Missing first week of school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my DD started K, back when the start was before Labor Day, she missed the Friday before and Tuesday after Labor Day for my brother's out of town wedding. So she went to school Mon-Thurs of the first week, then missed two days, then was back for Wed-Fri of the second week. It worked out fine.

Actually the same thing happened the next year when my cousin got married Labor Day weekend out west. Maybe for my brother's she only missed Friday and for the cousin she missed Friday and Tuesday. Either way, it worked out fine, but it wasn't the whole week and it was for events that we didn't have control over scheduling.

Your brother's wedding? Fine. Your cousin's wedding? You should have gone solo and left DH at home to get the kids to school. So dumb.

You're the self-appointed arbiter of family wedding attendance decisions for anonymous DCUM posters?

Yes. Do you have any other questions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my DD started K, back when the start was before Labor Day, she missed the Friday before and Tuesday after Labor Day for my brother's out of town wedding. So she went to school Mon-Thurs of the first week, then missed two days, then was back for Wed-Fri of the second week. It worked out fine.

Actually the same thing happened the next year when my cousin got married Labor Day weekend out west. Maybe for my brother's she only missed Friday and for the cousin she missed Friday and Tuesday. Either way, it worked out fine, but it wasn't the whole week and it was for events that we didn't have control over scheduling.

Your brother's wedding? Fine. Your cousin's wedding? You should have gone solo and left DH at home to get the kids to school. So dumb.

You're the self-appointed arbiter of family wedding attendance decisions for anonymous DCUM posters?

Yes. Do you have any other questions?

Well, if it makes you feel any better, we didn't take my kids to Hawaii for my other cousin's wedding a year and a half later. The kids were flower girls at both weddings that we missed school to attend. Honestly, if I had it to do over I might not have taken them to the Colorado one because even with missing a couple days of school we didn't have time to adjust to the altitude and were all sick during the trip. It was hectic and possibly not worth it. I do remember how happy I was to land in DC after that weekend and breathe in the hot swampy air of our Nation's Capital. Ah, home again!

[Anonymous]

It sends a bad message. School is school; it's not a profession with vacation days from September through June.

Plus, it's rude to the teacher, as s/he will be responsible for revisiting basic procedures for and (quite possibly) giving pre-assessments to one child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A school is a community. What a terrible message, that your vacation is more important than education and community. You have MONTHS to take a summer vacation.

It's one thing to take an extra day or mayyyybe two after school begins and at least you're in the groove. But what a horrible way to start things off with a new teacher and new classmates. The whole first WEEK?

Hmm. McJudgypants, perhaps you could reframe this. It's OK to say that the health of your family and each individual in it is more important than school or the broader community. I would absolutely miss school for a large family event. Or even if I thought my family needed down time together. There are many reasons why this might be important. For example, my DH travels extensively for work and the kids might not see him for months at a time. Our vacation may be much more important to keeping our family together, which is the foundation of everything else -- school and broader community.

A vacation keeps your family together?

lol

If your husband travels extensively, a one or two-week vacation isn't necessarily enough quality time to catch up on milestones or significant events he missed. That's an excuse.

In these cases, if you're the primary caretaker, your husband, who's the provider (correct?), has to suck it up, knowing that his role is minimal in rearing the kids.

It simply is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many people miss the first week of school due to travel? Does a lot happen that first week?

You mean starting school Sept. 9th? Why, it's already a late start.

[Anonymous]

I'm with the other teacher PP on this board. I have enough kids to take care of who do attend school on time. No way do I extend myself for these entitled, crappy "parents."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher I would never go the extra mile for a kid whose parents deliberately made them miss the first week of school. Let the parents take the burden.

What a great teacher you are, to punish a CHILD for a decision they had zero control over, a decision squarely made by the parents.

WOW. Go complain some more about your salary and benefits. With your attitude, I hope you find zero support from parents, colleagues, administrators and the state. Let YOU take the burden.

I'm a teacher, and I agree with the first PP.

Let the parents deal with their child's missed work. Maybe next time the parents won't be as entitled, and the'll put more emphasis school attendance.

I am NOT your child's personal tutor. You want one? Go pay for one.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t punish the child, but this is why teachers should feel guilty about taking mental health or personal days off

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher I would never go the extra mile for a kid whose parents deliberately made them miss the first week of school. Let the parents take the burden.

What a great teacher you are, to punish a CHILD for a decision they had zero control over, a decision squarely made by the parents.

WOW. Go complain some more about your salary and benefits. With your attitude, I hope you find zero support from parents, colleagues, administrators and the state. Let YOU take the burden.

I'm a teacher, and I agree with the first PP.

Let the parents deal with their child's missed work. Maybe next time the parents won't be as entitled, and the'll put more emphasis school attendance.

I am NOT your child's personal tutor. You want one? Go pay for one.

Missed work? In the first week of first/second grade? The first week is mostly learning class rules and routines (which is why it’s better not to miss) but the teacher is only going to suffer him/herself if unwilling to get the kid up to speed on classroom routines and expectations. I understand about missed work if it’s AP US History or something, but most first graders can miss a week without missing any key concepts that won’t be taught again a few times before 6th grade.