Really funny relationship wife, husband, family dog.

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Anonymous wrote:Not funny. Kids and wife are responsible for the dog, they are the ones who wanted the dog, even though they live in an apartment. Dad probably knows he is lazy / tired and didn't want the work of the dog in the first place.

+1 We were in the same situation but it was me (a DW) that refused to agree to a dog. When the oldest was about 10, I agreed because they kids were then old enough to take primary responsibility for the dog and I would only be 'back up'. That was 7 years ago and it's worked out really well. Kids still are primary caregivers of the dog because I enforce the agreement.

I'm impressed with you, pp. I was the pp who only agrees to a dog I'm willing to take care of because I figured that even if dd said she would take care of it, I'd be the one who would have to nag her. Sounds like you figured out a way to insist the kids do it without driving you crazy overseeing it.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm generally not a fan of anything in a relationship where one partner is not willing to step up if the other is struggling. My job is to make dinner but if I'm sick DH does it. I can see the dog falling mainly to the wife but if the husband refuses to ever do anything for the dog on principal he's being a jerk. Being part of a household means being part of a household.

Yeah, it is like if a husband does not want to go on vacation, nobody goes?
If a husband does not approve anything, then the rest of the family has to suffer?

How about turning the tables?

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Anonymous wrote:Hire a dog walker

Get a new husband

+ 11000

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Anonymous wrote:I'm generally not a fan of anything in a relationship where one partner is not willing to step up if the other is struggling. My job is to make dinner but if I'm sick DH does it. I can see the dog falling mainly to the wife but if the husband refuses to ever do anything for the dog on principal he's being a jerk. Being part of a household means being part of a household.

Yeah, it is like if a husband does not want to go on vacation, nobody goes?
If a husband does not approve anything, then the rest of the family has to suffer?

How about turning the tables?

No. It's like if the husband doesn't want to go, the wife and children GO WITHOUT HIM. If they want a dog, they TAKE CARE OF IT WITHOUT HIM. See how those are the same?
How are they 'suffering' by choosing to sign up for something that is THEIR responsibility, and then crying when he does exactly what he signed up for: nothing?

It's more like if a wife decided that the family vacation was to go to KidsHaveFunWorld, because the kids want to and she thinks it would be fun, and the husband says no because he'd like to have fun too, how about they go somewhere else, and she pushes and pushes and finally he says, FINE, and then when they go she doesn't understand why he isn't having fun with them?!?!

Again: Two yesses or it's no. If you don't like 'no', either do it yourself or divorce.

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I'm waiting for the funny punchline. Maybe it's "I'm the 10 year old daughter in this family, don't I write well for a 4th grader?"

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OP here, That is really funny So many people so many opinions. One better then the other. I thought that I might suggest something to help but I see that this could do more harm then good for that family so best if they sort it out themselves.

I personally would opt for just getting a dog walker for the times the wife can not take dog out till kids will be old enough. I know that the kids wanted to do it already but there has been quite few cases in the area when a child could not control a dog and either the dog bit someone, or a dog got into a fight and there were people bit when they tried to separate them or in one case, a stray dog came out of nowhere and attacked a child and the dog and it was very dangerous if not for the neighbors so it seems that kids taking dog alone thing will have to wait till they are truly mature and strong.

Thanks everyone. It was interesting exchange.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm waiting for the funny punchline. Maybe it's "I'm the 10 year old daughter in this family, don't I write well for a 4th grader?"

So you are saying that if someone is a dyslexic and come from different country they should be stomped on the DCUM for your viewing pleasures. That one big tolerant buddy you are. Hugs to you