same bathwater for all 3 kids and then mentioned I should use it too. WTH? These were very well off Londoners.

Sorry if I wasn't clear. My sister, an American, is currently in Europe as a visitor for work. I am taking care of her American boys, here in America, while she's gone.

But hot water heaters in Europe aren't as good as they are here so it doesn't matter what nationality they are. Lack of unlimited hot water is the issue.

You are truly too stupid for words.

I’m stupid? Have you lived in Europe? Well I have and I think I know what I’m talking about. On a side note, your racist attitude toward Europeans is disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it odd but Europeans are different than Americans. I worked as a nanny in London years ago and I was shocked when the mom told me to use the same bathwater for all 3 kids and then mentioned I should use it too. WTH? These were very well off Londoners.

Sorry if I wasn't clear. My sister, an American, is currently in Europe as a visitor for work. I am taking care of her American boys, here in America, while she's gone.

But hot water heaters in Europe aren't as good as they are here so it doesn't matter what nationality they are. Lack of unlimited hot water is the issue.

You are truly too stupid for words.

I’m stupid? Have you lived in Europe? Well I have and I think I know what I’m talking about. On a side note, your racist attitude toward Europeans is disgusting.

This is brilliant satire. Bravo, PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is weird. Tell them to each shower on their own at your house.

I said it is weird but it is very different if they are 11 vs 13. At 13 it is weird. At 11, not so weird. How old are they, OP?

They are 12 and going to be in 7th grade.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is weird. Tell them to each shower on their own at your house.

I said it is weird but it is very different if they are 11 vs 13. At 13 it is weird. At 11, not so weird. How old are they, OP?

They are 12 and going to be in 7th grade.

No way they are peacefully showering together in a manner that saves time. I imagine time and hot water wasted during horseplay if not actual fighting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Showering together not weird —though you have a mighty big shower.

Shampooing each other makes you sound like a troll.

Bingo. Troll alert.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is weird. Tell them to each shower on their own at your house.

I said it is weird but it is very different if they are 11 vs 13. At 13 it is weird. At 11, not so weird. How old are they, OP?

They are 12 and going to be in 7th grade.

Weird.

I have a 13-year old son (going into 8th) and an 11-year old son (going into 6th). They took baths together as young kids—but have not done that in years. They would think it was weird if somebody told them to jump in together to save time. Instead I will say “don’t take a long shower, it’s late, your brother has to take his next).

As teens, my siblings and I knew the last to shower would not have hot water so made it a point to beat one another to the shower. We did not ever shower together at that age.

Unless they have double shower heads that scenario makes zero sense because somebody is always cold when not under the shower head.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister is in Europe for work, and I’m taking care of her boys. They are good kids, but I found it weird that they showered together, and even shampooed each other! Are multiples supposed to be this close?

By middle school age, kids usually would be starting to want more privacy than this. I agree with you that it seems not quite age-appropriate since by MS age most kids tend to get leery of being naked around others (yes, even in sports locker rooms, in some kids' cases--each kid is different). Maybe they just aren't there yet in terms of maturing into wanting privacy. And if they've always done this they likely think it's what everyone does.

But it's not your role as aunt/kid-sitter to tell the boys this or to judge your sister for allowing it.

If they're still doing it in high school...Yeah, that's a lot of togetherness. Not necessarily icky but lacking in a sense of privacy that would seem natural in the teen years.

I don’t think you can expect triplets to have the same sense of privacy around each other that they would about strangers in a locker room.

But at what point should they be encouraged to separate? They do need to learn privacy even around each other, at some point. Unless you think that being triplets makes it fine for them to shower together until they leave for college--? I'm sure you'll say it's all fine, nothing untoward is going on, posters here have sick minds, triplets have a special bond since they were in utero (as another PP put it), etc. etc. I just wonder whether they need to be taught soon that it's simply time to give each other more space. It's normal for siblings to start wanting and giving space as they get older. Even triplets or twins.

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This is one of the strangest posts I’ve read in awhile. Absolutely not normal for preteens/teens like that to be showing together, especially boys. Kids showing in a gym class is totally different, no one’s having anything close to body contact like in a home shower. Sorry but super creepy.

[Anonymous]

Dear Aunt,
How the f#ck do you know who is shampooing who?
No really. How?
This post is super messed up...
And can we revisit one of the fist posts where a nanny was asked to do this for her three charges, AND THEN USE THE SAME WATER FOR HERSELF.
WTF

[Anonymous]

It’s weird. Tell your sister when she gets home that it’s time to stop treating them like they are 3. Don’t shame them but sheesh that is some weird shit at that age.

[Anonymous]

If all same gender I think it's fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the strangest posts I’ve read in awhile. Absolutely not normal for preteens/teens like that to be showing together, especially boys. Kids showing in a gym class is totally different, no one’s having anything close to body contact like in a home shower. Sorry but super creepy.

Well, apparently it's normal for her three kids to shower together. Whether or not it's normal within the wider population of triplets, I would have no idea. But if their family is ok with it, that's that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of the strangest posts I’ve read in awhile. Absolutely not normal for preteens/teens like that to be showing together, especially boys. Kids showing in a gym class is totally different, no one’s having anything close to body contact like in a home shower. Sorry but super creepy.

Well, apparently it's normal for her three kids to shower together. Whether or not it's normal within the wider population of triplets, I would have no idea. But if their family is ok with it, that's that.

Not sure that’s the rule on really odd behavior.

[Anonymous]

Not weird. We’re French. My two kids use the shower at the same time as well. Boy /girl. I think it’s weird some people are so hung up on nudity and stuff.