Is it ok to accept an expensive car from the in-law?

[Anonymous]

Hells to the yes, it's ok. Enjoy the car. It will make him happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d be more concerned about how my DH felt about it. Is it emasculating he cannot buy you such things?

The flip side is DH lacks ambition and drive, his parents provide all he needs or wants. That is bad.

OP here. My DH and I are recent college graduates and although we make ok money, DH is not in the position to buy me a Benz GLE class nor I wanted him to. I have known my DH and SIL since middle school. All three of us volunteered at the church food bank on weekends for almost five years. SIL is my BFF even though we attended different schools. Both of my SIL and DH attended expensive private schools while I attended public school on reduced lunch and raised by a single mom.

My FIL is a very wealthy but also a wonderful and generous person. My FIL already paid for our wedding, honeymoon, let us stay at one of his condo properties rent free, and paid off my student loans. I don't want him to feel that I am taking advantage of the situation. I just don't think I need to drive the car that expensive. I talked to both my DH and SIL about this and they said that's what I should expect from my FIL. He loves their spouses like his own children. My FIL will take care of the car insurance and maintenance too. He wants DH and I to save money for a house down payment.

I am very grateful for everything that my FIL has done for me and DH but an expensive car is over the top for me. Or maybe I am over analyzing the situation, accept the gift and be grateful that I have a FIL who loves me like his own children.

[Anonymous]

Its purchased. Take it, say thank you, write a lovely thank you note and enjoy.

[Anonymous]

This is "The Hangover". Take it and drive it to Vegas.

[Anonymous]

So, this just sounds really lovely and lucky, personally I think he should have given you the money he spent on a car towards your down payment and maybe bought you a new Honda Civic when your current car hits 10 years old, but I’m not into flashy cars

[Anonymous]

He sounds amazing. Please accept his generousisity.

[Anonymous]

I would say it’s probably ok because you’ve been a family friend for ages. He’s thrilled his son married you. Accept and thank him profusely.

[Anonymous]

Humblebrag alert

[Anonymous]

Is your FIL also going to pay for maintenance and repairs? Maintenance on that car is going to cost a lot more than you’re paying on your Toyota. But I think it’s nice that he bought it for you.

[Anonymous]

Google “oil change costs for Mercedes GLE.” You can’t take it to Jiffy Lube and you are going to pay a premium.

[Anonymous]

If you respect and like your FIL generally, feel that he is an honest and moral person, and if you like the car itself, then, take it.

If not, then find some excuse.