For those who have part time help...

[Anonymous]

This is a hard one for all the reasons mentioned. Hugs mom because it sounds like you have much on your plate.

I used to teach years ago, and one of my students had an ongoing medical concern. 2-3 days a week, a driver would come to receive the child on behalf of the parents for transfer to an HHA (Home Health Aide).

If you could work out a carpool with another parent, a part-time HHA could be a reasonable consideration. Your child could be dropped off ( creating less of a burden on a fellow parent) to the HHA.

[Anonymous]

PP here, Reputable HHA companies also conduct background checks and plan for substitutes ( reliability ). There are many good ones in the area, and can be reasonable based on the level of your son's special need.

You may need to pre-prepare dinner, however. HHA's many times are certified to administer medications ( if that is necessary) or follow prescribed learning plans for basic life skills and self care.

There may be some good advice on the special needs forum as well regarding parent respite time.

Hugs and good luck

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the laugh! $15/ he for babysitting and house cleaning. You will not be able to find someone for $15/hr just for babysitting for the few hours you need!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op do you know any sahms that might need the extra money that live close to you?

I agree with others that its hard to find someone to work those hours. We lucked out though and a friend does it for us. We need childcare 2 days a week from 345-630. We asked a sahm who has a son the same age as our DD and she does it for us. She picks them both up from same school and takes them to her house. DD has dinner with her family.
We pay $30 so just under $15 an hour. BUT she has 2 of her own kids so sometimes DD has to go to their sport practices etc or run errands with her, I am fine will all this and I do have to pick DD up from her house, I like the fact she has dinner though before I get home.

In less you know someone interested please don't do this. For most of us, it wouldn't be worth it 2 days a week and we'd feel uncomfortable saying no. I don't want to shag and entertain/feed them and change my schedule. I've done it no pay and really felt imposed on. $30 a day isn't worth it in less someone needs the money. Especially when someone like this poster expects dinner included.

+1000 I didn’t leave my job to take care of other people’s children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our DC is in pre-K 4 until 3 pm daily and then gets bussed - currently we pay $800/mo for aftercare at a place that is comfortable and familiar to him. I pick him up at 6. He has some special needs (that require extra tutoring and therapy- no behavior or life skills issues) and my DH has some medical limitations, and I’m so tired doing it all. I was doing the math and thinking we could afford to pay someone $15/hour or so to meet DS when he gets home and stay until six pm (so 3-6 pm). That person could do some housekeeping. So I guess a housekeeper/babysitting situation. The thing is, we cannot afford to pay a lot, and I’m worried that because of that the person won’t be reliable. And since that person would be meeting my child after school I would need them to be extremely reliable. I’ve never employed someone like this in such a way that I count on them. I’m used to daycare- always reliable minus the random snow day etc. This seems like so much trust to put in one person. I’d appreciate your thoughts on whether this sounds like a bad idea. I think we could probably bump up to $1000/mo if we cut expenses elsewhere.

We pay $25/ hr for this time slot and she doesn’t do any housekeeping during that time, she makes a healthy snack and takes them to the playground orbplaydates or gives them a bath. Anyone who is good will have their pick and won’t have to do housekeeping for such a small amount of hours.