Subtle signs someone is a well adjusted adult

[Anonymous]

They don’t have drama following them everywhere. People who are well-adjusted have decent romantic relationships, decent relationships with their children - especially adult children, decent relationships with their family members, friends, coworkers, bosses, etc. Nothing is perfect, of course, and there’s always going to be some trouble. But when you have a person who’s ALWAYS getting in fights with their SO and then making up 2 days later like nothing happened then another blowout fight then back to normal - and it’s like that with their kids/boss/family/friends too - it’s their problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They don’t have drama following them everywhere. People who are well-adjusted have decent romantic relationships, decent relationships with their children - especially adult children, decent relationships with their family members, friends, coworkers, bosses, etc. Nothing is perfect, of course, and there’s always going to be some trouble. But when you have a person who’s ALWAYS getting in fights with their SO and then making up 2 days later like nothing happened then another blowout fight then back to normal - and it’s like that with their kids/boss/family/friends too - it’s their problem.

Agreed. Drama following means drama within.

Also, ability to accept fault and responsibility.

Maintenance of long-term relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They don’t gossip or speak badly of other people.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don’t have drama following them everywhere. People who are well-adjusted have decent romantic relationships, decent relationships with their children - especially adult children, decent relationships with their family members, friends, coworkers, bosses, etc. Nothing is perfect, of course, and there’s always going to be some trouble. But when you have a person who’s ALWAYS getting in fights with their SO and then making up 2 days later like nothing happened then another blowout fight then back to normal - and it’s like that with their kids/boss/family/friends too - it’s their problem.

Agreed. Drama following means drama within.

Also, ability to accept fault and responsibility.

Maintenance of long-term relationships.

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If someone's "friends" are only (not admittedly) there for the gossip, or mistreatment of others, that is not a healthy dynamic. That is not a healthy person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't need constant attention and validation.

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Or followers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They understand that life happens and they don’t fall apart when it does.

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They are strong, not the victim, able to move upward and onward without a flinch. Does not make matters about them, does not work to make themselves the center of attention (whilst making it look like what they are doing is benefitting other people - the focus on them is what matters to a narcissist). Does not go into PR mode when something happens to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:oh my gosh this gave me a nice boost this morning. I do basically all of these things. Except for reading the list. on this website. which maybe negates them.

I"ve become acutely aware recently about the "gossip" one and whether a story or anecdote I am preparing to tell could be considered "gossip". I also recently have become aware about when what I'm being told is "gossip" and gently avoid listening. I realize now that the 3rd hand story about why my cousin in a state down south supposedly got divorced was gossip, had no bearing on my life why I would need to know details, and was none of my business. And it came from my mom. Sigh.

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You seem like a mature (and well adjusted!) adult with a busy life that has no time for toxic. You have a worthwhile life, you have done better than most.