Gosh- they are acting like they are the first parents to have a baby.
I agree with pp’s above- meal trains should be for those who are ill or injured- not new parents of a newborn baby!!! My DH and I brought home preemie twins from the hospital with no help for meals. You know what we ate? Lots and lots of Mac and cheese frozen dinners and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. You find a way to survive. |
They can ask...people don't have to give. You do you.
I am a person who will always give to people but I don't want anything in return. Needing help means you are in a state of dysfunction and I pray that I am never in need and always in a position to give. |
Why did you do that? Do you really think that’s the best diet for a nursing mom of twins? Why not just ask people for a little help? |
Yes, so would I. This why I rarely participate in meal trains, and also why I would never ask for one. |
Oh but that would be straying from the path of mommy martyrdom ![]() |
Why do millenials need help? Their mothers didn't. Neither did their grandmothers. And their husbands weren't helpful. Dads these days should know how to cook and clean. |
I can only assume that you are asking about why millennials save premie newborn twins when their mothers and grandmothers generations likely would have let them die. Because women supporting new mothers immediately after birth is nothing new. And I can only assume the reason is that the lives of the babies seem important to the medical personnel and the new parents caring for them. |
They had a baby. This is not a crisis. With babies, you can plan ahead and feeeze meals. I cooked ahead before my surgeries and froze food. |
I didn't they were from elevation burger. I could have dropped off chinese. Lots of parents do takeout, but the goal is home cooked. |
Why do millenials need help? Their mothers didn't. Neither did their grandmothers. And their husbands weren't helpful. Dads these days should know how to cook and clean.
Disagree. Many families lived within the same neighborhoods and included extended family. Previous generations had a lot of help from family. I would never turn people away if they feel the need to help, but would thank them for the offers and gently decline. Too complicated with extras in the mix. DH and I (and now teen) are a well oiled machine. |
I know it is kind to return any food containers to the person who provided the food to you with cookies or some sort of in-kind edible gesture once things settle down. On one hand I like the idea of this but on the other it makes me want to decline anyone from bringing us meals as it just creates more work down the line. |
Insufferable. I don’t do meal trains for people with newborns. Too many special requests etc. plus they had plenty of time to prepare because they l we the baby was coming. If someone does it’s a different story. |
Did I miss where it said she was nursing? |
NP, but even if she was, it sounds high in calories enough for her nutritional requirements. Oh, but that's not what you meant, did you? You were trying to shame her. |
They had help. I'm the mom of a little one, but also have a millenial ds and some gen-z kids. So with my older kids, it was before most folks had the internet at home. And no smartphones. The 'meal train' was a paper signup on the bulletin board at church, or preschool, or whereever. But it existed. I'm happy to help new moms with a meal-and I'm grateful for those who helped me. I will say though...I've never seen any bizarre requests like the one in OP's post! I wouldn't know what to give those people-a box of air??? lol |